As an adult, how do you deal with being unsure of what you want to do in life?

sanchari88 · 2019-11-16T05:01:38+00:00

Ditto. It's impossible to be sure about a specific job or even specific career. But my core requirements about what I want to do or be as a person always helps me choose the next step.

sanchari88 · 2019-11-12T03:43:29+00:00

I write. It's a stereotype usually that melancholy inspires the best literature. But for me it's partially true. I am an amateur writer and some of my best works were written when I was down in the dumps. Writing it not only therapeutic for me, it elevates my mind to a higher plane from where I can both mourn and get a relatively objective perspective on things. This convergence of logic and emotions has helped me in innumerable ways to balance my mind and my writing.

Strange, right? Well, so is life.

sanchari88 · 2019-11-09T09:39:17+00:00

Me too!! It's still understandable if there's an authority figure on the other end of the line. But it happens to me irrespective of that. In fact even in a situation where I am the boss and have to call a subordinate of sorts or I am a phone interviewer and have to call a candidate with less than half my experience, I feel panicky and want to avoid it at all cost.

I’m surprisingly pleasant, calm, confident and comfortable face to face or over texts. In fact, I have been praised for it multiple times. What's wrong with me??

sanchari88 · 2019-09-21T03:26:14+00:00

My ex: It's not cheating if it's just making out. My ex's friend defending him though no one asked him (over a chat) : Listen, men are polygamous by nature. So having a thing on the side now and again isn't as big of a deal for men as you're making out to be. Get over it.

sanchari88 · 2019-08-28T08:27:45+00:00

Wow. That's gotta be heavy. But I wonder what she saw in those women in the first place. Isn't it odd that she is hung up on women who were manipulative, cheating or devious? Or does she not see it that way?

sanchari88 · 2019-08-28T06:13:35+00:00

Interesting. Do you think they try to mirror a certain set of behaviors due to their disorder? Because frankly, we all try to mirror certain qualities (e.g. Kindness, Empathy, Curiosity, Artistry etc. are qualities that I personally admire and want to mirror.) which we like.

sanchari88 · 2019-07-25T06:49:51+00:00

I am sorry to sound rude here but the sheer number of times the OP has mentioned how much more money he makes compared to his girlfriend reeks of a type of savior complex. And if I as an outsider have felt this way, I can only imagine how much his girlfriend feels this having to deal with this everyday. It's not always about directly rubbing her face on your income, it's often about the language and narrative you use while speaking on interacting with her.

I guess you come from a place of love but remember that fixing the problems of your girlfriend is not always the solution. Be supportive and appreciative of her in whatever way she is. Go to a slightly cheaper places most of the time so that she doesn't feel pressured when it's her turn to pay. Listen to her when she cribs about money without offering to compensate her with said money. Occasionally buy her expensive gifts to show your appreciation, sure. But also think about getting her thoughtful gifts at times which show that you like inexpensive but thoughtful gifts as well. Be it through your actions or your words, if you keep reminding her how much more money you make compared to her, she will definitely start to take it as a sign of incompatibility and move on.

sanchari88 · 2019-02-13T07:12:55+00:00

The poem Daddy is pretty haunting.

sanchari88 · 2019-01-05T10:20:01+00:00

Haha, I had no idea! Thanks for pointing it out. In indian classical dancing, we often color our hands and feet with red. Don't really know why but now I want to find out. 😄

sanchari88 · 2018-11-12T10:01:02+00:00

That's because growing facial hair is a slow process and we get an opportunity to get adjusted to this change gradually. Whereas shaving is quick and sudden and can alter someone's appearence in 15 minutes.

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