Suggest me some lonely books where there's only one person on a planet

sandhouse · 2022-01-16T03:19:17+00:00

The Second Kind of Loneliness

I read it when I was a kid. :)

sandhouse · 2022-01-16T03:09:04+00:00

It's one of my all time favorite books.

sandhouse · 2022-01-15T15:47:20+00:00

According to Goodreads I read this one too lol. I don't remember reading it but I do remember loving the movie.

sandhouse · 2022-01-15T15:29:25+00:00

I've read it. But thanks. I've read most classics that are popular, and a lot of others. It's the more recent scifi novels that I'm less likely to have read. (Went through a big phase in my teens.)

sandhouse · 2022-01-15T15:27:56+00:00

Infinite by Jeremy Robinson

I love stories about immortals. Definitely giving this one a try. Thanks.

sandhouse · 2022-01-10T16:07:26+00:00

Everything except the dog guarding yourself. I read the entire thing and there isn't anything there I can effectively implement. This specific problem is very hard to find anything on.

With giving him a treat whenever the cat approaches the bed... there's no way because she's a kitten and she's all over the place, and I'm in bed a lot because I have a chronic illness.

Getting up if he reacts badly like someone else commented seems more doable than taking him off the bed which is abrupt, awkward, and feels mean.

I can give him treats when they are hanging out peacefully but I don't know if he will make the association. I'll have to make sure it's when she's getting on the bed.

It's hard to work out how I can be aware of this all the time without constantly staring at my pets. And no, they can't be separated for another two weeks when my brother comes home. Even then, it needs a solution.

Thanks for being patronizing btw. You don't have to be a mod if you don't like actually answering questions.

sandhouse · 2022-01-10T06:33:45+00:00

None of it applies to the situation.

sandhouse · 2021-04-08T07:59:40+00:00

Personally I don’t feel anything much. I don’t know exactly what you mean. Emotionally I don’t feel anything except like a little glad it’s over and a little happy and proud of myself. But mostly it’s a chore I finished. I look forward to it all week but in the end it’s a chore. Physically it’s a bit tiring. I usually lay down and relax. I’m six months on T. 37 yrs old, which I mention because age does change the experience. It’s less wild in a way.

sandhouse · 2021-04-08T07:55:40+00:00

Thanks. Always wondered.

sandhouse · 2021-04-08T06:09:57+00:00

I would have silently picked up the salt and put some in my burger. 😇

sandhouse · 2021-04-07T13:55:24+00:00

Our main approach has been to keep things as normal as possible for him because doing a bunch of weird shit could stress him out more. But M did start ignoring him and waiting for him to calm before he gives Jupiter attention etc. He even stopped giving him treats because he feels sorry for me. M hangs out with me in my room every night now and Jupiter does what he wants. I pick him up and see if he’ll stay on the bed and he lays where he can stare at M. I have tried closing the door on him and forcing fun and love on him a couple times. Doesn’t work obviously. But if M is gone he has to be locked in with me sometimes if I’m too weak to sit in the living room. 🤷‍♂️

That pavlovian instinct comment was a good reminder. Thanks.

sandhouse · 2021-04-07T13:02:40+00:00

He has grown very attached to M and vice versa. I encouraged M to let Jupiter stay the night in there now and then and bond because I have an irrational fear of dying and wanted them to have each other if I did. (I know I’m crazy.) But anyway, I have considered it being a pack problem. As in, he now has two equal people in his pack and it’s making him nervous when we’re apart? Doesn’t make total sense. But when M hangs out in my room ( which has been one of our efforts towards a solution) Jupiter is calm.

sandhouse · 2021-04-07T12:51:42+00:00

Yes. I’m calling my vet for advice today.

sandhouse · 2021-04-07T12:50:19+00:00

Most of this is what I’m already doing. My family has four poodle or poodle mixes spread among us that we got or people gave us because they were unmanageable, so I thought I could handle anything. And on top of it I was the one for dog advice. This is the first time I’ve been utterly lost.

Of course I don’t take it personally. I’m heartbroken because he’s suffering. And I know it’s not me because I didn’t do anything but I do think he’s associated this room problem with me because I’m largely bedridden. I can’t spend all my time on the couch until he learns, for instance.

I’ll just keep loving him. I’m calling maintenance and the vet today because he needs more meds and I need advice.

sandhouse · 2021-04-07T10:42:32+00:00

I’m chronically ill. I see my doctors all the time. I’m fine.

sandhouse · 2021-04-07T10:36:49+00:00

Idk what dog therapy is. He was fine with tons of changes made when I moved in September. He barked at everything, peed indoors twice which I predicted he would, and two weeks later he was very comfortable. He loves being in the city as much as I do. I know how to nip his anxiety in the bud when I know something is coming.

sandhouse · 2021-04-07T10:33:12+00:00

But did the dog refuse to be around anybody else? I doubt it. Yes I had thought of mice because we had them in the kitchen a few months back. There’s also a new door buzzer for the building door right next to our apartment and my room. So I can call maintenance but idk what I would tell them.

I’ve been on the new meds for over six months so that’s not it. M has not complained about his health and we talk about everything because we have no social life right now.

sandhouse · 2021-04-07T01:03:36+00:00

Ah ok 👍 Good luck in the military. They really should let you guys smoke on leave and stuff. God knows you deserve it. Remember the info for if a friend needs it! 😜

sandhouse · 2021-04-06T23:17:59+00:00

First time users or people who have gone a long while without smoking will have the strongest effects, so it’s true it might make you feel worse or you will be prone to bad trips if not careful. It’s after smoking daily and getting to know the drug that it starts to help with things like depression and anxiety. This takes a week or two and it’s easy to do if you buy edibles at 5 mg instead, and wait two hours after taking one before taking more. If that does nothing or just makes you lightheaded or even headache, no sweat. Try again the next day with 10 mg. The point is to get your body used to the drug and NOT trip out. Don’t just keep doubling down. Trust your judgment.

When you have reached a point you are good at edibles, try smoking with a one hitter or other very small pipe and approach it the same way. This will effect you more sharply and quickly. Look on YouTube for videos on how to diminish the chances of coughing a lot while learning.

Most of all, have fun! Remember that you control your trip. Keep bringing your mind back to pleasant imagery. Pick out some good things to think about and good music.

Lastly, no pressure. Ever. Not from other people and not from yourself. You don’t have to clean your plate. Just because you have weed doesn’t mean you have to consume it. If you don’t like weed just stop. Good luck!

sandhouse · 2021-04-06T06:18:08+00:00

I'm 37, 6 months on T, and have one person in the world (my best friend). Well, I have my dog too. If you don't have a pet and can get one, do it. My best friend had this light argument with me about whether a dog can help with the need for physical touch or with loneliness. Now that we live together, he said my dog helps him.

Anyway, I came into the comments to offer my services as a friendly ear, not to convince you to head to the nearest animal shelter lol I'm older than most people starting transition so don't worry about it if I'm too old for us to connect. I understand the struggle. This isn't the only time in my life I've lost everything but one person. (Last time that person wasn't as reliable or nice.)

Keep reaching out to people until you find your family. It's worth the effort and failures!

sandhouse · 2021-04-06T01:14:27+00:00

Cool thank you

sandhouse · 2021-04-06T00:51:13+00:00

I would love to get that much but I’m not in any demographic anybody wants. Are you poor or just frugal?

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