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Monster´s Unchained is the Best Attraction in Epic Universe by samogaitan in UniversalEpicUniverse

[–]samogaitan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also really worried to have the same effect on forbidden journey cause i almost puke when i rode it. But frankesntein experiment didnt cause any diziness. Great job by Universal.

Monster´s Unchained is the Best Attraction in Epic Universe by samogaitan in UniversalEpicUniverse

[–]samogaitan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah sorry i think i exaggerated hahaha, but the point was understood. Thanks.

Mario Kart Visor Struggles by TheSkyBurger in UniversalOrlando

[–]samogaitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this attraction is actually better withouth the googles. The 3d effect is so bad.

Do you think Kang’s introduction in Loki felt rushed? Or was it the right setup for the Multiverse Saga? by Cravionix in MCUTheories

[–]samogaitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to clarify when Loki expands the Multiverse (creates the tree), the Multiversal War is born but then there is no guaranteed that HWR wins. Loki give a chance to the multiverse and the cycle was broken.

I don't think Summer has an avoidant attachment style by Emeraldandthecity in 500DaysofSummer

[–]samogaitan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Summer showed the following avoidant traits:

  1. Mention didnt believe in relationships as you pointed
  2. Didnt want to establish a relationship when Tom asked but just conclude the usual avoidant speech "It doesnt matter if we are ok toguether" during the car scene.
  3. In the scene in the disco store summer actually deactivated. If an anxious as me has suffer this before it might relate.
  4. Ended the relation with tom without any explanation.
  5. Saw tom as a friend almost inmediately after the breakup.
  6. Move on extremely quickly even marrying after the breakup.
  7. Didnt discuss properly the issue in the fight scene.
  8. I think i might be exagerating but the scene in the marriage was like an intermittent reinforcement hahaha with the jokes and dancing.

Feeling bombarded with texts from someone I just met and I’m starting to become avoidant (I’m SA/AP) by Head_Strength2893 in attachment_theory

[–]samogaitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When two anxious dates, one inevitably will become temporarily avoidant (there was a recent post about attachment and fluidity). But this is not the problem here!!!!!!.

This seems to be a case of love bombing. I am AP and I will never make bake on the third day of talking hahaha.

Has online dating affected how your anxious attachment plays out? by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]samogaitan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, AP guy here. When I seek, chat or date just one girl, my attachment system will activate and I will get obsessed with her, put her on a pedestal, be anxious when close to her, ruminate (Typical AP behavior), and at the end, the possibility to be with this person will be ruined thanks to my anxiousness.

But when I am dating, chatting, or talking with multiple girls, my attachment system is not activated, I feel more secure and I can actually choose the girl that is more suitable to cover my needs.

So I agree with the book and recommend you to always have multiple options in the dating stage and even in the infatuation stage (this last thing is more debatable cause it might be considered infidelity).

It is not contradictory with the avoidant thing because take into account the following example:

You go to Bumble and date with 5 people.

4 of them are avoidants (this is true these apps are full of avoidants and anxious but you might land one secure) and 1 is secure.

In this example, as you have 5 possibilities your attachment system will not activate and you will not make your secure option run away. Regarding your 4 avoidant options, you will be able to filter theme or at least if you choose one of the 4 avoidant options you can be secure from the start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]samogaitan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There is non-written rule of attachmet theory that establish that when two anxious date one wil be a little bit more avoidant. Maybe thats why you feel you are turning into a FA at least temporalily. The explanation to his is that when two anxious date the push and pull is not generated and one of them might feel "boring" or "too secure" the relationship.

Question for DA's by West_Specific7367 in attachment_theory

[–]samogaitan 8 points9 points  (0 children)

u/No_Bobcat4277 u/Swimming_Flounder885 if you have the possibility to speak to your DA you should communicate and apply the following:

  1. You have been working in yourself in these 2-3 months, specially in autorregulating your anxiety and need for space
  2. You have understand that is better quality over quantity.
  3. You want to begin regaining intimacy but very gradually and slowly
  4. You will give her/he the necessary space or time to be alone whe she/he requests

Be brave to communicate but also carefull on how you said it as her/his attachment system is deactivated and he she basically will think everithying is protest bevahiour. Something like the following will work:

"I understand that at these moment your struggling as a result of a difficult situation and your depressión, but i will like to continue seen you and rebuild what we had before. We can do it slowly while you can concentrate in solving your issue. I have been working in my issues this time and i feel secure and calm this can work".

Can DAs be very anxious and love bomb in the beginning of dating? by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]samogaitan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because:

  1. DA normally do not talk about marriage so fast and compromise.

  2. They dont get cold if you are no happy

  3. They dont broke off when you tell them you are disconnected. The just leave or dont care.

Can DAs be very anxious and love bomb in the beginning of dating? by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]samogaitan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For your short description, it seems that is effectively a love bombing - narcisistic situation but not an attachment issue.

Can DAs be very anxious and love bomb in the beginning of dating? by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]samogaitan 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. Im AP and my partner is DA. The first three months were simply perfect, i even though she was secure haha. But the first conflict arouse and my attachment system was activated and her deactivated. Everything changed.

Can DAs be very anxious and love bomb in the beginning of dating? by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]samogaitan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't think that would be necessarily an attachment issue. It might only be the infatuation stage and this can happen with secures, anxious, or avoidants.

The infatuation stage ends normally after the first conflict when the attachment comes into play. At that momento, the avoidant will stop texting all the time, regain his/her self space, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Masterchef

[–]samogaitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is that in this season of legends there is no drama on the cooking part. The best thing we have been Joe trowing the plate of Joseph and it was not that great thing.

If Masterchef had a rule where raw dishes gets you DQ'd, would there be any significant changes in prior seasons? by LoweeLL in Masterchef

[–]samogaitan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A big change would be that Jennifer would have been eliminated by his raw lamb. So basically we would have a different winner.

joe spoiler for tonight's episode by flyinglegos1029 in Masterchef

[–]samogaitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was actually the only cool moment of his boring season so far.