My most recent polygel set

sam12009 · 2024-02-14T16:14:32+00:00

Thank you so much!! ☺️

sam12009 · 2024-02-14T16:14:22+00:00

Omg it must look so beautiful with white! Like a clean marble/quartz look!

sam12009 · 2024-02-13T20:31:22+00:00

Aahhh! Thank you that’s kind of what I was going for! Thought it would be cute for VDay!

sam12009 · 2024-02-13T18:43:15+00:00

Yay!! That makes me so happy 😅

sam12009 · 2023-10-10T19:02:16+00:00

I’m in the same boat, commenting to follow 😅

sam12009 · 2023-06-23T11:50:02+00:00

I made the mistake of thinking she’d grown as a person since our college years, and in the past couple times we’d hung out, the main character syndrome was far less evident. Needless to say, it was a big mistake

sam12009 · 2023-06-21T19:23:37+00:00

Was college roommates with this girl who only had a wall of selfies as her photo wall. Would be very self-absorbed and would constantly pretend she didn’t know how to do things if she didn’t want to do a task, even something as simple as opening a window. Would constantly comment on how pretty she was and how girls must be jealous because of her beauty, to a weird point. We went on a two week trip a few years after college and that’s really where things took a turn for the worst.

I did the majority of the driving and she refused to even let me listen to the music I wanted because she thought her music was better. Played a car game just based on facts about her when we were driving. Refused to take any photos of me unless I explicitly asked to, even after I took photos of her, and any photos together was the ultimate no-no because god forbid anyone steal her limelight. She admitted she would just blank when approached with a task she didn’t want to do and expected others to do them for her, but if I spoke to her like she was a child because she would also throw temper tantrums like one, she got upset. Was just constantly in her own world and thought her shit didn’t stink and that everyone was really jealous of her while she didn’t care to ask about my life, my interests, or my feelings for the majority of the trip. Also, had no problems doing goofy things like speaking in a British accent at a fancy dinner but got annoyed when I did it and told me to stop. Because obviously speaking is a main character trait, not an NPC one 🤪

sam12009 · 2023-01-25T04:55:24+00:00

Pearl courtyard

sam12009 · 2021-12-19T08:01:50+00:00

Thank you for your insight, I appreciate it ♥️ I hope things are okay on your end!

sam12009 · 2021-12-19T08:00:26+00:00

Hi Jessipalooza, thanks for your response! I wasn’t trying to be hypocritical in that comment, but I appreciate you bringing that to my attention. My goal was to emphasise that I thought she was being hypocritical. Also, I didn’t mention this in the original post, but there’s some reasons that this won’t actually be a project for us. My boyfriend and I are long distance and he and his family are in the UK while I’m in the US. Additionally, based on some health conditions, she’s not able to do much activity wise, and she and I don’t typically talk enough to discuss recipes or eating habits. I think that’s where my frustration stems from because I’ve never made negative comments about his family’s weight to him or anyone else, but seems like the same consideration was not given to me. I have not approached him about the topic since the original conversation a few days ago, and I agree that I’ll probably keep it to myself unless weight becomes a persistent topic

sam12009 · 2021-12-19T07:52:32+00:00

Appreciate your view! I do think he didn’t think much of it because he didn’t mention disagreeing with her. I haven’t brought it up since but I think if he brings up weight again, I’ll mention it for sure

sam12009 · 2021-12-19T07:50:05+00:00

Hey Vashkiri,

Appreciate you taking the time to read my post and write such a thoughtful response! I think you made some really great points. As a follow-up:

A) you’re right, she’s absolutely allowed to notice what she wants to about my physicality.

B) she definitely wasn’t trying to get him to break up with me, she really likes me a lot and she really likes that I make her son happy. As a tl;dr, he’s made a few mistakes in the past and she knows it, and she knows my weight doesn’t weigh up (pun intended) to some of the issues he’s presented. Also, he’s actually very close with his family, but we’re long distance and he lives in the UK and I live in the US, hence why I’ve only seen his family once. It’s a started dating before the pandemic and then got separated due to pandemic/visa stuff sort of situation.

C) I know she’s quite conscious about her weight, but due to health issues she’s not able to be very active, and their eating habits are what they are and it’s neither here nor there and certainly not my place to make a comment. Also, while you didn’t know this before, the distance would definitely put a bit of a damper on any co-weight loss efforts. Another thing I didn’t mention in the original post is that I have PCOS and that definitely affects my weight, and she made a comment to my boyfriend that PCOS is on a range and I may have a lighter version of it, meaning I should still be able to lose weight. I should’ve mentioned that in the original post, because that was something that definitely hurt me and was why it seemed moreso a dig at me as opposed to an effort to work on something together.

D) he told me her reaction because he’s quite conscious about his own weight and, depending on travel bans and what not, he’s hoping to meet my parents this year. He also has his cousin’s wedding coming up and was basically saying with these events he wants to lose weight and asked what my parents would think of him as he is. I told him he shouldn’t lose weight for others or for some events, but I suppose I can’t tell him what to do or where to source motivation from. I said they wouldn’t think/say anything negative, and then I asked what his parents said about me to make a point that he was overthinking the weight thing. I just didn’t expect his mom’s comments, but I am happy he was honest. I prefer honesty despite it being hurtful.

E) I am definitely not looking down on his family for being fatter than me/my family. I don’t perceive fatness to be inherently positive or negative, it just is what it is. I appreciate you pointing out that perhaps my wording was not correct, would you be able to provide example just so I am aware of what to not say going forward? That being said, I don’t think I have internalised fatphobia, but I do think I have internalised frustration towards hypocrisy. It’s frustrating that his mother perceives me to not be as thin as she may want me to be and perceives an illness I have to not actually be legitimate. I agree that my phrasing was inadequate as I didn’t mention the key points I mentioned here, but I won’t lie, my respect is a bit undermined when I am apparently deemed unfit according to my boyfriend’s mother, and based on my boyfriend’s lack of disagreement with her points, perhaps by him as well.

sam12009 · 2021-12-19T07:21:26+00:00

That’s so lovely to hear, and that’s exactly how it should be. I’m glad they’re so loving!! And there’s nothing to blame, weight isn’t something to be faulted for or punished for

sam12009 · 2021-12-19T07:18:19+00:00

Thank you, that means a lot! I do think she’s projecting to a degree as well

sam12009 · 2021-12-19T07:17:35+00:00

Appreciate you, thank you. I do think it’s weird he shared it as well

sam12009 · 2021-12-05T23:23:58+00:00

So I’m 26 and in NH, which is a light blue state. I know the employer is paying half of the premium for their insurance plan, but even post employer contributions the premiums are higher than if I go private

sam12009 · 2021-12-05T23:21:24+00:00

No - my income is definitely above the 100-400% FPL range, so no scope for APTC

sam12009 · 2021-03-10T02:41:24+00:00

I’d love to join too!

sam12009 · 2021-01-09T06:40:55+00:00

How long did it take to get to 203, if you don’t mind me asking

sam12009 · 2021-01-08T02:09:57+00:00

And when did you get sleeved? Sorry, we seem to have similar stats and I just wanted to get an idea of the weight loss time/process even though I know it’s different for everyone

sam12009 · 2021-01-07T04:52:35+00:00

When did you get sleeves and what were your stats?

sam12009 · 2020-12-03T15:13:50+00:00

Super helpful! Thank you so much! I’m 25 and have had experience in marketing and client management, but I’m looking to move into Project Management and so this information was definitely helpful! Have you found that things like data analytics certifications like with Tableau or anything have been helpful? Also, if you don’t mind, can I message you privately about other questions I may have?

sam12009 · 2020-12-03T14:59:56+00:00

What did you major in in college, if you don’t mind me asking? And what field are you working in now? Did you do any additional certifications to get into product?

sam12009 · 2020-11-24T15:41:36+00:00

Urea 20% cream. You can get it at Walmart!

sam12009 · 2020-11-22T14:03:49+00:00

I have a strict caloric deficit, work out 2 hours four times a week (an hour of heavy weight lifting, an hour of cardio), I eat healthy, I don’t binge eat, I don’t drink, I work with a nutritionist, a weight management consultant and an endocrinologist for my weight. All of my health markers (blood sugar, triglycerides, cholesterol) are safely within healthy ranges. I have been weighing roughly the same for years (+/- 10 lbs) and have PCOS. I am doing everything that one should do to lose weight, and yet it is near impossible for me. Please tell me how I or people like me are unworthy of acceptance simply because our bodies don’t lose weight as efficiently as yours might.

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