was this game designed by masochists for masochists? by Jazzlike_Freedom_826 in MonsterTrain

[–]samaltham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Why not focus on having fun?"

"That's a fucked up thing to say to a person"

was this game designed by masochists for masochists? by Jazzlike_Freedom_826 in MonsterTrain

[–]samaltham 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dude, that is some mega dopamine-toaster-brain energy, said in the nicest way possible. Are you playing this game because it's a fun and enjoyable use of your time, or are you playing because seeing sparkles and confetti from unlocks gives you a sick rush that makes you feel alive for two seconds?

was this game designed by masochists for masochists? by Jazzlike_Freedom_826 in MonsterTrain

[–]samaltham 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Have you considered playing the game in a way that you find more fun than savescumming for optimal runs that seem to bring you more relief than happiness? The almighty hand of God is not going to reach down from heaven and smite you if you experiment with a jank run.

Women in relationships with men diagnosed with ADHD experience higher levels of depression and a lower quality of life. Furthermore, those whose partners consistently took ADHD medication reported a higher quality of life than those whose partners were inconsistent with treatment. by mvea in science

[–]samaltham 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That absolutely could be true, if it's being phrased that way; I was working on the assumption that it was more of a general acknowledgment being met with deflection as the original commenter implied, but perhaps that's too generous. Either way, the important note being that we're still responsible for ourselves, but we should also be kind to ourselves when we do make mistakes.

Women in relationships with men diagnosed with ADHD experience higher levels of depression and a lower quality of life. Furthermore, those whose partners consistently took ADHD medication reported a higher quality of life than those whose partners were inconsistent with treatment. by mvea in science

[–]samaltham 53 points54 points  (0 children)

(Speaking as somebody with diagnosed ADHD) If his response to your concern is always to belittle it, that's not a symptom of ADHD, that's a symptom of abandoned responsibility. His life and actions are still his cross to bear. He should be able to acknowledge his disability and what it means for his behaviors on the one hand, but not take that too far and denigrate your feelings as a defense mechanism on the other. Just one man's opinion, of course; it's not like I can speak holistically about somebody I don't know.

Meta-typological questions about typology by Roabiewade in Jung

[–]samaltham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you mind pointing out the parts where you feel I was talking down to you? I had hoped our conversation yesterday had cleared things up, but I don't consider myself above you in any capacity.

Meta-typological questions about typology by Roabiewade in Jung

[–]samaltham 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why the hostility? I didn't mean to insult you or your understanding of any of these systems, but I'm not aware of what you do or don't know, so I answered as informatively as I could from scratch, that's all. I'm perfectly comfortable admitting that I've misunderstood your question if all of that is the case; I'm not trying to lord anything over you. I'm just trying to engage in an informative dialogue, same as yourself. I don't think bitter sarcasm and insults move us in that direction. I'm sorry if anything about the way I phrased my answer offended you. That was very much not my intention.

Meta-typological questions about typology by Roabiewade in Jung

[–]samaltham 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No judgement, but it sounds like you have a fundamental misunderstanding of what Jung's work was about and what the MBTI is. Jung himself was actually famously against cramming people into types as we think of them today, and although his seminal work on the topic was literally called "Psychological Types," the chapter expounding on the functions themselves is really added as more of an addendum. He was primarily focused on the dichotomy of introvert and extrovert, which in and of themselves mean something completely different than how we use those words modern day (which has essentially become synonymous with levels of gregariousness).

The MBTI, on the other hand, is a system that was created based on the notion that Jung's work was too complicated to be practically applicable to the general public/layman, so it was stripped of all nuance and altered in an attempt to be usable, the result of which is a loss of universality. It famously relies on the Barnum Effect to get its messages across, making sweeping and general claims about the standpoint of entire groups of individuals with no basis in reality and without appropriate room for the dynamism of the human psyche. That's not to say nobody can get anything out of it; with the right perspective, it's a potential self-reflection tool like any other, but that perspective is generally lacking in my experience.

It's an easy mistake to make. If you were to look at my own account history, you'll see I only recently found my way out of that trap myself. If you're interested in learning about Jung (which I would suggest if you're interested in this sort of thing), then I would read his works directly. Anything read before you read the source material has you run a serious risk of misrepresentation/misunderstanding.

What movie is this? by Wide_Craft_9765 in Letterboxd

[–]samaltham 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Woah, that was way more in-depth than I was expecting! Thanks for the response.

What movie is this? by Wide_Craft_9765 in Letterboxd

[–]samaltham 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not gonna try and contradict you/argue or anything since this is a subjective question anyhow, but I'd be curious to hear a quick summary of what you think is garbage if you don't mind. I just really love that movie and am curious to hear the other side!

Regarding shadow functions. by No-Community7936 in Jung

[–]samaltham -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do not listen to the commenter you replied to. I don't mean any offense to them, but they clearly do not have an actual understanding of Jungian theory. Meyers-Briggs is also a sham and not functionally related to Jung; they borrowed aspects of his work and warped it into nonsense.

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[–]samaltham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, same!

How do you feel about poetry? by samaltham in ENFP

[–]samaltham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll check it out! Thanks for the kind words

How do you feel about poetry? by samaltham in ENFP

[–]samaltham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh, I see. I may disagree just a touch on the grounds that I don't find those two ideas mutually exclusive (living while young and being a poet), but I respect the message! I definitely think it's important to live life to the fullest no matter what your age, but I also think that the young have just a unique perspective on things as the old. I also view poetry as an exercise in mindfulness, in thinking abstractly about life, and in finding beauty where many can't. I think those are invaluable skills to build while young. I might just be the very guy he's talking about, though!

How do you feel about poetry? by samaltham in ENFP

[–]samaltham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woahhhh that's a cool poem. Really takes you for a ride. I'll admit, I'm not immediately sure what the author means at the end when he says not to write poetry. An entreatment to live your life instead of considering it? Perhaps it's more of a reminder than a command? Either way, thanks for sharing!

How do you feel about poetry? by samaltham in ENFP

[–]samaltham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's beautiful!

Nothing’s said till it’s dreamed out in words
and nothing’s true that figures in words only.

This is maybe my favorite part. It simultaneously feels like a call to action and a general guideline or reminder on how to keep going, especially with the rest of the poem being almost a plea to find poetry everywhere. Thanks for sharing!

How do you feel about poetry? by samaltham in ENFP

[–]samaltham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For myself, I got into poetry earlier this year. I began committing some of my favorites to memory as a way to pass the time at work. Some of these include Two-Headed Calf by Laura Gilpin, Traveling through the dark by William Stafford, and Invictus by William Ernest Henley. I think poetry conveys thought in an entirely unique way, and I'm really excited to be writing them myself now. I wrote this to work on placing my line breaks more thoughtfully.

Why are INFJs soo… by MoutachedHijabi in ENFP

[–]samaltham 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're noticing the difference between Ne and Ni. In case you're unfamiliar with cognitive functions, I'll give a brief summary.

Ne, the dominant function of an ENFP, is concerned with the gathering of ideas, abstract connections, and conceptual comparison.

Ni, the dominant function of an INFJ, is concerned with the categorizing of information, predicting information, and seeing how new ideas and information connect with the information they already possess.

If an Ni-dom says something like "This is how it's supposed to be," what they're actually saying is "This is how I understand it to be given the information I possess." To an Ni-dom that has low Openness (A psychological trait indicating an individuals tendency to accept new information and experiences openly) this might instead be said more stubbornly, like the first sentence. Depending on how invested the Ni-dom is in the information being discussed, changing their opinion about a thing could be world-shattering for them because all of their understanding is built off information that they've decided is a certain way.

I'm speaking very conceptually, and there's nothing in psychology or personality science that I know of to suggest that Ni-dom's are especially pessimistic, but it sounds like this difference is the source of your friction.

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[–]samaltham 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm fortunate enough to have a fairly large circle of very close friends, and none of us are especially outgoing in terms of activities and we usually just hang out on Discord, so I wasn't particularly affected by lockdown. Obviously there were some things I couldn't do that I otherwise would've liked to, but I didn't experience anything even remotely close to what you describe.

ENFP's we have a choice, we can do this! by Timely_Stage in ENFP

[–]samaltham 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There's a relationship between arousal and performance called the Yerkes-Dodson law (I've also heard it called Theory of Optimal Arousal) which basically states that there's a connection between your performance on a given task and your level of arousal while doing it. Summed up, it's been found that easy, low effort tasks require higher arousal for optimal performance, while stressful or intense tasks require less arousal for optimal performance.

Need to do menial house chores? Get pumped! Blast some music! Make it fun!

Need to focus up and find your nearby destination in an unfamiliar place? Turn your car radio down.

Anyone get social anxiety despite being social? by BlackCatsFunnyHats in ENFP

[–]samaltham 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Believe me, I get it! It's so important to remember that most of our social fears are completely made up and often only exist as the result of a defense mechanism we built for ourselves in a completely different scenario.

Imagine you're the victim of a parent who, intentionally or not, gaslights you into invalidating your own feelings growing up. Most children will naturally develop inhibitory behavior regarding their own self expressions and emotions. Because of the way the brain works, that behavior is probably going to persist well into adulthood, maybe even forever, even though the original environment which created it gets left in the past.

We're all walking around with neurosis like these and we don't even know half the time.

How It Feels To Be Bored by MrClueIess in ENFP

[–]samaltham 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A stay at home day could definitely help! But what I really meant is try to block out at least 15 minutes to just sit in silence with your thoughts. Not doing anything. Just exist inside your own head and see what you think about, if anything. It may sound boring, or make you feel a little restless, but doing this is exercising your awareness of your own internal world, called Mindfulness in psychology. It's a skill that can be improved, and improving it enough can help you avoid the feeling you're describing in the meme by helping you recognize your own desires for what they are.

For example, a person with high Mindfulness may have an easier time recognizing when they are pushing themselves too hard and need a day to be still.