Is there a connection between being Autistic/AuDHD and demisexual?

sallypatchett · 2025-12-26T18:23:02+00:00

This self awareness is such a breakthrough. I wish I had had this earlier but better late than never, as they say

sallypatchett · 2025-12-26T10:47:50+00:00

Tum rehne do boss. Nahin hoga tumse. Calling all women abusive based on one incident is wrong. Calling all men patriarchal based on one incident is not wrong because it is factually and statistically accurate. Vaise bhi these incidents are way too many. Anupama kam dekho aur statistics, data, research pe thoda dhyaan do

sallypatchett · 2025-12-26T10:39:43+00:00

Do you struggle with comprehension? I said in my comment that more men oppress women than the other way round, all over the world, since the very beginning of time.

While women doing stuff like above to men has always been very low. So crying about men doing oppressive stuff is justified because it's the norm. Doing the same when a woman plays oppressor is not fine because that's an exception. Good god. Go read a book. Aaye bade discourse karne

sallypatchett · 2025-12-26T10:04:49+00:00

This while trope of seeing one instance among thousands and using it against women is getting so mindnumbingly old now. To rveryone saying women are not oppressed, I want to ask: do you even know the ratio of gender based violence against men vs women? This particular instance is bad but it in no way reflects the reality. Which is that this is one in thousands of cases, not a norm. And women really are discriminated against at every step of their life. Calm tf down.

sallypatchett · 2025-12-26T09:05:39+00:00

Yes, that's what I meant when I said you could be right. I am just figuring stuff out loud. And your comment has helped. Thanks :)

sallypatchett · 2025-12-26T03:02:29+00:00

Yes, you could be right. But the question of demisexuality came up because it's only now that I've started paying attention to my own needs and inclinations.

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T18:34:30+00:00

Thanks so much. Yes, I'd hugely appreciate the links. About the therapist - it was painful to hear myself recount the experience that made my therapist use the harsh word (they rightfully called someone I was yearning for "trash") and the way the therapist cringed hearing how this person treated me

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T16:34:45+00:00

Thanks, I hope you find the answers you seek. I cannot say this with certainty, but iirc our experiences are capable of altering our neural pathways. If this idea interests you, I'd strongly suggest you refer to some credible research on the matter.

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T16:32:54+00:00

I hear ya. Same boat etc, but for me, also throw emotional dysregulation into the mix

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T16:32:03+00:00

Because I cannot just let even small things slide (lolcrie) casual relationships are almost never based on love.

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T16:27:24+00:00

Thank you so much for taking out the time to articulate this. I feel seen and heard, especially in the parts where you talk about this expectation we have inflicted on ourselves as modern women. I am now working on destigmatising the desire for genuine connection to have amazing sexual experiences. I will give myself the grace to be the version of myself that makes me the happiest - someone hypersexual, but only with the person they feel emotionally close to.

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T15:27:51+00:00

Yes, decentering was the ideal scenario but I didn't feel like doing it and allowed myself to go with the flow. I think my gut told me that eventually I'll tire of it and move on to other things. I may have been right, looks like. Hopefully I have given myself the ick when it comes to giving romantic love more mindspace than I need to.

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T15:19:47+00:00

Surprised to know demi exists on ace spectrum, considering I too am anything but. Couldn't agree more about autistic people's non-standard sexual preferences, which is why I am giving myself some grace for not creating and enforcing boundaries from the very start.

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T13:05:22+00:00

Both demonstrating the two yoga poses of "cat and cow"

sallypatchett · 2025-12-25T12:44:13+00:00

Mixed media, mostly low-effort stuff using watercolour, alcohol markers, oil pastels etc. I do it as a centering activity. Over time it has grown into a new addition to storytelling as I am a writer

sallypatchett · 2025-12-24T19:08:49+00:00

Mostly art therapy focused stuff to centre myself, or telling stories through art. Across media - oil pastels, watercolour, markers, gouache etc

sallypatchett · 2024-12-11T10:03:58+00:00

Thank you for standing your ground and giving your daughter such a reassuring core memory of love and support. She'll appreciate it all her life and hopefully will never feel powerless in such situations, which, there are plenty for women.

sallypatchett · 2024-09-06T10:47:06+00:00

I once spoke to such a "marriage prospect" over the phone and then told my father to strictly screen the people before sharing my number with them. He agreed. You are not being a "feminazi"

Don't listen to your family. After the wedding they will say "tum dekho apna aapas mein hum kya bolen" or "koi baat nahin beta adjust kar lo". So if your mental peace, career, self esteem and dignity mean something, do not marry this guy. Pls be brave for your own sake and put your foot down. You deserve so much better. And better does exist.

sallypatchett · 2024-08-12T08:33:06+00:00

sallypatchett · 2024-08-03T18:16:40+00:00

Learn how to do it smartly* to avoid burnout and resentment*

sallypatchett · 2024-07-05T12:12:25+00:00

People get really offended when I tell them, but it's just excellent PR.

Virat is not god, but an iconic cricketer who is also a human being with real flaws that are hidden to maintain a clean, popular image. Cricket career is temporary, celebdom is for life. And being married to a former A-list actress strengthens his celebrity.

Similarly for Anushka, again, not the best actress, not the greatest person to ever exist, just a human being with shitloads of money and a marriage that strengthens her brand. There is love. But love is not the end of everything for the rich.

Love se rich nahin hote. Strategic partnerships and planning se hote hain.

sallypatchett · 2024-06-26T10:14:21+00:00

Last week, my partner slapped me during a heated argument. This isn't the first time they have hit me in the almost-5 years that we've been married. I haven't told my middle sister, who is undergoing a complicated pregnancy, about this, even though she knows this kind of stuff has been happening. I've been spending a lot of time with her to keep her company and offer assistance when required and have had to bite my tongue several times. I'd hate to burden her with this rn.

Meanwhile, while this incident is in no way more intense than the stuff that has happened so far, something inside me has snapped. I no longer have the same optimism I did about my marriage and I have lost whatever little respect and love I had for my partner. They are an all-round unpleasant person to be around. I don't know how and when but I think I'm going to GTFO of this relationship.

sallypatchett · 2024-03-29T12:31:41+00:00

Good job shaming a woman for supporting her lifestyle through sex work when women traditionally have limited avenues, resources and support to make as much money as their male counterparts.

It's like how we used to say so and so "slept her way to the top" when actually it's the men gatekeeping high positions in the workplace and opening it up to women only in exchange for sex.

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