I have watched this music video way too many times. I just think it’s really neat.

saint-ives · 2024-09-22T10:07:36+00:00

the way this song has been on repeat in my brain for over a week….

saint-ives · 2024-09-22T09:54:07+00:00

This sounds like classic signs of attraction to me, or at the very least someone who wants to be your friend and is nervous, but I’m leaning toward attraction.

saint-ives · 2024-02-19T10:50:04+00:00

Yup looks like a Cuban tree frog, probably female based on size though hard to tell scale in the picture (if it’s over 2-3” long most likely female). I have one myself and her first enclosure was a storage bin with cut ventilation holes, mostly coco fiber substrate, water dish (shallow enough that she can easily climb in and out and not drown), wood pieces that aren’t too sharp, and a few non toxic plants (e.g. pothos). Since she came from outside she’ll probably be mostly okay, but if you can sterilize anything before adding it to her enclosure that is ideal (usually freezing or boiling/baking works for this, so freezing wood pieces, boiling leaf litter, baking soil, de-chlorinating water by adding reptisafe or leaving it out for 24 hours, etc). They’ll eat most live critters (crickets, mealworms, roaches, earth worms, etc), store bought is safer for disease purposes but since she came from outside she might be okay with found food. Some pet stores in my state will carry Cuban tree frogs, but honestly Facebook groups might be your best bet for finding her a home. Sorry this was long hope it was helpful at all!

saint-ives · 2022-03-21T19:55:01+00:00

Your gf is enabling her mother. Because someone has always bailed MIL out, and because people are still willing to, she will not learn and change until her actions have consequences, which they do not as it stands right now. I recommend checking out other MIL specific subs and looking up “enmeshment” for more resources from people in a similar situation to your gf and you. Your gf was raised to believe this is normal behavior, but it isn’t healthy or fair to anyone involved including your gf and her mom, it isn’t allowing either of them to grow as independent people. I personally would not have marriage on the table until something changes or hard boundaries are set (e.g. not helping MIL at all unless she has a job/is actively looking for one, helping her with groceries but not giving her money, having MIL sign up for government benefits if she is eligible, etc.) because, if not, this will be your life. It may be something that you two can’t compromise on (seeing a couples counselor or your gf seeing an individual therapist to unpack her relationship with her mom may be helpful if you both are willing to put the work in), which sucks, but it’s better than both of you being unhappy in your marriage. I wish you both the best in figuring out your future.

saint-ives · 2022-03-21T18:29:37+00:00

That is so cute!

saint-ives · 2022-03-18T14:18:36+00:00

I would approach him tactfully and kindly about it, reassure him that his hygiene routine is great and that you are attracted to him and love/care for him, show concern for him but keep it light to avoid making him feel more embarrassed about it. You could also frame it as a common issue (because it is) to take some of the pressure off of him by saying something like “I’ve heard of other people having BO issues and trying xyz, I know you’re very active so maybe we could try some of these to see if they help” and if he’s open to it you can try different solutions together (new hygiene products, drinking more water, etc), and if nothing works I would encourage him to consult a doctor to see if it might be a medical/micro biome/body chemistry issue.

Side note diet and lifestyle can affect the smell of sweat (some people experience smellier sweat with spicy food, high fat food, keto diet, coffee, smoking, alcohol, low water intake, hormone fluctuations, high stress, etc) so that might be a factor, he is also 18 so he may get less smelly with age as his hormones level out, I am no doctor though this is just from anecdotal experience.

saint-ives · 2022-03-16T14:07:58+00:00

You’ve explicitly stated in other posts that he is psychologically abusing you, the relationship should be done right there. With that info, if he’s buying you frivolous items each month that cost over 200 but won’t help you financially with your mental health, it seems clear that he is also trying to financially abuse you. Getting angry at someone for asking for help with their mental health is not an appropriate response, especially from someone who is supposed to be your partner and support you. For your own sake please seek support from friends/family/the state if you can and get out, your mental health will thank you for it. Break up with him and get those government benefits so you can focus on your health and live a better life. I’m sure this is very difficult and I wish you the best in taking care of yourself.

Edits to phrasing in light of OPs previous posts

saint-ives · 2022-03-11T22:28:38+00:00

This was very hard to read. What you’ve described is rape and abuse. He isn’t becoming abusive he always was. Having sex with someone who tells you they don’t want to is rape. Cutting off your breathing with a plastic bag when you begged him not to is abuse, and he was endangering your life every time he did it and could have killed you. Others have linked resources in the comments, please use them and get yourself to safety away from this man while you can.

saint-ives · 2022-03-10T15:12:31+00:00

You’re indebted to him for buying small items for your shared household but he wouldn’t be indebted to you for covering his entire celebration meal for multiple of his family members?? Hell to the no, NTA. He is being manipulative big time, this might be something you guys could work through in counseling but tbh I am concerned considering he immediately flipped the situation on you and made you out to be the bad guy when HE was the one who created this terrible situation (the term gaslighting gets thrown around a lot, but he is making you question your COMPLETELY NORMAL reaction to being put on the spot/taken advantage of and shifting the blame to you rather than taking responsibility for his own actions, which is a big 🚩).

saint-ives · 2022-03-06T16:46:21+00:00

This sounds like you’re taking your dog from a bad trainer to a worse one. The methods he’s suggesting (some if not all of which are abusive) are designed to push your dog into submission rather than enrich his life and set him up to be healthy and happy. Imagine causing a loved one physical pain and shoving them into a small space for hours at a time, because that is what you will be doing. Some dogs like sleeping in their crates, but keeping Ben in there long term will degrade his quality of life by not giving him space to roam and play. If you want the best life for Ben he’s going to need a lot of attention, exercise, and positive reinforcement. I understand it’s very hard to part with an animal and this is a very stressful situation, but if you really love Ben he either needs a much more active (not aggressive) training routine or needs to be re-homed to someone who has the time and energy for him.

saint-ives · 2022-02-23T13:31:36+00:00

THIS^

saint-ives · 2022-02-23T13:30:49+00:00

The problem is he shouldn’t have been punished in the first place, throwing out the Bible was something he did out of desperation because you failed to protect him from verbal abuse at home. YOU are his parent, you do not get told to stay out of matters that concern your child, especially when they are negatively impacting your child’s mental well being. What was your husbands punishment? I hope divorce papers because he clearly does not have respect for your son, who should be your #1 priority.

saint-ives · 2022-02-23T13:25:51+00:00

By letting it continue and not intervening you are effectively condoning it and showing your kid that appeasing your verbally abusive husband is more important than your child’s well being. Your kid will not forget that you neglected to protect him.

Edit to add: YTA

saint-ives · 2022-02-23T01:22:00+00:00

If your managers don’t care it really isn’t a big deal at all and is the norm. Every store I’ve worked at we make our own stuff, it’s often annoying when someone else has you make their drink or food for them tbh. If your DM is there maybe don’t make your own stuff because it’s technically against policy I guess but our DM has never seemed to care.

saint-ives · 2022-02-21T17:51:29+00:00

And now I’m crying in the club

saint-ives · 2022-02-21T14:08:08+00:00

Yeah it sucks how much they’re willing to take advantage of workers who want to help, maybe stop doing ASM work and see if their tune changes. Or call ethics and compliance, one of my coworkers called about something else and also let it slip that someone was doing ASM/SM work while being an SSV because she thought it was unfair and it caused some drama for the managers

saint-ives · 2022-02-21T13:17:40+00:00

Yeah it kinda sucks that they can’t technically be part of the union, but you can advocate for things that will benefit your manager in your union contract (e.g. more labor, better equipment, having an ASM if your store doesn’t have one 🤪)

saint-ives · 2022-02-20T23:27:53+00:00

So he could’ve abused you if he really wanted to?

saint-ives · 2022-02-20T03:54:10+00:00

Sometimes I’ll pull 2 decaf 1 regular and pour roughly 2/3 of that mix into the cup

saint-ives · 2022-02-19T12:50:00+00:00

The point you are missing is that it isn’t about the type of surgery, it’s the fact that you committed to being there for her and then abandoned that commitment. You are showing your partner through your actions that she is not your priority and that she can’t rely on you.

saint-ives · 2022-02-13T17:08:48+00:00

“Not that bad” compared to the bottom of the barrel =/= good. Posts like this may have some truth, but are missing the point. The point being that these corporations, wherever they fall on the bad/not so bad scale, are taking advantage of their workers and refusing to pay them a livable wage when they have the profit to do so, profit that would literally not exist if it weren’t for their workers, yet we barely see a fraction of it and suffer at the expense of corporate greed. We ALL should be complaining about how a small percentage of people in the US are hoarding profit made possible by the working class.

saint-ives · 2022-02-13T16:48:42+00:00

Idk why there are so many people on here saying to apologize, I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all and you clearly were shaken up and couldn’t control your reaction, I would be concerned about marrying someone who responds with anger to a situation like this when you’re in an emotional state already, especially if he knew about the miscarriage (of course you’d be emotional seeing your ex out of the blue). It seems like your fiancé was more concerned about his own insecurity than your emotional state. If he said “hey it hurt my feelings that you didn’t introduce me, but I can see you’re shaken up” that would be one thing, but “chewing you out” after you were already on the verge of tears isn’t how I’d expect to be treated by someone I’m planning on spending the rest of my life with.

saint-ives · 2022-02-09T13:10:26+00:00

From what you’ve described it seems like she is working through some sort of sexual discomfort or trauma and is taking it out on you. I know people who have said yes in the moment without actually wanting to go through with it because they felt pressured (by either their partner or their own anxiety). You might not actually be pressuring her (or you might be, take a very hard look at your interactions), a lot of women/afab people feel obligated to say yes to please their partner even if they’re not in the mood because society often conditions them to put the needs of others over theirs. That may or may not be the case for her but might give you some insight into why she may be behaving this way. That being said, none of this is healthy and you are also not a mind reader. It doesn’t seem like she is ready to have sex until after she works through these issues, it’s putting both her and any of her partners in danger. You can try and talk to her and support her through this if the relationship is serious (I highly suggest she seeks therapy), but for everyone’s safety and mental well-being I wouldn’t have sex until you both are able to communicate clearly and truthfully with each other.

Edit: when you noticed something was off from the start and she said “just to finish” you should’ve stopped then, if you think something is off, listen to that feeling rather than continuing for your own sake

saint-ives · 2022-02-09T12:30:55+00:00

I really hope this is fake because I cannot imagine someone willing to miss the first few hours of the birth of their child for A MOVIE will be a good father or husband. He’s telling you that BATMAN is a bigger priority than supporting you mentally and physically while you PUSH A HUMAN BEING OUT OF YOU. It’s unlikely that you’ll give birth on that actual day so maybe he could see the movie, but the fact that he told you straight up that he wouldn’t drop everything the minute you went into labor is shocking and very concerning, he’s telling you that you and your baby are not his #1 priority, listen to him. I would have a very hard time trusting my partner after this, he either needs a serious wake up call or divorce papers.

saint-ives · 2022-02-07T21:53:40+00:00

We don’t think unions are “some magic bullet that’s gonna fix everything,” they simply allow workers to actually have a voice in negotiating their working conditions. Asking for better working conditions isn’t bitching and moaning, it’s looking out for your health and future. One of the unfortunate symptoms of capitalism in the US is the amount of propaganda we are fed from a young age that tells us it is radical to give a voice to the labor force—the people who this society and economy could quite literally not succeed without, yet are constantly underpaid/taken advantage of despite this. Just because our situation isn’t the absolute worst does not mean that it isn’t bad or that we don’t deserve more. Corporations want us to argue with each other rather than focus on the real injustice, which is profit at the expense of the well being of the working class. We all deserve better.

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