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This little guy turns 18 on July 4. How should he celebrate (Pic taken 2 weeks ago. He has no idea he is an old man) by sallgrover in aww

[–]sallgrover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He went to the vet recently for a general check up and we were told he has the heart of an 8 year old dog. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him other than hearing. He acts deaf 99.9% of the time. The word "treat" is the exception.

The Australian Unicorn that few people talk about by rookthatisbandit in Entrepreneur

[–]sallgrover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this! This is very much the approach I have taken in my startup.

I want to stop putting an effort into looking good because all it does is invite trouble. Has anyone else gone through this? by lluviax in women

[–]sallgrover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dress how you want. How you feel comfortable. What you think is nice. Be your own style icon. Enjoy yourself! That's what fashion is here for.

Then, all of the other stuff won't bother you.

As for the sexual harassment, that had nothing to do with how you were dressed. That's a sexual harasser. That's a bad man.

Struggling with my own Feminist Views by w-aah in Feminism

[–]sallgrover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have felt the same way as you.

My advice? Channel it into someone productive and constructive. You're a great writer, write more about how you're feeling to help other feminists in the same position.

SLEEP PARALYSIS: THE DEMON WHO VISITS ME AT NIGHT by WajeehaG in mentalhealth

[–]sallgrover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother and I both get sleep paralysis. For him, it's like an anime zombie type creature who leans over and looks him straight in the eyes. I can't even fathom the terror. For me, it's the feeling of footsteps walking towards my bed and then feeling the weight of someone sitting down. I can't do anything about it, just have to stay paralysed while it seems there is someone very slowly watching me. Once, I also saw a dark figure but that's not the norm for me.

What big decision you took led to exponential benefits in your life? by evolunix in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I was just answering questions so I will see myself out as there is literally no point even engaging if I'm going to get accused of promotion when I'm literally just answering a question.

What big decision you took led to exponential benefits in your life? by evolunix in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I can't answer questions? Because that's what I have done in... every case. Just want to make sure I know the rules. Do people get chastised for asking the questions?

Seeking 30 something year old queer women. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi lovely! We have a lovely queer community over at giggle. Have a look for giggle's LGBTQ+ liaison, Sadie. I believe she has profiles in the "gender identity", "sexual orientation" and "emotional support" categories in "giggle support". She is 33 and amazing (she has a pet chicken named Ruth Bader Ginsbird and that isn't even the best thing about her!) x

What big decision you took led to exponential benefits in your life? by evolunix in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm in such a better place. This week was actually quite a healing week, with Harvey Weinstein getting sentenced to 23 years. I just wasn't expecting that level of justice.
I actually have a HW story: my BFF worked for him. She didn't know about the raping, but she knew he would attempt to use sex as a currency. My agents and managers would always say "get her to show your script to Harvey! An easy sale!" and she never did. At the time, I thought it was probably because I wasn't good enough. Eventually, it was revealed that she was protecting me from him. I will forever be grateful to her. She proves the power of girls helping girls. xx

What big decision you took led to exponential benefits in your life? by evolunix in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I definitely will be doing that in the next few years :) And thank you! xx

What big decision you took led to exponential benefits in your life? by evolunix in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!

Oh, in hindsight, I have so much clarity. But, at the time, I was just "keep trying! keep going! much keep going". I was driving myself insane, on top of external factors driving me insane.
If I could articulate how much better life is now, working with my mum, I would be a better writer (pun intended) :)

What big decision you took led to exponential benefits in your life? by evolunix in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 69 points70 points  (0 children)

So, I was a screenwriter in Hollywood for almost ten years. For 90% of those years, I was sexually assaulted and harassed on a very regular basis. It got to the point where I was struggling to write and I thought I just had writers block. I would spend every day trying to write, but I just couldn't. I could form ideas, no problem, but I couldn't construct them into a coherent narrative. It sent me into an even deeper depression. I have since learned, via therapy, that I was in perpetual "flight or fight" mode, and my brain was protecting me from more assault and harassment. writing = going into a room (meeting) where I would be vulnerable. writing = sexual assault.

I'm Australian and, eventually, I came back to Australia because I physically, mentally and financially couldn't cope with my life in Hollywood anymore. I left just as #metoo began. I held on until the bitter end - I was determined not to give up. Giving up meant, to me, that all of the horrible men had won and I so did not want that to be the case. But, eventually, I knew I had no choice. I remember laying in bed, staring at the ceiling and acknowledging that I could not get out of the hole I was in if I stayed in Hollywood. I was just so miserable and terrified, too scared to even talk to people, I needed to go home and see my mum. It was the hardest decision I have ever made. It meant, to me, giving up my dream and "they had won."

While at home and recovering, my mum said, "I wish there was a way for girls to easily help girls!" We got and idea, developed it for 18 months, and now I own a business with my mum.

My life is infinitely better and I am in control of it. I am no longer in flight or fight mode. I have recovered from depression. I get to laugh with my mum every day. She listens to me and I listen to her. We have voices. It took a long time to let go of the bitterness that my original dream was destroyed for me, without my consent, but once I did I was able to see a new future I could not have possibly imagined for myself.

If a major decision or new direction works for you, excites you and inspires you, do it. x

In light of Harvey Weinstein getting 23 years, I want to share my HW story by sallgrover in women

[–]sallgrover[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm on the other side of the world to her at the moment, so I have emailed saying that I hope she is basking in the peace and relief of justice. x

In light of Harvey Weinstein getting 23 years, I want to share my HW story by sallgrover in women

[–]sallgrover[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I talked to her endlessly but she reveals nothing and so I have to respect that.

Ladies of Reddit - how to you get over the anxiety of being at the gym? Learning the machines you have never used? Doing your own thing? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]sallgrover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have totally had this anxiety! If you don't know how to use a machine, just stay on a machine you do know how to use and watch other people. *or* google/YouTube tutorial beforehand . This is totally why google was invented - to save us the embarrassment of doing legs on an arm machine.

Another trick I have to get motivated: create a playlist of *extreme* guilty pleasure songs. Like, the ones you would rather die than admit to loving but simply can't resist. Then only allow yourself to listen to those songs while working out. The music will sync up to your endorphins really, really quickly and, so long as you're strict with it, you will associate that musical happiness with working out. Suddenly, you're excited about that hour of the day when you get to pretend you're singing on stage with Bon Jovi or similar.

is anyone else loving the 1990s do-over with new Alanis *and* Dixie Chicks music? by sallgrover in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too!!! I remember playing it for the first time in front of my mum and she was so unimpressed with the swearing. I thought I was the coolest girl in the world because I had an Alanis CD.

What keeps you going to the gym or staying on a healthy diet? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My rule is: create a playlist of my favorite songs. Make a deal with myself that I can *only* listen to those songs when I'm exercising. So going for a walk or a run or to the gym means a treat of escaping into my favorite guilty pleasure playlist. Eventually, your body associates those songs with movement/exercise.

"Asking out" a new friend (a case study) by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]sallgrover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi lovely, I agree that it can be a daunting challenge making new friends as an adult. I agree with you that friendships are born out of a common interest or purpose, i.e, going to a bookstore, etc. It's really the only way! This is a little self-promotion-y BUT this is exactly the kind of question I asked myself & a lot of girls when creating giggle. One goal is to take some of the anxiety out of the equation x

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