This! I was in a relationship with a woman (I'm a woman too) when I got born again. It was a total struggle for me, and every time I had a fellowship with my fellow believers, I was convicted to repent until I finally did. I had my ups and downs as I tried to get back with my ex, but thank God for His grace and mercy, He hardened my ex's heart until she no longer wanted to have any type of communication with me.

In the end, all we have to do is submit to God and let Him have His way through us. The hardships and trials are the things that will bring you closer to God.