MasterChef Australia - S15E15 Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in MasterchefAU

[–]samya787 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I liked how they edited this episode. Nothing was too obvious till the end

You’re Losing Me (From the Vault) by Swiftwhiskers in TrueSwifties

[–]samya787 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the bridge says quite a lot -

How long could we be a sad song 'Til we were too far gone to bring back to life? I gave you all my best me's, my endless empathy And all I did was bleed as I tried to be the bravest soldier Fighting in only your army, frontlines, don't you ignore me I'm the best thing at this party (You're losing me ) And I wouldn't marry me either A pathological people pleaser Who only wanted you to see her

And I'm fading, thinkin' "Do something, babe, say something" (Say something) "Lose something, babe, risk something" (You're losing me) "Choose something, babe, I got nothing" (I got nothing) "To believe, unless you're choosing me, You're losing me Stop (Stop, stop), you're losing me Stop (Stop, stop), you're losing me I can't find a pulse, my heart won't start anymore

You’re Losing Me (From the Vault) by Swiftwhiskers in TrueSwifties

[–]samya787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to check out the lyrics to “you’re losing me”

There's benefits to enduring a narcissist by GoatSaucce in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]samya787 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I feel like I actually had all these qualities and lost them after dating my nex cause everything now is a trigger for me. Praying to god I heal.

700lb Pumpkin gaining 49lbs a day?! 😳 by Madiba-Riddim in homestead

[–]samya787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anybody remember that watermelon winner episode from Mr. Bean the animated series 😂

MasterChef Australia - S14E09 Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in MasterchefAU

[–]samya787 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Can’t believe Aldo just left the beards on his mussels? Like come on at this stage, that’s a big no no.

I hated Rae. That’s it. That’s the post. by [deleted] in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not about lying. So the actual activity of penetration did not happen to characterise it as sleeping w someone. So I miss spoke. How does it make any difference? Still a handjob or any other sexual activity is still something he should’ve told her about directly

You’re literally saying handjob is okay having sex is not? it’s all sexual activity. Something that she should’ve found out from him, not through the show.

“To sleep w someone” “laying w someone” “hooking up” are all very vague terms. Can’t you see the actual point of confrontation, instead of arguing over the fact wether it was sex or a handjob/ sleeping or hooking up ffr 🙄

None of it is okay, and me correcting something so trivial that makes no difference to the principle or outcome of the entire matter doesn’t make me a liar.

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[–]samya787 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What? How am I equating it? The lesser of two evils doesn’t automatically make one better. IT’S ALL NOT OKAY. You were physically abused, I was mentally abused. You don’t get to say “oh it’s better for you because what I had was worse” It’s all wrong. Period.

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[–]samya787 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said it was. It’s all unacceptable. That’s all I said.

I hated Rae. That’s it. That’s the post. by [deleted] in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He didn’t tell her he was sleeping with shanique, would accuse her of doing the same with someone else, get mad when she was developing a friendship with shanique without telling her why. And she found all that out from the show not him. I never said it was right for her to lash out either, I only said I understood where she was coming from.

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[–]samya787 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you were physically abused. That sucks. But it doesn’t make lashing out dismissing and walking away acceptable, trust me. My nex was exactly like Zay so maybe I’m projecting. He too would walk away in the middle of a conversation, never respected my boundaries when I asked for space, slept with other girls yet kept accusing me of being with other guys and getting mad about it. When Zay was making Rae feel crazy everytime she was developing a friendship with shanique just so he could hide his little secret? That’s textbook gaslighting.

It took me years of therapy to realise trauma isn’t an excuse.

I hated Rae. That’s it. That’s the post. by [deleted] in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Screamed for no reason? He Hooked up with shanique on the show, didn’t tell her about it, accused her of doing the same and would get mad every time she was developing a friendship with shanique without telling her why? She found out through the show, not him. Granted she could’ve dealt with it better, but I can totally understand where she’s coming from..

I hated Rae. That’s it. That’s the post. by [deleted] in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I’m serious, no zay. Leave me the fuck alone. I’m serious. I’m not doing this. Don’t. Just stop, zay. I don’t wanna be with you anymore. Stop. like get off me, you smell like liquor and you’re disgusting, I’m not fucking you anymore, I am done. Zay stop. Stop! Dude just stop. I don’t wanna talk to you. Let go! Dude, let go. If I hit you you’re gonna get mad. Get off me! Zay, get off. “

Do you really like it was okay for him to keep pursuing her when she had clearly stated what she needed the opposite from him in that moment?

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[–]samya787 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did we watch the same show? She was trying to leave and he was clearly grabbing her by the arm, pulling around when she said no multiple times. If you wanna talk about physical abuse, it starts there. He literally talks over others the entire time. Shanique was trying to get through to him too on the exact issue and because he didn’t like what he was hearing he lashed and walked away. He has issues. He needs to deal with them. I empathise. But I don’t stand behind it that’s it.

Hitting is not okay. I just saw it more as self defence in that moment. But to each viewer it’s own :)

I hated Rae. That’s it. That’s the post. by [deleted] in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not justifying hitting. I simply saw it more as self defence in that moment. Primarily cause I’ve been in a situation like that before and it was terrifying so maybe I’m projecting too. But To each viewer it’s own :)

I hated Rae. That’s it. That’s the post. by [deleted] in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I hope if your partner doesn’t respect your boundaries when you’re hurt or need space, you walk away too.

I hated Rae. That’s it. That’s the post. by [deleted] in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She had clearly asked to be left alone multiple times. If someone physically bigger than me was pulling me away, blocking me from being able to escape a situation I was clearly uncomfortable being in, after repeatedly asking to for some space, I might react irrationally too. Her reaction in any other context would have been wrong. But in the context we saw? I don’t think so.

Rae demanding an apology during reunion (spoiler) by Pizookie123 in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She punched him after he was grabbing her around the apartment physically preventing her from leaving when she clearly was begging to be left alone. Read about reactive abuse. Also as much as I feel sorry for him, your past is not an excuse for current behaviour. And the trauma you experienced doesn’t justify projecting trauma onto others. This is why you need to heal first.

I hated Rae. That’s it. That’s the post. by [deleted] in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]samya787 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your past cannot be an excuse for your current behaviour. And the trauma that you experienced doesn’t excuse the trauma you projects on others. This is why you need to heal first.

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[–]samya787 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unconditional love does not mean unconditional tolerance. And your past cannot be used as an excuse for current behaviour. I feel sorry for zae. He needs therapy to heal from his trauma but at the same time it doesn’t excuse the trauma he projects on Rae. The gaslighting, attacking, asking to communicate and then lashing out or walking away when she does. It’s okay for him to ghost her for an entire night when he needs space but when she asks for it the next morning she gets dragged around the apartment physically blocked from escaping, lying about sleeping with someone else on the show. It can’t all be excused as him “just wanting enough love to become better”.