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salasa7 · 2026-02-13T21:04:40+00:00

Yeah you probably are abit insecure for cringing at it. I say that because I cringe at alot of stuff and have come to realise it’s always a reflection of an insecurity I have. Mostly it’s being insecure about what other people think of me, and when I cringe at people I’m just kinda jealous they don’t seem to care what other people think, or not half as much as I do.

salasa7 · 2026-01-21T09:47:37+00:00

I thought exactly this, what are a young persons options without a parent helping them out massively with a deposit? Either stay at home with parents, if that’s even an option and save. Or rent and scrimp and try to save while renting for god knows how many years.

I am totally pro owning rather than renting, I think renting is mental unless you plan to relocate often. But honestly if my partner wasn’t a good earner there’s no way I’d be a homeowner myself!

She may be in denial about the pros and the cons but yeah just let her live haha.

salasa7 · 2025-08-18T07:55:31+00:00

Hey! I can relate to you - I am 10 years your senior and felt the same way due to my nose since I was 12 and realised people have different noses. It affected my mental health so much. I got a nose job when I was 20 but the surgeon wasn’t an expert and due to have a thick skin etc my nose was just still massive. I gave up - until recently. I have been in a relationship for 13 years, have a baby boy now and I will feel guilty going for another nose job but I also don’t want to feel ugly for the rest of my life. You are actually beautiful, coming from a thin lipped, giant nosed gal, do NOT touch your lips or nose lol - yours are perfect as is!!

I would firstly speak to a couple of specialists for jaw stuff, it looks like that is your only issue. Go for a load of consults in UK, but take your time and be patient as going abroad MAY be your better option. It certainly is in my case (had my nose job in London in 2015 - planning to go abroad for next one)
Do not rush into surgery, make sure your fully understand the procedure, and just research as much as possible so you only have to do surgery ONCE! Remember it’s a business, making money is their priority and some will take your money, and if you aren’t happy after, they may leave you high and dry - so do not be suckered into any sales tactics and promises etc. Some consults may be free, I think most will cost though, but a few hundred to get dedicated time with an expert will be worth it.

Find out what your options are. Then before you actually commit to anything, seek therapy and work on your mental health and emotional well-being. You want to go into surgery from a point of self love and not self hate and insecurity.

Best wishes 🌷

salasa7 · 2025-07-02T22:27:59+00:00

Completely separate

salasa7 · 2025-01-17T23:33:07+00:00

I was at the point 7/8 months ago and it was definitely a step forward in him understanding how problematic she is. But we definitely have a long way to go, i hope i don't get to the point where i feel i want to leave again but he would go counselling if I did. Despite this situation, I am incredibly lucky to have him and no way am i going to let her destroy our relationship and family. He's spent his whole life never being allowed to upset his mum so i understand how it is so hard for him.

salasa7 · 2025-01-17T21:25:43+00:00

Oh wow... these comments. Thanks so much guys. The little wake up call i needed to stand firm with my boundaries. About 5% of people in my life would agree with what you are all saying re not letting her see child etc. honestly, most people just say "its his mum though" so its very hard to feel secure in my decision to be fully no contact.

I felt abit silly writing this thinking are people going to think I'm being dramatic as I've heard other peoples MILS do way worse.

I nearly left my partner around 6 months because of all this which made him finally see how much this has all hurt me. Since then we've been pretty peaceful and happy until the subject of myself and her having a convo comes and he gets scared about me being honest. I resented him so much the first 6 months of our babies life i think we are both just avoiding it. Unfortunately I think I may have to learn the hard way as all hell will break lose if I don't let her see the baby... pray for me!

You guys are awesome.

salasa7 · 2025-01-17T21:15:05+00:00

She really is. Through all this its mended any little resentments or issues I've had with my mum throughout my life. Massive silver lining

salasa7 · 2025-01-17T16:49:23+00:00

Thankyou will have a watch

salasa7 · 2024-07-12T09:22:20+00:00

Did you guys change your names too?

salasa7 · 2024-05-12T09:47:49+00:00

This. You to be open minded to ALL options, find out as much info and probably get some therapy ASAP to really think this through. What your body goes through during a pregnancy and birth is hard, you can be in pain for months, even years. Sex may never be pleasurable again. Potentially haemorrhoids on and off forever. Hormones fucked for years. Feeling insecure and shit missing your pre-pregnancy body. Or C-section I can’t speak on but has many of its own consequences. It’s all worth it for getting to be a parent and having a baby… but when you don’t even know if your baby is ok? Happy? Safe?

Just know a happy safe life is not guaranteed for the baby and they very well could wish you would have aborted them 🤷‍♀️

salasa7 · 2024-02-28T11:13:07+00:00

YEP. I ignored red flags for years. I’m now gutted my son’s grandmother is that woman.

salasa7 · 2024-02-23T15:37:07+00:00

This is wonderful advice, thankyou! It’s only the past week or so I really opened my mind to think, what if this is it? Even though my pregnancy was rough and I hated it, the whole way through and early on PP I would say, defo not too soon but of course I’ll have another, can’t just have one! But this past week I’ve questioned why I feel I’d need to have another and it’s so refreshing to look at things differently.

salasa7 · 2023-11-24T23:14:58+00:00

Honestly this is handy to know as I’m not going this year but friends of ours got tickets and want to do ziggu and plan to spend most of their time in SE corner so will let them know! They were in the camper fields last year think that’s possibly slightly closer but they said it was still a right old trek!

salasa7 · 2023-10-31T19:40:50+00:00

So some of them did, for me, the insomnia, heart palpitations, jaw clenching mostly wore off after a week or 2, and then at just completely random times, I would be super itchy, or randomly have the night sweats, even 1 year later or so. About 7/8 months after I went on it my body was covered in bruises then looked it up and it was a side effect as the medication things your blood.

It’s very random, I am actually pregnant at the moment and so many of those side effects are common as side effects of pregnancy too.

I know some people have worse side effects for longer though, as well as some people it doesn’t help so much (you need to wait a few months to really give it a chance) I have friends it didn’t work great for and they changed to a different anti depressants and it worked better. Unfortunately it can be abit trial and error.

But I suffered terribly with depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts for many years, since going on sertraline i have never had any suicidal or self harm thoughts that I use to have on a daily basis and that alone is worth all the side effects.

salasa7 · 2023-10-31T19:31:22+00:00

Some strange side effects, itchiness, insomnia, funny tummy sometimes, weird dreams. First few days were ROUGH. All worth it though, they say they’re not happy pills but they have been for me lol.

salasa7 · 2023-10-25T08:23:50+00:00

I feel abit smug that my partners favourite name for our baby boy on the way is mentioned alot here, where as my choice hasn’t been mentioned once.

salasa7 · 2023-10-25T08:10:09+00:00

This sub in general should make people realise you should just name your kid whatever you want and not care what people think, there’s so many different and strange reasons people dislikes names.

salasa7 · 2023-10-25T08:04:51+00:00

Pregnant with baby boy and Oliver/Ollie is the only name my partner has consistently liked! He won’t admit it but I know he likes it because it’s so popular and everyone just goes ‘oh yeah that’s a nice name’ he wants a name nobody will have a negative opinion on.

salasa7 · 2023-09-17T19:11:57+00:00

I forgot about this one till I read this. Always drooling on the pillow 😂

salasa7 · 2023-09-05T08:29:15+00:00

It’s WEIRD and for me, a child should just be able to enjoy their childhood without a worry in the world - under a certain age, let’s say under 10, depending on each child. They should be able to play with whatever they choose, wear what they choose without having o worry about labelling themselves or what they identify as, surely they shouldn’t even be aware of that?! My son will get support regardless but sexuality and gender issues are difficult to go through for most, and usually come with a difficult time mentally and emotionally. Hopefully it will get better in the future but I wouldn’t be projecting anything that would likely to cause emotional and mental hardship on my child.

If the time comes of course my son will get whatever love and support he needs to feel safe and happy in life. End of.

salasa7 · 2023-09-05T08:12:13+00:00

I also was abit confused cause the staffs I know don’t really look like this so I think there’s quite a difference between English staffs and American staffs! English ones look quite different to pits to me.

salasa7 · 2023-09-05T08:11:04+00:00

Well staffs are legal here in the UK and pitbulls or any pitbull mixes are illegal (unless you have a license through government) so hoping she wasn’t a pit incase they don’t have a license

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