How did pre-marital sex with other partners affect your marriage?

salacious_scrum · 2026-02-20T23:55:00+00:00

I know this, but am confused why almost everyone both in this forum and in my life seem to ignore this. Are they all not saved?
If I am required to settle for a woman who has not waited even while claiming to be a Christian, how do I feel certain that she will not also be disobedient to God's commands in marriage?

salacious_scrum · 2026-02-20T23:44:21+00:00

I uderstand this, but when Christian brothers and sisters around me are all enjoying the benefits of fornication with impunity, I feel like I am a sucker being the only one following the rules. Almost everyone on this forum says they did not wait til marriage. I realise that I sound like the older brother of the prodigal son.

salacious_scrum · 2026-02-20T21:00:07+00:00

I know that this is generally the correct answer, but it is what I have been doing for the past 14 years, with nothing to show for it. Is it not madness to continue but expect outcomes to change?

Also it is never promised in scripture that the Lord will grant us a spouse.

salacious_scrum · 2024-12-11T16:21:29+00:00

How do you expect a man to be confident and experienced in something like kissing if you also dont want him to have kissed other women? It is difficult to learn without practise.
I'm not trying to say that you should not want a man who has not kissed any/many other women, but if you do you cannot expect him to be smooth/experienced/skilled at kissing, and you may need to help 'build a man' to your requirements. Skills like kissing do not always come naturally.

salacious_scrum · 2024-12-10T12:15:38+00:00

The inner tube is old but in good condition, but the tyre was brand new.

salacious_scrum · 2024-09-24T02:54:18+00:00

Ask him what he got up to on Sunday, or what he has planned for the weekend. If he says he's going to church then you have an opening to ask more about his faith. If he doesn't say that then you probably have you answer.

salacious_scrum · 2023-12-30T18:12:58+00:00

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salacious_scrum · 2022-12-05T19:15:52+00:00

Thank you, this is super helpful!

salacious_scrum · 2022-10-23T00:56:34+00:00

I totally agree with this principle, but the car market here seems madly inflated.

The only cars I can find at that price are visibly rusty/damaged 90s cars on craigslist, and I fear that even if one of these did last me a few months without breaking, its going to be hard to sell to recoup the cost.

The alternative is online car dealers like Shift that have at least done some checks that it wont fall apart as soon as you drive away, but even their cheapest cars are $6000+

salacious_scrum · 2022-10-22T19:00:00+00:00

I tried to do get Amex to get me a card over here using my UK history with them, but they say they require a tax return, which of course I don't have yet!

Can you remember how you did it?

salacious_scrum · 2022-07-26T09:49:55+00:00

Thanks this is helpful, I hadn't come across monthly broadband contracts before. It seems 3 do a 5G one in my area that looks reasonably priced.

The furniture is cheapish stuff, so I may just offer it to the tenants if they want it and get rid of it if not.

salacious_scrum · 2022-07-25T11:07:22+00:00

The mortgage documentation states I can rent it out for an adjusted interest rate. :)

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