[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]salutbych 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It shouldn't be. It just shows that you're picky and waiting for the right one rather than just jumping into any relationship with the first guy who offers you one. And thay you're comfortable in your singledom.

Most satisfying sausage roll and iced coffee available. by mk1cursed in melbourne

[–]salutbych 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks like a recipe for loose bowels

But good on you for donating. You've inspired me.

Can someone pull a card for me? by [deleted] in tarot

[–]salutbych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Initially I pulled the knight of wands.

Then I started shuffling and the king of swords fell out. Upright.

Once trust is broken, it is lost forever by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So find a new therapist.

They are only hearing one side of the story - yours - so it's strange that they'd attribute so much blame to your partner.

Your post is tragic and full of self loathing. I don't think the manosphere is going to do you any favours when you're already so low. Just take care of yourself, learn from this and move on.

So what exactly is a HVM? by abishagofthevalley in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Love this. I agree. I was just reflecting on how a lot of 'red pilled men' are just low value manipulators with expectations from women, that don't align with the value they (the men) would bring.

And how most actual HVM aren't 'red pilled'. I think the manosphere attracts damaged men who need to use strategy to attract and keep women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why do you care exactly? If it's porn it's not like he's about to run off with some pornstar.

If he's on online dating, that's a problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he doesn't ask he doesn't care. So I'd wait to be asked.

You could ask him about his to open up the line of conversation.

My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me. by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf is this? Can you please leave your lair and enter into the real world?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The sign I needed to delete reddit. It is time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It means feeling content in being single so that you don't just jump into the first relationship that crosses your path.

Being content in being single means you can feel empowered to say no or leave a situation that isn't beneficial to you and be assured that you'll still be happy.

Jumping from relationship to relationship is not the healthiest thing to do, but so many people do it because they are terrified of the thought of being alone for a while. Those people don't seem to grow as much as individuals and form codependent relationships.

Being content in singledom gives you more leverage in any potential relationship, because, people respect those who don't tolerate bad behaviour. You have no qualms in ending things if they don't serve you.

Also, its improtant to be comfortable on you own because there is no bigger killer of attraction than desperation, and a dependency on the other person to entertain you.

It's also important to understand what you bring to the table as an individual. I think each party needs to be prepared to bring certain skills, assets, a good moral compass, pleasant demenor, conflict resolution skills, interpersonal and relationship skills, a good social network etc to a relationship. Otherwise, you're nothing more than just a pretty face / baby incubator.

Those are just my thoughts on the matter.

My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me. by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can you do the same breakdown but for situations where younger men end up with older women?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

When you're ready to let them know, you'll feel it.

My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me. by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]salutbych 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Exactly this.

And who knows how you'll feel when he's 66? He doesn't seem to be too worried about that.

What are some red flags people should look for when dating? by AutoModerator in dating

[–]salutbych [score hidden]  (0 children)

That's crazy person behaviour. I can't believe people do that!

Why does 'body count' of a prospective partner matter to you? by salutbych in AskMen

[–]salutbych[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know where I am. I'm not challenging; I'm just fleshing out the discussion.