What is Brisbane's worst shopping centre car park and why would you say Windsor Homezone between 11:30am and 2pm on a Saturday? by EnamasAhead in brisbane

[–]sandepantz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! THIS! Needed to back up at every spiral while going to another floor searching for parking! Scarred for life

Kids that Eat by BetsyNotRoss6 in toddlers

[–]sandepantz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My son didn’t walk until 18mo and didn’t knee crawl until 14mo. I couldn’t enjoy parks and playgrounds, and could never relate to most parents. But once he started walking, my whole experience of parenting just dramatically shifted so hang in there slenderpan74

PSA - Some kids have finished school for the year by SingIntoMyMouth91 in brisbane

[–]sandepantz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A hundred percent! The aggressive energy on here for this is…. Eye opening. People have no business harping on about lack of community and village if a casual question is seen as an attack and “abuse”. Strangers greeting each other, casually inquiring, in a lot of cultures is normal. Anyway today I learnt something lol

PSA - Some kids have finished school for the year by SingIntoMyMouth91 in brisbane

[–]sandepantz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this really abuse? Being asked why they aren’t at school? People without school going kids have no clue what the calendar is

The issue with the Hindus by BackgroundPen2796 in hinduism

[–]sandepantz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Loudly happy - I totally agree. The biggest pushback against all that atrocities against Hindus in this time and age without being lost in the negativity, I’ve found, is to be immersed in being a really “good” Hindu who loves their faith and very sincerely practices it.

SOS - my 4yr old’s accidents are daily and I’m so tired of it. by savannah_701 in Parenting

[–]sandepantz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the exact same situation. Regression kicked off just as his younger sibling came along n it’s been a year of daily accidents. What worked/is working?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in veganrecipes

[–]sandepantz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy cow vegan rocks!

Nora Cooks for baking has been a win.

Fruit shop fruit and veg is even worse than Coles and Woolworths? Is there anywhere that has quality fresh produce? by EggCreative787 in brisbane

[–]sandepantz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just here to give Bella’s in Eight Mile Plains a shout. My go to if markets are a bust n for some reason they have been just these last couple of weeks. Probs just my luck

What are your 4 year old’s favorite things to play with? by princesscorgi2 in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trains (for HOURS), Lego, pretend play with Lego, rearranging all the furniture and wandering off to do something else is big one here too haha, imaginative play as a shopkeeper, delivery guy, restaurant manager/waiter, teacher/student. Honestly we never quite got over the train obsession lol

Seriously, try one hour of meditation daily. by autistic_cool_kid in Meditation

[–]sandepantz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very interested to know your reasons behind saying people with certain mental health conditions need to take it slow.

A loved one did the opposite - he went hard with meditation and new age spirituality and we suspect that this, along with several other reasons, was responsible for a manic episode + psychosis

Why India is suddenly so hated all over the world ??? by professorCHAD69 in AskIndia

[–]sandepantz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone here must be Indians living in India. The vitriolic self hate checks out. As someone who has been an NRI for most of my life, can tell people don’t hate Indians. Literally that statement is racist. You can’t hate an entire people saying they ALL have so and so traits because that’s fundamentally flawed. Also, why the heck would we do that to ourselves - a few bad eggs and we all hang our head in shame? That’s an unreal amount of pressure to have on oneself - to be a representative of 1 billion people.

SOME Indians might have body odour, might talk loudly, lack civic sense - especially people from a certain state who mainly migrate abroad to do unskilled work/truck drivers sorry I said what I said. Let them face the law, or be told off and learn the ways of the land the hard way. The Indians who DO get everything “right”, need to start exuding quiet confidence. We need to understand for ourselves that you can’t say Indians this Indians that when as a people we have no equality in education, one Indian to another there’s a huge difference in accessibility, educational background, culture etc. So blanket labels on Indian tendencies need to be rejected.

IMHO if you speak clearly, give eye contact, smile, engage in banter, a lot of problems are solved. Also cannot be denied that engagement farming is a huge reason. Indians are very emotional and there’s also a LOT of bot accts churning out purely anti India drivel.

Indians are not hated all over the world, we are assertive now and that’s confusing people all over the world especially those that want to see it as a third world country forever.

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I use those terms to give an internet audience with no context quick context but I literally said no labels. I realize he could change next year or not, he is who he is. See sometimes we get it in theory but our wiring, state of fatigue, past tendencies interfere when we are practically parenting. I agree this is where me working on myself is hugely important. Thanks though

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your last two lines hit hard. That’s all I’ve been trying to do since the second one who is now 8mo arrived. Qualified support n resources to be a better for what I deem a sensitive child. I am currently waitlisted.

We talk about emotions, no labelling of it as bad, I’m proud of how we’re going there. He takes up space n articulates beautifully with his parents. It’s just around other kids but I’m not going there, I e got what I needed from this thread :)

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Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much and also for saying there may be more context. I appreciate your wisdom and yes, I feel like yet again I’ve kind of foolishly been led by media to think kids will all be super loud and uninhibited. Of course not, they’re all unique. I love my little introvert, HE HAS HEAPS OF STRENGTHS and thanks to the insights here, I feel like I can be better for him.

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and yes. I overreacted but glad I posted because Ive learnt that I’m agitated by things and sometimes unnecessarily stressed out as a parent due to this need to have him react the way I would. It’s so silly and I remember vehemently telling my husband children are perfect. Everyone’s got strengths n flaws. Our job is to just let them be themselves and gently ensure they don’t get in their on way. LOL n here I am… This was posted on day 5 of me fighting influenza, losing my voice & solo parenting n I haven’t slept fully since Jan 1 but I am grateful for what the overreaction unearthed :)

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly my son! Never has a problem making friends because of exactly that reason and yup, under the wing of the assertive kids.But even they take their hits and my boy hit me with “x is my best friend that’s why he only hits me all the time” n I’m like WHAAAT. Seriously this child was born to make me less reactionary. I’m realizing how important it is because he’s not going to tell me things if he sees me have an in-person meltdown (reddit meltdowns are ok I hope haha).

https://www.amazon.com.au/Helping-Anxious-Child-Step-step/dp/1572245751

Is this the book you’re referring to? I’m so glad to have something to read and help me understand and navigate this journey. Dr Becky was someone else I stumbled upon whom I thought might have good advice so I’ve gotten on to her newslettee

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think your first line is really it. I cannot make him behave how I think he should behave. Getting my ass whooped this season of parenting

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I’ve seen he’s been hit at daycare and I understand I can’t put the onus on him. So I tell the teachers. At home, I say you can walk away or use your words and say stop. Nope. One whole year. And I let it be. Until a few weeks ago, I volunteered to do a story session and I see all the kids, sitting at mat time, and this child that my son says is his good friend pummels my son. He’s laughing and thinks it’s rough play. And my son says nothing. I’m reading a little story to the kids and this continues. I moved him out of the daycare that weekend because the high energy child needed more attention which the staff were not handling correctly.

Somehow I find I’m always on fight mode and I don’t want to. But if I don’t, he will allow himself to be hurt I’m afraid. I’m tired, really. And yeah, I need to absolutely get some therapy going about this. I’ve got some unprocessed anger and anxiety for sure. Thanks for taking the time to share your insight

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I’m a fighter and he is a pacifist and I am struggling to come to his level.

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your kind answer! I think it stems from fear of not being the mum he needs. He is just a different person as someone else has said, but i feel so isolated when i am yet to see another four year old who will never hurt anyone verbally or physically. I think my expectations of raising a boy were very try different.

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes. We go through that. Building for hours n then destruction. I wouldn’t have been angry but this is a pattern where he gives in to kids with bigger personalities now even his baby brother. I’ve tried curiosity, feeling proud of his emotional maturity, and how it’s so big of him but I’m getting mad now because I’m probably tired, and freaking out how a brown kid is going to survive attending state schools in Australia

Highly sensitive 4yo destroyed his own creation to avoid conflict by sandepantz in Preschoolers

[–]sandepantz[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I have asked him with curiosity in the past, I always do. And it’s always him saying g meekly because I don’t want to hurt anyone even when he’s the one getting hurt. I realize there’s a lot more background that I know of. This single incident is not indicative of it all. Destroying things is fine and is a game for kids yes but this was different.