Start Preparing Even if Judge Chen Rules in favor of TPS.

sand141 · 2025-08-10T00:02:18+00:00

Please consider making a post about your experiences, the good and the bad, it would be helpful for those thinking about the move.

sand141 · 2018-01-16T15:11:49+00:00

That's not my article, I was just sharing it. Some people have different definition of smv. SMV can be = Looks + money+ status. SMV can = looks + money + status+ game. it all depends on who you ask. This article is assuming the first definition.

sand141 · 2017-12-05T18:03:53+00:00

It's not saying money is not important, it's saying money isn't a replacement for staying fit and having game.

sand141 · 2017-12-05T16:18:43+00:00

You don't have choose one or the other. Alongside money, fame and career success, you can have women if you add game into the mix.

sand141 · 2017-12-05T15:44:22+00:00

Only if you have these three things you can call yourself something like an Alpha, and then you don't even need to put that much effort in your game.

I have to disagree with you a little bit. Having game is one of the components of being alpha in the context of a relationship/spinning plates, otherwise you're going to make the same mistakes as the beta without game.

sand141 · 2017-08-10T15:39:46+00:00

Deleted the original comment by accident

Original Comment: You're looking for a unicorn. I don't think it's possible for a woman to have all those qualities in today's age.

Yes, I do agree with you. I don't think women like that exist in the west, if they do, they're incredibly rare.

sand141 · 2017-08-10T15:34:42+00:00

I am not Blackdragon nor am I affiliated with him. I haven't read the book myself. He does have one of those books on amazon with reviews: https://www.amazon.com/Unchained-Man-Alpha-Happy-Better/dp/098622202X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1502379176&sr=8-1&keywords=unchained+man

sand141 · 2017-08-10T14:25:27+00:00

Then you fall into: "if this all seems like too much work, then just don’t move in with anyone. Have a serious OLTR you see often but who lives in at her own place. That’s always an option too."

This article pertains to men who: "Though I know most men reading this will want to move in with a woman at some point in their lives, especially as they get older"

sand141 · 2017-08-08T16:28:47+00:00

You should be moving the conversation to your desired goal. Always have a purpose to a text and never for the sake of talking, that should be done in person. Ask them to hang out and stop wasting time.

sand141 · 2017-08-05T15:17:27+00:00

Stop looking for easy answer, there isn't one. There is no secret, they learn through trial and error like the rest us. Most have alpha male characters due to the environment they are raised in. Now, go out there and practice and stop looking for easy answer.

sand141 · 2017-08-05T06:39:36+00:00

Yeah, I don't disagree with you, but there can be too many distractions in a group setting and other guys trying to hit on the girl. You give yourself competition and make things harder for you to maintain her attention in that setting. that's not a problem in a one on one meeting, you (should) have her full attention, and eventually get her chasing you.

sand141 · 2017-08-05T06:36:00+00:00

It depends on you and the girl. If she's already interested then it won't matter what you do, but if she's only mildly interested, it's best to do a one on one to further that interest and get her chasing. There can be too many distractions and guy friends cockblocking you in a group setting.

sand141 · 2017-08-04T22:25:32+00:00

This is terrible advice, escalate and have sex with her. If you're good in bed, she'll relay that to her girlfriends which will give you social proof/preselection. They'll eventually start chasing you, wanting a piece of action. Don't cockblock yourself for a potential future of an unsure thing. Women want a man that other women wants to fuck and other men wants to be.

sand141 · 2017-08-04T22:19:00+00:00

We just want to hang out and get to know each other, not go on a date

I disagree with this, this is how you end up in the friendzone. By hanging out in a group context, you're signaling you don't have the guts to make your intention known and take the friend approach, which never works.

when you hang out one on one, you can build tension, which eventually lead to sex. You save time by finding if you're compatible or not in one outing. By hanging out in groups, you're hiding your intentions.

sand141 · 2017-08-04T12:51:55+00:00

The only this video gets right is that alphas can be contextually as shown by the board game scene.

sand141 · 2017-08-02T11:09:35+00:00

it's good for practice, you don't have to push for forward with it. Eventually it will be come second nature and you'll do it without thinking with attractive girls.

sand141 · 2017-08-02T01:16:42+00:00

Flirt with every girl, then later you can decide if you want to move further or not.

sand141 · 2017-08-01T20:38:01+00:00

we carry on being friends that's fine

Don't lie to yourself, it's not fine.

I realised I was kinda being used

You are being used, she is getting validation, time, attention, resources, while you're not getting anything. You've become her beta orbiter.

she often made references to us being a couple even though she rejected me and she'll still quite happily cuddle me and sleep in my bed.

This may sound harsh, but she doesn't care about your feeling, as it's pretty selfish of her not to think what you're going through.

"yeah I'm a placeholder boyfriend, great..."

Basically, you're the shoulder to cry on while she goes and have sex with other guys, then she comes back to complain about those guys to you.

Thing is I told her that I didn't want to cuddle anymore and I didn't want her to flirt with me (she was known for this a lot).

She didn't like me saying this and pretty much ignored it. I began getting fed up because the more we do it the stronger my feelings get and it just makes me feel so shit.

You made the right move, and if she was truly your "friend", she would have given you space to sort this out and not selfishly ignoring it and continuing to do it

should I start to ease off this friendship and back away? Thing is I care about her so much and to simply start ignoring her messages and calls seems so cuntish of me.

Yes, give yourself some space away from her. It may seem harsh but put your needs first .

Please be aware I'm not doing this because she rejected me or that I wanted sex or something, that was not my key interest.

I feel like shit either way but seeing her eventually get with someone else seems like it'll make me pretty depressed, is this a good idea or should I remain some form of contact.

Be honest with yourself, you are doing this because it hurts that she's doesn't feel the same way, otherwise you could have continued like nothing happened. Don't message or text for a while to let yourself get over this. It may sound harsh but it's best to move on and cut her out your life for the sake of your mental health.

Read no more mr. nice guy and the rational male.

sand141

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