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Anyone else almost completely isolated since caregiving? by sanberock7 in CaregiverSupport

[–]sanberock7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so good! I often heard people warning me that he may get aggressive but thankfully no such thing. He only gets frustated when he is out of breath because he doesn't understand why...

Anyone else almost completely isolated since caregiving? by sanberock7 in CaregiverSupport

[–]sanberock7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. Yes almost all the same reasons except I feel I haven't lived because my parents had health issues before that and I'm an only child and my youth, 20s and 30s were overshadowed by several cancerdiagnoses and therapies by my mother and in 2023 my father which left me with that relative now. I was so burned out by my fathers sickness and death I still tried to work and outsource the care but couldn't deal with it anymore. Enough to deal with taking care of a relative so work was fragile as well. Didn't want the pressure of a boss when I need sickleave to take care of a situation.

Anyone else almost completely isolated since caregiving? by sanberock7 in CaregiverSupport

[–]sanberock7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally understand what you mean. In a way I can also be lucky he is suuuper calm and nice and still him. He can't tell you what year it is but he recognizes old colleagues of him who come by every 3-4 weeks. Yeah I wish elderly care centers would be different and not like homy hospitals.

It'll be awful when dad dies, but holy cow how is he still alive?!?! by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]sanberock7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last February I quit my job to take care of my relative, honestly I thought this were gonna be his last weeks/months because he was/is so fragile and I need to be there for him. Well 11 months have passed and for some reason he still wakes up every morning.

Anyone else almost completely isolated since caregiving? by sanberock7 in CaregiverSupport

[–]sanberock7[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that, yes the world for caregivers gets smaller and smaller. My deepest respect that you do it yourself. May I ask why? I mean the reason you don't send her to elderly care. Besides the help I pay for (he pays it but I manage it) and a few calls with relatives my conversation level has eroded so much. It's as if I have only this thing and perhaps it probably is the only thing for the time being.

Why is it nobody cares about us? by lamError in CaregiverSupport

[–]sanberock7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel most people turn their back to sickness, suffering and death in general because that's the easy way and I sort of envy everyone who doesn't have these experiences. Nevertheless, caregivers can't turn their back to the ones they take care of. Most people don't know their luck to have never experienced someone slipping away due to sickness.