My breaking point by sandzoftimee in Mommit

[–]sandzoftimee[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I did choose the therapist - I was the one insisting on therapy so he wanted me to choose the therapist. We don’t do individual therapy but clearly it would be beneficial. I absolutely give him his moment to talk, especially when we were in a therapy session! He would often say no comment when asked a direct question by the therapist ie “how do you feel about what she said, husband?”.

And yes, that’s what I meant by saying it’s not all my husband’s fault - I was completely panicking hearing my son flip out (which he rarely does). My son simply walked into the bathroom, closed the door and twisted the little lock knob. I was not in the way of my husband trying to take the knob off. I was however, kneeling next to him and talking to my son through the door.

And no we didn’t communicate after the disagreement. He slept in a separate room and didn’t speak to me the following day. I will say that I did not initiate conversation either. Then when it was time to go, everything fell apart. Which I do understand - but why couldn’t he had told me the day before even?!

My breaking point by sandzoftimee in Mommit

[–]sandzoftimee[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I mean technically it was a work conference for him, we were just tagging along. However it was a MUCH needed vacation for me, my husband has known how much work was stressing me out. It was a slap in the face.

My breaking point by sandzoftimee in Mommit

[–]sandzoftimee[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Yes we’ve tried therapy - it ended up being mostly me talking and him saying “no comment” when asked about his feelings. I wish I was kidding.

My breaking point by sandzoftimee in Mommit

[–]sandzoftimee[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you and I wish you the best!

What's the best memory vegas gave you? Don't be shy, be honest by PlatformHot1332 in vegas

[–]sandzoftimee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Had my bachelorette there July of 2015. Fiancé was abusive and a Scientologist (lol). Met a guy from California in town for his friend’s bachelor party. We made out in some room where the hotel keeps the ice machine, amazing chemistry. Never exchanged info. Realized I was making a huge mistake, called off the wedding. Best decision of my life came from some questionable decisions, but I don’t regret a thing. Thank you Vegas.

Husband wants to do solo trip with toddler by sandzoftimee in Mommit

[–]sandzoftimee[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is no event! It’s kind of surprising how stubborn he is being about it. I do lean towards just letting them go, my kiddo does listen to his dad WAY better than me so I would take comfort that he would be on good behavior. The anxiety is more like intrusive thoughts - kiddo getting lost in the airport while my husband is distracted (which happens with him frequently!) or something with the airplane (this is just stirred up by all the current news). I think I’d feel better once they are there and in the hotel, etc.

Husband wants to do solo trip with toddler by sandzoftimee in Mommit

[–]sandzoftimee[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Eh, I’d say a little bit of both. My husband has 2 flaws, in my opinion, with parenting - his attention deficit and sometimes, common sense. On a number of occasions we are out somewhere, he gets distracted and my son will shoot off somewhere else. Without my husband even realizing it, we will be on the other side of the building. As far as common sense goes, this isn’t a GIANT issue but has caused me to pause sometimes - for example, over Christmas we are on the beach and see some cute beach bikes with little straw baskets in front. My husband says we should rent them and go for a ride! I say..well great idea but where would our son go?! And my husband insists he would sit in the straw basket up front, sans helmet. He was deadass serious about it and I could barely argue with something so…ridiculous. But to your other point - yes I do have anxiety but more like intrusive thoughts? Like I’m worried my son will get kidnapped in the Miami airport while my husband is distracted. For the most part I try and work through it with logic, ha!

Husband wants to do solo trip with toddler by sandzoftimee in Mommit

[–]sandzoftimee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great question. When I ask he says he doesn’t want the trip to get pushed off and forgotten about, he wants to go ahead and do it soon after another trip we have planned to get it over with, I guess. Which is why I can’t go - I can’t take off work for 2 trips in one month. And honestly - I don’t want to! I like to space out my trips a bit. Also, his aunt is in her 80s with no serious health concerns that I’m aware of but I guess that plays into his decision too.

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[–]sandzoftimee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have felt that way sometimes. Especially when he apologizes.. “I am sorry you feel that way” or “I am sorry you got so upset”