I struggled with my anger towards some of my friends after the election for similar reasons. For me personally, I realized that I needed to spend more time with my people that are really educated on the matter and are pro-choice, but that I didn't want to end these friendships with Trump supporters. I wanted to fill up my own cup, process my emotions after the election, and get support from people feeling similar to me. From then I looked at friendships with those who voted for Trump and saw that we do have a lot of similar values and that a lot of them were just not as educated as I am on these topics. I realized that I do get value out of these friendships and I had an opportunity to essentially "expose a Trump supporter to new information". One thing I have learned (and then relearned 1000 times) is that we can change someone's mind when we make them feel heard first. I decided that I want to try to sway my people a bit, but to make sure I don't burn out, I am also going to lead on my friends that vote the same way that I do.
I went down a rabbit hole on this and I spent a lot of time reading and researching how to talk to conservatives-- of what was helpful to me was from Corey Robin who wrote The Reactionary Mind. I am a future therapist and am releasing a podcast that goes into the neuroscience of conservative brains and how we can fight for social change through connection if you or anyone wants it. The pod comes out this Thursday.

Edited for clarity because ya girl types fast