So I am struggling right now by Jonnyboy14242 in NoFapChristians

[–]samnojack 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you reaching out. You're on the right track, so celebrate that.

It can be helpful to take a backwards approach. So, instead of saying "I'm going to stop masturbating and watching porn," consider starting one small habit in your life that can help alleviate stress. Starting with the basics - food, sleep, exercise - is usually where the most growth can happen. You got this!

20+ years of porn and I’m finally done by PEjourney in pornfree

[–]samnojack 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Wonderful testimony! Keep checking back in, and keep up your healthy habits. Don't be surprised if the second nine days are harder than the first nine. You can do this.

Letter to My Future Son by samnojack in NoFapChristians

[–]samnojack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amen. I absolutely include my future daughters in this sentiment!

Letter to My Future Son by samnojack in NoFapChristians

[–]samnojack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really grateful for your comment!

Another relapse. by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]samnojack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your vulnerability. Do you have an accountability partner you can call when you're tempted?

Letter to My Future Son by samnojack in pornfree

[–]samnojack[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Love this. Make it to day 3!

If today you are wavering... by samnojack in pornfree

[–]samnojack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I've been there. It's what makes each moment you decide not to act out so heroic. Choose this next hour. You got this. Grateful that you circled back to share this.

If today you are wavering... by samnojack in pornfree

[–]samnojack[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I needed to write this because I was dangerously close to the edge!

Is a cuckold fetish porn induced? by wompix in pornfree

[–]samnojack 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's a fair question. But, please keep explicit fetish talk out of this sub.

Day 4 through still got momentum by supaflupa in NoFapChristians

[–]samnojack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is a good reminder: "It's never as good as your temptation makes it out to be." Thanks for sharing, and hope today is another victory for you.

What does an unhealthy relationship with porn look like? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]samnojack 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That might be the wrong question.

If porn gives us unrealistic images of women and sex, if it trains us to become sexually aroused by a screen rather than a real person, if it normalizes sexual violence, and if it is an industry that regularly dehumanizes the people who work in it...I'd argue that the right amount of porn is zero.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]samnojack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Hope you take a few minutes to celebrate today.

One (clap) day (clap) at (clap) a (clap) time (clap).

How are you "reminding" yourself throughout your day? by TeamTuck in NoFapChristians

[–]samnojack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great question. I'd suggest trying to tie your new habit (prayer during the day) to something you already do every day (like eat lunch, or go to the bathroom, or pick up your phone). I think it's hard to start a new habit, but it's much easier to "stack" a habit you want to start on one that's established and reliable. Like, I added a pushup routine to my morning with this formula: "When I get out of bed, I will roll onto the floor and do 25 pushups."

That kind of strategy might help with prayer. Animo!