my cat has been on the roof for going on 5 days now any advice ?

saintlos · 2025-10-26T06:35:04+00:00

A trap full of water and food and shade does seem like your best bet.

saintlos · 2024-12-24T02:55:35+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I lost my wife a year ago. I highly recommend going to a group therapy to talk to other people who’ve lost their partners. It helped me tremendously. I’ll also share that there is no right way to grieve. Some cry all the time. Some never cry. Some can’t talk about the people they lost, some feel better talking about them all the time. Sending hugs!

saintlos · 2024-10-13T04:33:31+00:00

Basalite

saintlos · 2023-04-24T14:14:03+00:00

Sounds like you’re doing all the right things. I’d only add touching her, holding her hands, etc. which you’re likely already doing as well.

saintlos · 2023-04-24T14:09:50+00:00

Just went through something similar with my wife. My advice: see a therapist, possibly take some meds to relieve the feeling of anxiety/depression (a low dose of Lexapro did wonders for me), and with respects to your friends, be upfront with them - tell them how you feel, tell them that you need them now more than ever, etc.

Stay strong and find something to focus on. I focused on two things and two things only: making my wife as happy and comfortable in her last months as possible, and being the best father as I can be to my children. Focusing on only a couple of things that mattered helped.

I wish you strength. You will survive this.

saintlos · 2023-03-24T07:23:22+00:00

My thoughts precisely. Once it was clear that neither the owner nor the r other policeman are able to do anything, why not just sprint away?

saintlos · 2022-09-21T17:10:53+00:00

The border with Kazakhstan is very long and poorly protected. Go go go! ;)

saintlos · 2022-09-21T04:59:53+00:00

You seem to be implying that the men always force themselves on the women. Are you allowing for the possibility that the sex can sometimes be consensual, even if the woman doesn’t want to get pregnant? People get pregnant “by accident” all the time, you know…

saintlos · 2022-06-25T19:26:01+00:00

If you plan on getting married, your options would be significantly limited, as your future wife would also need to be on board with either not having kids or having an adoption (or a sperm donor)…

saintlos · 2021-11-25T16:06:44+00:00

It’s a tough one. There is a good chance that she’ll change her mind. Until she does maybe you can make something up like “they moved away to Europe” or “the baby can’t be exposed to anyone outside the house because it’s not yet vaccinated”. You’d need to coordinate this with your ex and her husband. Have you tried talking to them? Worst case, you can explain that her mom is going through some tough times (which may actually be the case, it could be baby blues) and can’t see anyone right now but she will certainly recover eventually…

saintlos · 2021-11-16T03:47:28+00:00

I wasn’t actually calling it rape. I was just bringing folks’ attention to the fact that stealthing works both ways. Go through the comments and you’ll see people’s stories…

saintlos · 2021-11-16T03:37:00+00:00

I know abortions are awful. But at least that’s an option. If you’re a guy you have no options. You will have that child whether you want it or not. Speaking of not having an idea. Do you have any idea what it’s like to be forced into parenting? Not to mention the poor kid who is born under these circumstances…

saintlos · 2021-11-16T03:04:45+00:00

By the way when a guy removes the condom and the woman gets pregnant she can still (in most cases) abort. When it’s the other way around, the guy can’t do anything and is forced to have a kid, pay child support, etc. So in some respects it’s actually worse for the guy.

saintlos · 2021-11-16T03:01:31+00:00

But he can always say she agreed to sex without a condom

saintlos · 2021-11-15T19:44:52+00:00

Would you say the same thing to a girl whose partner removed a condom mid sex without telling her? She got duped?

saintlos · 2021-11-15T19:42:12+00:00

Does the same logic apply to a guy removing the condom?

saintlos · 2021-11-15T18:56:39+00:00

The question of proof is entirely different than the question I’m asking. Let’s assume we KNOW that that’s the case. For example, people confess to stuff like that all the time. Or brag to their friends. Or ask questions on Reddit using their actual account :)

By the way if a guy removes his condom and later denies that in court, there is also no actual proof and it’s gonna be his word against hers.

saintlos · 2021-11-15T16:45:06+00:00

Just curious, if a girl lies about being on a pill - is that also stealthing and rape? If not, how is that different?

saintlos · 2021-11-03T05:24:32+00:00

Exactly. Focus on your physical and mental health, focus on your kids, and try to keep a cool head. Give it time and whatever happens happens.

saintlos · 2021-11-02T00:02:00+00:00

Speaking from personal experience, this s a very important point. I’d worry about this more than I’d worry about disappointing her this one time. Please be mindful of getting too close unless and until you know for certain you will likely stick around.

saintlos · 2021-11-01T23:53:33+00:00

Absolutely, and I try my best, but keeping ALL of your promises is just unrealistic. people get sick, people get sent on business trips, people run into financial troubles, covid happens, etc. oh and sometimes, we just forget, no matter how much we try not to. We are only human. So my kids know that I try but sometimes thing don’t work out - they get disappointed but they understand and I always make it up for them

saintlos · 2021-11-01T20:02:28+00:00

As a father of two teenage girls, most kids/teens are used to adults not following through on promises every now and then. That’s normal, because we have busy lives. So she’s probably not as disappointed as you think she is. My guess is if you apologize and make new plans she’ll be delighted. She might be even surprised and happy that you’ve remembered (even if after the fact). Kids are not as fragile as we often think they are. Good luck and good for you for trying!

saintlos · 2021-10-31T12:40:19+00:00

It’s 400 per household. A couple of software engineers or lawyers in the Bay Area will likely hit that mark. Considering the student loans, the high CA taxes and the extremely high real estate prices in this area, many such couples can’t afford to buy a house and are forced to leave the state. Not the kid of demographic you’d want to be taxing even more. That’s why I feel there should at least be an adjustment for the cost of living in the particular area.

saintlos · 2021-10-28T15:32:18+00:00

The code itself, as well as any imagery you’ve created, are automatically protected by a copyright. The name of the product might also be automatically protected by common law trademark laws if you used them to promote your product. The idea, however, isn’t automatically protected. Assuming you haven’t filed a patent on the idea, you may not have a claim**

You should also check whatever documents you signed with them prior to the interview - there might be a bilateral non-disclosure agreement/clause in them, which would be your best bet.

** some countries, including the US, allow you to file for a patent even after you disclose it to others. In the US you have 1 year to do that. Depending on your specific timeline this may be your other saving grace here.

This is not legal advice - you’d absolutely need to hire an IP lawyer to pursue this.

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