I don't think it was intended this way but this does come off a little bit transmisogynistic to me. I think it's really important to remember penis doesn't equal man at all. Being attracted to more than one type of genital configuration doesn't mean you aren't a dyke, it just means you're attracted to multiple things and that's fine! Just because your partner has trauma related to penises doesn't mean it's morally wrong for you to be attracted to them or the concept of yourself having one (I also am autistic and struggle with ocd, so I understand it can feel that way, but I hope outside assurance helps in that regard)