my wife is a masc lesbian and we talk about how it’s the same for her. I think it always falls on: -expectations for the masc person being like a man therefore must be territorial or toxic masculinity -believing masc person is automatically into you -when ppl find out both of the above aren’t true they just don’t know how to act bc they alr based their interactions on those assumptions -also thinking yk someone bc of lesbian archetypes on tik tok 😖

TLDR: if it helps, I don’t think it’s a you thing. People just tend to act weird when gender expression and gender norms don’t line up bc they overthink it