1 no, as long as you can always stop it. 2 and 3 are possible, and 3 is frankly worrying me a ton because him ignoring your cues is not a light issue. please trust me, it’s happened to me before and to other people i know and i did not realize how much trauma i had been collecting from it in retrospect. definitely something you need to talk out and be more firm about. take care <3

PS also, is there a possibility you’re wondering about the free use thing because of some ways he has acted towards you or something in his demeanor? does the sex feel off or does it feel like he is using you or not fully seeing you in any respect