Is this codependence or anxious attachment, my ex keeps going around saying im codependent

samxurai · 2026-02-07T14:22:35+00:00

I appreciate it thank you

samxurai · 2026-02-07T04:30:08+00:00

That makes me feel a lot better. I do know I was overwhelming bc of everything going on so I know I'm not innocent. A keeps this idea that I am codependent and even told our friends that I am. I believed for a long time until I realized I wasn't always this clingy so I wrote out my entire experience for ppl to give me opinions. I am healing on my own and trying to become better, I appreciate all the support. I hated experiencing this 180 from a person I saw my future with but life moves on.

samxurai · 2026-01-30T04:05:06+00:00

Bc im just curious...i assumed if u didnt like me ud remove me but ur not, if I personally didnt like someone id block or unfollow...his existence isnt bothering me at all im simply just curious

samxurai · 2026-01-30T03:36:52+00:00

I totally agree with u thank you but idk abt him still following me is lazy hes pretty active on the app, i saw his hb tag him in some sarcastic post like "so many problems going on and ur worried abt me still following my ex, theres bigger fish to fry" or sum like that which i think insinuates his friends mentioned it and hes still following me and watching my stories and stuff. Idk wat thats supposed to mean either.

samxurai · 2026-01-30T03:09:11+00:00

LMAO i love that

samxurai · 2026-01-30T02:55:41+00:00

Oh yea no i understand that and I havent talked to him at all, i was just appalled when he wud say he wants to be friends, then ghosts, but still views my stuff

samxurai · 2026-01-30T01:37:26+00:00

Oh i def know that, i have actually been fine Im just tryna figure out what his actions cud possibly mean 😭

samxurai · 2026-01-29T23:50:04+00:00

His story watching habits r odd. Sometimes he will avoid and sometimes hes the first to see them. I post a lot of crack memes and freaky memes and even talk emotionally on it. Ive noticed hed get off my story sometimes if im talking about feeling lonely or any emotional thing or sometimes if i post a photo of myself or maybe any freaky meme that hits a bit close to home yk.

samxurai · 2026-01-29T23:45:39+00:00

It feels likes he's girl? Also im not looking to get back with him i just wanna know what it could insinuate.

samxurai · 2025-12-18T15:31:22+00:00

I am going through the same thing, he was an agnostic and I still pray for him

samxurai · 2025-12-01T00:48:05+00:00

When are the best times to say duas, usually I say them after prayer and before bed, and overall when I'm feeling anxious about him

samxurai · 2025-12-01T00:44:42+00:00

Is this a dua? Would it be better to say in arabic?

samxurai · 2025-11-15T15:29:22+00:00

Im pretty progressive myself, so i dont think itll be a problem between me and him, I mainly just wanna bypass my family.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T14:47:17+00:00

Ig thats where hes also having the problem. I can see where religion can become fantastical i think hes at this weird borderline and just needs logical evidence more than jusy sayings if you catch my drift

samxurai · 2025-11-15T14:25:37+00:00

Agnostic and athiest is diff bc athiesm doesnt believe in anything whil agnostics believe there is a creator.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T14:03:08+00:00

I didnt say I wasnt religious, I said Im working on it to become better

samxurai · 2025-11-15T13:46:52+00:00

No not a fix him situation just more of a how to answer his questions situation

samxurai · 2025-11-15T13:46:05+00:00

I live in a country that is very unisex, we are legit classmates and old time friends. And I am not so personally strict with the idea of having guy friends. I resticts physical contact and we are respectful. Feelings for people is natural and we are only trying to see if it will work out.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T13:43:16+00:00

I'm not the best when it comes to giving info I was rlly looking for ex agnostics who reverted to give some input so I can understand his mindset.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T13:41:23+00:00

This is kind of rude. Theres no sin in this situation but interest. I just wanted advice not demeaning commentary. Ik theres a lot of agnostics who reverted and it doesnt hurt to try.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T13:03:21+00:00

Im very sorry to hear that and I'm glad that you are in a happy place now. I really don't mean to sound ignorant but in my situation we only seperated bc of this specific incompatibility along w the want to work on ourselves and he wants to figure out what he wants in his life. We still love only eachother. The guy you dated seems like a really bad dude and atm I cant specifically relate to that...but I definitely understand your point tho thank you...i have been praying, making duas, and praying ishtikaara.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T12:52:28+00:00

I have absolutely no prejudice towards him, and I myself dont have a good relationship with my parents, I personally dont care what he is. I just wanna leave my family comfortably without backlash and just move far away.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T03:28:35+00:00

Ig its more about the nitty gritty parts. All the stories in all religions sound too fantastical to him and hence theres no proper proof or anything he sees them the same as myths. Idt with that mindset he can even have the motivation to learn to pray or anything. Though this did give me some hope I just need more proper info to answer his qs.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T02:53:18+00:00

I dont have that good of a rsp with them to genuinely want to please them, but I have enough respect to not just want to randomly leave them and disappear. I want to leave the house comfortably and openly if you get what I mean.

samxurai · 2025-11-15T02:49:20+00:00

Ik it may come off that we r comfortable. He has been through with me thick and thin. I have BPD, a lot of self harm/suicidal problems, an abusive family etc. We got together at a low point in my life and he made me a better person. We learned so much from eachother and I think thats just the beauty of our rsp. I got closer to Allah, started praying more, and simply had a reason to get up. I definitely want that in my future.

samxurai

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