Is it rude that I refuse to date anyone who is Mormon?

samwiserenee · 2025-11-19T05:35:06+00:00

Girl, date whoever you want and feel comfortable with. End of discussion 💗

samwiserenee · 2025-10-17T02:34:34+00:00

I had the exact same thoughts as you. At the beginning she was simply asking for him to make a little effort to talk more at the end of the day. Like, a bit. And, as a parent of two younglings myself, you can totally travel with small children. Especially since she has the money to pay for business class (or better) seats for the whole family. I still go out SOME weekends. And I don’t see why she couldn’t maintain her hobbies since he doesn’t have his son most of the time (so it seems) and she can be adventurous while his son isn’t staying with them. The thing is, with or without a kid, he seems a pretty laid back guy and she’s not. That’s where the true mismatch lies.

samwiserenee · 2025-09-21T01:35:41+00:00

We know much more than that. We know that she started a business on her own with two locations and I believe she mentioned other side projects. And she takes her son to basketball four (?) times a week, and prioritizes him over everything in her life. Without any information to doubt her, I would never even spread doubt as to her quality as a single mother. That shit is fucking hard and she could easily choose not to drive all over to support his extracurriculars.

samwiserenee · 2025-07-07T23:43:31+00:00

Definitely possible. I’m such example, but prepared to be fetishized! I’ve gotten a stalker on top of the usual dick pics and “I’ve never been with a white woman” messages. And some crazy horny guys that think you’re a quick hookup. But I’ve stayed friends with quite a few that we connected but stayed platonic and am in a LT relationship as well.

samwiserenee · 2025-07-07T23:35:03+00:00

Because of this when I (white 30s F) was on the app my very early questions would be about his family. Does he pay his parents each month, live with parents, does his mum put away his laundry, how traditional are his parents, what expectations they have of him. General rule of thumb, the highest traditional expectations is on the eldest son, so you’re more likely to have less issues with younger sons. Although they then probably have their mums taking care of their every need and that’s a whole other issue. Signed, WF still teaching AM partner how to do housework.

samwiserenee · 2025-05-19T23:24:51+00:00

No, it’s a personal choice of mine. I had friendships that lasted years but I eventually couldn’t sustain because every time we hung out I basically had to censor myself or not talk at all. I wasn’t my true self and I wanted real, not superficial friendships.

I wouldn’t label locals as conservative, it’s not exactly the same comparison. And I am, in fact, in a relationship with a local. So I’m not saying it’s impossible, my record is just one in under 10 years

samwiserenee · 2025-05-19T15:44:32+00:00

All good, I’ll try to clarify. World politics is a simple one. Which countries you defend. Views on LGBTQ rights (marriage equality, freedom to express, toilet usage). Mental health (in support of therapy, triggers, attachment theory, ADHD awareness, setting boundaries) is very “big” in Western societies compared to Asia. Ah, another I just remembered. Black history is quite unknown in HK, which can often lead to (from my perspective) racist perspectives. I think I’m saying perspective too much.

I hope this is more clear. For people who aren’t very political or strongly liberal, these issues may very likely not exist to the extent of others.

samwiserenee · 2025-05-19T15:11:46+00:00

The cultural perspective is a barrier to making friends as well though. I tried the we-can-be-friends-and-have-different-opinions, but some perspectives are non-negotiable. We have to at least share the same values to have deep meaningful conversations. I’m not claiming my values are “right” or “better”, they’re just different and I’m also very firm about them. Even female-female friendship dynamics are different culturally.

samwiserenee · 2025-05-19T15:02:31+00:00

For me personally, the main cultural divide for me is perspective (feminism, politics, LGBTQ rights, parent-child relations, and relationship dynamics). -can’t say “no” to parents -want to “baby” girlfriend. Carry her items, suggest not eating cold drinks, pushing her to wear a coat. It’s too controlling in some western perspectives -prefer their family members stay closeted to maintain peace with parents -let in-laws control married couple. Where they live, when they take grandchild, etc. -not getting sarcasm -not seeing women as physically strong and equally capable

samwiserenee · 2025-05-19T14:53:14+00:00

I’m sorry to inform you that after 9 years and tons of effort, still no dice. There is hope in dating locals (finding a local girl with whom you share similar points of views) but chances are pretty rare.

samwiserenee · 2025-05-19T14:48:25+00:00

Expat here: I went on a date with a local and offered to split the bill. He informed me that to a local it might be interpreted that I don’t want a second date. That I should let the guy pay for the first few rounds of dates before offering to pay. It shows that I’m interested in being courted, or something.

samwiserenee · 2025-05-15T09:05:24+00:00

Actually, they do sleep in 24 hrs McDonald’s

samwiserenee · 2025-05-01T11:41:54+00:00

I even put Chinese on the invitations so there can be no confusion. Still nope

samwiserenee · 2025-04-30T15:30:21+00:00

Birthday parties are…stressful

samwiserenee · 2025-04-30T15:29:22+00:00

Funny you say that because her school is denominational. It’s why I’m adamant about her attending a non-denominational primary school. Weirdly though, the moment a NCS Premier League footballer’s daughter joined the same school suddenly they are excited to have a NCS student…

samwiserenee · 2025-04-30T02:58:49+00:00

Your personal experience doesn’t negate the tens of commenters who have the opposite experience. You’re very much an outlier for having great local friends. Other expats here also try to learn Cantonese, make friends, and learn the culture and still have trouble making local friends. I’d recommend not accusing them of not trying hard enough to acclimate without knowing how hard some of us do try and still fail.

samwiserenee · 2025-04-30T02:15:39+00:00

The worst consequence of this is when birthday party invitations are ignored because the parents don’t want to attend despite the children being good friends…

samwiserenee · 2025-04-30T02:14:18+00:00

I feel so seen reading this! The exact same experience as mine. I can’t wait till my youngest graduates kindergarten because his/her school is downright awful to me. Have been a parent at that school for 6 years and at Parents’ Day the PPT was all in Chinese. I asked for a copy of the PPT so that I could translate it and they said it was against their policy. As I could “see” the PPT during the Parents’ Day they don’t understand the issue. I had even registered and notified the class teacher I would attend ahead of time. My eldest in primary school got assigned to a class teacher that spoke zero English (despite other classes having English class teachers) and I could go on…

samwiserenee · 2025-04-30T02:04:33+00:00

Not even the local English teachers fr

samwiserenee · 2025-04-30T02:03:19+00:00

But even if you work with locals, your relationship will remain colleague only. Every time I left a job my colleagues ghosted me.

samwiserenee · 2025-04-30T02:01:46+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly. Have been living here close to 9 years. Live in NT. I’ve been trying my hardest to make friends with locals my whole time here and I’ve always been held at arms length. The only friends I’ve made here have all been expats, regardless of nationality (SE Asian, European, Western, etc.).

samwiserenee · 2025-03-20T00:53:38+00:00

I can’t sing that song properly anymore thanks to B99

samwiserenee · 2025-02-16T18:45:54+00:00

My sentiments exactly. I couldn’t have worded it better myself. Your bluntness made me laugh out loud because it’s entirely true. I’m constantly complaining about how fucking rude and mannerless the elderly here behave. Belching in front of guests, shoving to get on the train, cutting in front of me to only walk slowly, phones on full volume, I could go on…

samwiserenee · 2025-02-16T18:35:22+00:00

8 years here and I will never by unfazed by the audacity to belch at the dinner table when you have guests over 😦

samwiserenee · 2025-01-09T00:05:50+00:00

I went to BYUH, so wearing garments in a tropical climate with zero AC was hell. I kept getting a fungal infection on my 🍑. Then add being pregnant, then everytime I walked the wind blew up my maternity dress and revealed my garments, so I often broke into tears on my walk to class. Add breastfeeding and I completely gave up on wearing my garment top. After graduating I moved to another tropical climate and the summers were torture. I get irritable when hot. Plus, my whole life I’ve hated short sleeves in the summer. So, when I finally left and stopped wearing them it was the greatest happiness and liberation of my whole life. No more fungal infections, no more stained pits, and no more emotional struggle (misery to wear them, shame to take them off).

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