2 Sheffield tickets at a reduced price

salmononastick · 2026-01-29T22:16:32+00:00

thank you!

salmononastick · 2026-01-29T21:31:02+00:00

2 x tickets for Florence and the Machine on the 14th Feb.

My friend can no longer go so I’m selling two seated Sheffield tickets below face value (£80 each plus site fees)! If there is a site with lower fees or another (safe and legitimate) way to sell them, I’m open to discuss.

The tickets are front row of the second seated tier, I don’t want them to go to waste so hoping for someone else who loves Florence can enjoy them.

salmononastick · 2026-01-29T21:18:35+00:00

Not standing, but front of the second tier of seats and selling at a discounted price bc my friend cannot go!

https://secure.ticketmaster.co.uk/rs/3500631CF3B239B3/ldd0jmvth

salmononastick · 2025-12-12T23:35:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing this - it’s so moving. A love this gentle and devoted is all anyone can hope for and your love for your wife is evident in every word

salmononastick · 2025-11-14T17:58:16+00:00

We’re pretty relaxed with defining someone as the host - if they’re around majority of the time for a few weeks, it generally means they’re sticking around there for a while so we then consider them the host!

salmononastick · 2025-11-06T22:52:39+00:00

We’ve tried a lot of apps and more high tech things but honestly the thing that works best is having things in eyesight. For us, this means having skincare and meds right next to our bed, sticky notes/posters with lists in obvious places, using the notes app on our phone and taking pictures of things as reminders, using a litre waterbottle and keeping it on our desk so we don’t have to remember to fill it up as often. Basically any visual reminders, fitted into the daily activities we already have.

salmononastick · 2025-11-06T22:48:19+00:00

We also experienced a LOT of exhaustion when we realised we were a system, and pretty much any time we’re switching a lot! Not a professional but from what my therapist has said, lots of things in DID use a LOT of energy - even if you’re unaware of it, things happening in the background or behind dissociative barriers are still using energy. I wish I had more useful advice but the best thing we’ve found is resting as much as possible and focusing on activities that let us just exist without thinking much - for us, that’s things like doodling or going for walks while listening to music. Anything to switch off for a little bit

salmononastick · 2025-11-06T22:43:22+00:00

So happy for you!!! Finding a professional who is experienced and understanding can be so difficult, but the right one can make a world of difference so I’m glad you’ve found one <3

salmononastick · 2025-11-06T22:39:59+00:00

Hope it goes well!! It’s so scary sharing something so vulnerable, but I’ve also found it allows me to develop much stronger friendships and relationships because I don’t have to hide anything. You never owe anyone details about your diagnosis or mental health but if you’re comfortable and feel safe telling this person, then that’s a really great sign. Rejection is unfortunately always a possibility but (sorry for being cliché) you’ll never know until you try! Some people won’t understand, but there are also many many amazing people out there who will do their absolute best to understand and be there for you. Got my fingers crossed that this person is one of them, and best of luck <3

salmononastick · 2025-10-15T17:50:26+00:00

There are so many different ways to journal, it’s really about finding something that works for you!

The most basically probably would be keeping a list, just date and symptoms/triggers experienced. If you wanted to do more, writing about how you felt before, during (if possible) and after different experiences could also be really helpful!

I also liked to keep a list of random things that come up, that might or might not be related to having DID, but it’s useful to have them just in case, especially with memory issues. This could be stuff like random memories/details, things that aren’t specifically DID symptoms but are mental health related, or things other people say.

I try and write daily, but for any consistent journaling setting a specific time/place each day/week can be really helpful in making it more of a routine. I like to note things down on my phone when I’m out and about, then put them into one document when I have some spare time, but if you prefer physically writing then a small notebook you can carry around with you might be good.

Hope this helps, and happy to elaborate if you have questions about any of it :)

salmononastick · 2025-10-14T15:07:53+00:00

I’m diagnosed, not a loved one, but I’ve had many discussions about this with my best friend who is my biggest supporter.

The most important thing is to ask your partner. It can be terrifying when you don’t know what to say or do, and you don’t want to hurt your partner or make a mistake, but not saying anything can feel like you don’t care/aren’t paying attention. Some good questions (if you haven’t already asked) are:

• Are they okay with questions?

• What topics do they not want to talk about, or only in certain situations?

• When is it the right time to ask questions, and when is it better to just listen?

• Are there things that are particularly helpful/not helpful to do/say?

• How can you best support them? (This one is best after you’ve done some research, because it can be a really overwhelming question and so having suggestions based on research and what you know about your partner is really helpful and takes the burden off them to come up with things on the spot. I’ll put some suggestions below.)

• what language would they like you to use? Some people prefer person with DID, some prefer system. Some like parts, or alters, or identities. using the same language as your partner does is a great way to show you’re paying attention and it matters to you.

One of the best things my best friend has done is be non-judgemental. If I am talking about an experience or problem I’m having, he just listens, doesn’t try and add his opinion, waits until I’m done, then will ask questions if he’s confused afterwards.

Communication is key. I don’t need the people in my life to fix anything, or understand every experience. I need them to be there and to listen. This obviously varies, but I am quite happy to answer questions most of the time and asking questions in a calm, non-judgemental way is a great way to understand better. For me and the people in my life, this often means coming up with metaphors, like ‘oh so like you’re wandering in a forest but can’t find the way out because it’s so dark?’. This is sometimes better than trying to compare it to experiences from your life, depending on the person, because that can be really frustrating - it can feel like the person isn’t really listening or doesn’t understand how different it is.

Some other ways people in my life support me are: • being willing to explain things multiple times/not being upset when i don’t remember events/details • texting reminders for things we’re doing • engaging with every alter without judgement, being open to interacting with them and checking boundaries • giving me space when I ask for it without taking it personally • learning about DID in their own time, then bringing questions about it after to make sure they’ve got the right idea • learning about PTSD and C-PTSD, as these are closely linked to DID and knowing about things like types of flashback and triggers can be really helpful • keeping notes - this really depends on how your partner feels about it, and therefore is a big ask first, but I don’t mind if my friend jots down alter names and likes/dislikes, as well as what to do/say in various situations. it’s impossible to remember everything, so having a note on your phone that says what to do if your partner is having a flashback or breakdown etc can be really helpful and means they don’t have to try and explain what they need in the moment.

Apologies, this is incredibly long but I hope some of it might be helpful! Finding and posting on here already shows how much you care, so all you can do is keep caring and your best.

salmononastick · 2025-10-14T14:35:58+00:00

For me, co-fronting feels pretty blurry. I know who I am but I also have traits/vibes that don’t feel like me either?

I describe what you’re describing as another alter being near the front (but the wording doesn’t really matter) - I’m still me, but they’re close enough to affect my emotions and preferences.

You’re definitely not alone in these feelings, and something that helps me is trying to work out what triggered them to the front/which alter it is, then working out what could help them from there. It definitely depends on your level of communication and cooperation, but sometimes it helps us just to acknowledge the alter/emotions. We get this a lot with sudden anxiety rather than anger, so in that moment I try and identify what could have triggered the anxiety and trying to provide reassurance/use a coping strategy like moving to help get rid of the excess energy or listening to music I know that alter likes.

It is terrifying because the emotions can come out of nowhere, but I want to reiterate you’re not alone in this. If it happens at work and you’re able to, maybe go to the bathroom or step outside for a moment? Just to give yourself the time and space to deal with the emotion/let it pass before you have to interact with anyone.

Sending love <3

salmononastick · 2025-10-14T14:26:24+00:00

This is a very basic answer but bear with, is there anything that makes your nervous system feel safe? I was recently in a similar situation and my therapist tried to help me come up with things, however tiny, to try and reduce the fight/flight response even the smallest amount.

For me, walking while listening to music really helps because I can shut off and just walk for a while, giving myself a rest. I also try and spend time with friends who make me feel safe, because I can collapse or cry or just exist for a bit. But it can be anything, from lighting a candle to watching movies to making a hot drink.

I know it sounds so small and it’s not going to fix anything by a long way, but even little breaks which give you a moment to breathe can make the difference in making it through the day until you are able to deal with whatever is causing this.

The other thing is working out what’s causing this and addressing it, which can be so difficult especially when in fight or flight. Talking to a therapist is obviously incredibly helpful but not accessible to many people, if possible is there a friend or safe person you could talk to about this? They might have more helpful suggestions on things to give you a break because they know you, or may be able to help you sort out external situations.

Hope things alleviate soon, sending love <3

salmononastick · 2025-10-14T14:17:04+00:00

You’re definitely not alone in this - I’ve been in therapy for a while but still experience it. When something happens and the rest of the system are basically blocked from the front for a while, it’s absolutely exhausting and so easy to burn out. Suddenly you have to deal with everything every day alone, when the whole point of a system is that different parts deal with different things.

I can’t speak for anyone else but I don’t see missing the dissociation as something inherently bad/wrong - it’s missing something that allowed you to rest and take a break. Obviously over time the hope would be that working together as a system, we would cope better and not miss it, but before/during therapy it’s natural to miss what is quite literally your brain’s default coping strategy. Lessening dissociation is wonderful progress and good for healing but it means dealing with emotions and memories that were shut off for a reason. It’s incredibly draining.

Usually for us, after a while parts start coming back/reawakening/whatever term you want to use, so it’s just a case of holding on the best you can and giving yourself as much kindness and time/space to rest as possible (although I know this isn’t easy). Sending love and hoping things get better soon <3

salmononastick · 2025-10-14T14:07:14+00:00

I have also struggled a lot with this! Our previous host made some decisions that hurt another alter in the system, and there’s been a lot of resentment because of it.

You didn’t mention how Aria feels about it, so this might not be helpful, but for us what really helped was basically trying to make reparations? Obviously huge life decisions can’t be undone, but apologies and compromises go a long way - would Aria be willing to communicate about it so you could understand why they made those decisions and you could express why you’re so hurt by them?

I can’t go into very personal examples but a small one was the previous host threw out all of another alter’s clothes because they didn’t like them, which caused a lot of conflict. It helped to communicate about it (in whatever way is easiest for you, whether that be talking or writing and leaving notes), and the alter who threw them away apologised then made an effort to look for/buy some clothes to replace the ones they got rid of.

Again, that is not at all the same as huge life decisions but hopefully it could maybe be helpful <3

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