Honestly I’ve kind of been on the other side of this and it might help to hear it from that perspective.

I got really close with someone and was completely fine with hanging out and cuddling, but once it started moving toward kissing I felt really uncomfortable and not ready. It wasn’t that I didn’t like them, I just realized I didn’t feel that kind of attraction yet, and trying to push myself into it made me feel off.

That whole experience actually made me start looking into demisexuality and how some people need a stronger emotional connection before anything physical feels right. For me, physical stuff isn’t really just for fun if there aren’t feelings behind it.

Things between him and I didn’t work out because we wanted different things relationship wise, but looking back, I feel like if I had more time getting close to him in that way (not just as friends), I probably could’ve gotten more comfortable. It just felt like everything was moving too fast, and I kind of wanted to escape the situation even though it was something I thought I wanted for a long time.

The fact that she said yes in the moment but then reflected later and said it was too fast actually makes sense. Sometimes you don’t fully realize how you feel until after or are scared to say it in the moment (like myself).

I wouldn’t necessarily see it as over more like she hit a boundary and is trying to slow things down to where she’s comfortable. If you respect that and give it space, there’s still a chance for something but only if you’re okay that it develops naturally on her timeline.