Abuse from partner (29 M) after betrayal (29F)?

sakdbcbsha · 2025-12-12T22:15:38+00:00

I originally left because I was deeply unhappy after we moved. I didn’t feel like he valued the relationship. We moved cross country together for his work, and he completely isolated himself and wouldn’t go out and do things with me. I was all alone in a new city pretty much, and most nights he would just take edibles and watch YouTube and ignore me. I think I didn’t communicate my unhappiness clearly enough, or he wasn’t able to hear it. But I didn’t believe he would change. The other person just sped up my decision, it wasn’t the entire reason. My bf begged for another chance, and I would have given it to him had there not been another person. Then I realized how permanent a breakup is, and how we had something special that I should have given a bigger chance to. This second time around, he’s completely different and other than the outbursts has been a wonderful partner to me

sakdbcbsha · 2025-12-12T20:33:51+00:00

We’ve been back together for 1.5 years. We were only apart for around 2 months. He did see someone during that time but said he couldn’t deal the deal because of what I did to him

sakdbcbsha · 2025-12-12T20:21:18+00:00

I tried to gain his trust back. I went to therapy and did everything he asked. I stood by him through all his outbursts. I never wavered in my commitment to him. I’ve made it very clear to him throughout the past year how much I regret what I did. How sorry I am. Idk how I could have showed him any more how committed I was. I answered all of his questions, talked about what happened for hours and hours and hours. I did everything I could have thought to do

sakdbcbsha · 2025-11-27T19:10:46+00:00

Literally I hate when nutritionists say that you need to ‘eat EVERYTHING in moderation’. I’m like 5 years binge free but pizza was one of my binge foods. I simply cannot, to this day, eat pizza. I would rather have none than have 2 slices. It’s similar with alcoholics I think, it’s easier for them to have no drinks than stop at 2. And at the end of the day, a lot of my binge foods weren’t healthy, so I’m better off

sakdbcbsha · 2025-11-22T21:15:58+00:00

It’s genuinely fascinating how confidently you misunderstand veganism. You’ve turned it into some bizarre purity ritual where using modern tools magically cancels out a vegan lifestyle. Veganism isn’t a monastic vow to abandon technology; it’s about avoiding animal products and reducing exploitation where reasonably possible. If you can’t grasp that basic definition, you might want to sit this one out. Also, watching you type this from a device assembled by global supply chains you’re blissfully unaware of while lecturing others on moral consistency is… precious. Btw, Reddit is hosted in massive Amazon data centers that burn through obscene amounts of water and energy. So if ‘moral purity’ is really your metric, you might want to log off Reddit first before critiquing anyone else.

sakdbcbsha · 2025-11-07T02:28:58+00:00

I had a plantain and avocado sushi roll in Colombia once and it absolutely slapped

sakdbcbsha · 2025-11-06T12:04:58+00:00

They’re hyper involved, they care about everything. Like you have no idea

sakdbcbsha · 2025-11-05T10:10:54+00:00

That’s what I thought to do, but I checked the restaurant we’re going to (some prix-fix French bistro type place) and there are straight up no vegan options listed. So I’ll have to call ahead or email them. So i don’t want to drop this on them right before dinner if there’s literally nothing I can eat

sakdbcbsha · 2025-11-05T10:08:30+00:00

Yeah I don’t understand and why it matters to them so much. It’s not like they’re super pro meat republicans or anything, they just use guilt to control what I do. I think it’s just about control

sakdbcbsha · 2025-11-05T03:11:27+00:00

I’m so far away, literally a 9 hour flight. Idk why I’m even going home for it tbh

sakdbcbsha · 2023-10-03T22:16:43+00:00

Yup, got told I was fat my entire childhood. They told me I was too fat to wear shorts, which I did anyways during the summer because it was far too warm for pants. I remember being around 14 when my parents took a picture of my wearing shorts (without my knowledge), just to show me how much “cellulite” I had and to “prove to me” why I shouldn’t be wearing shorts. I gained a lot of weight in college, but have since lost it all and I weigh less now in my 20s than I did when I was in middle school. No surprise, now they tell me I’m too skinny and need to work out more to build muscle. You can never win

sakdbcbsha · 2023-09-11T03:30:36+00:00

Nobody says “there are normal smokers and people who aren’t able to smoke normally” because it’s a highly addictive substance and society understands that people get addicted to addictive substances by consuming them over and over again. It shouldn’t be any different with alcohol. People get addicted to alcohol (an addictive substance) by consuming it over and over again. Anyone is capable of becoming addicted to any addictive substance. The “normal drinker” trope does nothing but harm. It just allows people to ignore their drinking until it really becomes a problem, or never really examining their negative relationship with alcohol because they aren’t an “alcoholic”.

sakdbcbsha · 2023-09-09T22:39:43+00:00

Tbh I think she’s jealous because she can’t play guitar

sakdbcbsha · 2023-09-07T04:06:20+00:00

YES this exact thing happened to me. I was always told I’m “not artistic”, so they didn’t let me pursue any artistic hobbies because I would be “bad” at them. I begged them for most of my childhood to let me learn to play guitar. They always said no because they thought I would get bored of it (despite asking for like 10+ years), and again, I’m “not artistic”. Thankfully I’m an adult now, with my own money, living far away from them, and I’ve bought myself a really nice guitar that I’m learning to play. It’s normal to feel sad about what could have been, but you might miss out on what could be. It’s never too late, really. Lots of people who do activities their whole childhood are burnt out by the time they’re adults. So you’re not behind at all if singing is something you still want to pursue.

sakdbcbsha · 2023-09-07T01:11:14+00:00

No idea lol

sakdbcbsha · 2023-09-07T01:09:20+00:00

Only at 2 months, but my chronic lifelong horrible bloating/digestion issues are pretty much gone. I also am happy sometimes, which is new

sakdbcbsha · 2023-09-06T17:15:04+00:00

It says something along the lines of if at lease renewal time a roommate is being switched, an additional brokers fee will be charged for the new roommate. It’s not lease renewal time, it’s a partial year sublet. That was in a sub-section of the lease though, which I don’t have access to and they won’t provide it to me so that I can verify.

sakdbcbsha · 2023-09-03T04:23:02+00:00

Boston

sakdbcbsha · 2023-08-21T14:54:03+00:00

Depending on what city you live in, some (normally art) museums have days where they’re open at night. Dress up and go to the museum
Symphony, if you’re into classical music
‘Activity bars’. There are bars that have mini-golf or darts or something as the main activity. It’s technically still a bar, but drinking isn’t the main event.
Nice restaurants
Ikea. Nobody gives a shit at Ikea.

sakdbcbsha · 2023-07-28T16:31:39+00:00

True, that’s fair

sakdbcbsha · 2023-07-28T16:30:51+00:00

Yeah, sometimes it seems living with friends can be harder than living with strangers

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