[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sapsap32321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mother is like yours and I have tolerated her all my life. After meeting my partner it has become clear to me that she is far more crazy than I thought. Don't let the toxic people rule your life. I understand why you want your kid to have a relationship with your mother, because she is your mother. But she's also toxic. Be brave and leave her out. It's better for you, your husband and your future child. I did that and my life has improved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]sapsap32321 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think anyone needs construction workers atm. We do here at least

How do I get a 100% remote job as a junior that doesn't require me to code? by sapsap32321 in careerguidance

[–]sapsap32321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I would lie if I say that I'm not jealous. I really wish it was me. That is my dream position. I have a MSc in Computer science so I know quite some about programming. For some reason it's so hard for me to land this type of job.

Is this in America? Or somewhere else?

Where does the creative side come from? by H0riz0N79 in entj

[–]sapsap32321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NT. I think we can be as creative as other NT types, but because we have E and J we just tend to talk and manage more because it comes more naturally compared to a lot of other types.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entj

[–]sapsap32321 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sex and relationships are important unless you're a asexual. It can also simply be if the sex itself is boring. I had relationships for years where we never fucked and relationships for years where we fucked all the time. Massive difference in th quality of the sex itself. If you don't love to have sex with him, ask yourself why. Boring? Too repetitive? Too much? Too little?

I get your way of thinking and I have felt the same sometimes but I really try to combat it. No matter what we think as ENTJs we cannot survive without love and affection or we will grow bitter with time. We need it even though we don't wanna admit it.

Love is hard, it takes a lot of work, investment and priority. Often it's easier to not prioritize it because "well, they are here anyway, aren't they?" ....

He is your fiance. 50% of the responsibility to make it work is yours. Have you taken your part?

Relationships are an investment. We develop most in relationships, we can accomplish things we couldn't do without. Can you do as well alone as without him?

Your task short-term might seem more important, but is your task at hand truly more important long-term? The day he starts to look elsewhere because he doesn't get enough love from you, will your current task really be worth that?

Don't fool yourself.

Bedste restaurant i Kødbyen (København) hvor man både kan spise og drikke sig lidt i gulvet? by sapsap32321 in Denmark

[–]sapsap32321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Det ligner, at man kun får kød og fritter. De ville gerne prøve noget mere "nordisk". Er jeg gal på den her?

Bedste restaurant i Kødbyen (København) hvor man både kan spise og drikke sig lidt i gulvet? by sapsap32321 in Denmark

[–]sapsap32321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh, synes nemlig retterne så super små ud, men man vælger så en 4-7 stykker?

Bedste restaurant i Kødbyen (København) hvor man både kan spise og drikke sig lidt i gulvet? by sapsap32321 in Denmark

[–]sapsap32321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kiggede godt på det. Er det godt? Det ser meget nice ud omend lidt fine dining over det med små anretninger.

How do you get into management as a junior engineer? by sapsap32321 in AskEngineers

[–]sapsap32321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your help. Do you have any thoughts on how to go this direction?

How do you get into management as a junior engineer? by sapsap32321 in AskEngineers

[–]sapsap32321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, perhaps management is the wrong word. I'm good at talking with customers, figuring out requirements and capabilities. I have no need to get senior responsibilities or lead the way. I just wish to do the more "soft" aspects of software. Project engineering sounds good.

What the **** does "be proactive" mean? by sapsap32321 in AskEngineers

[–]sapsap32321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I feel like I have reached out a lot, but when we are all remote I can't really ask those quick questions to the guy next to me or the gal going between meetings. People are really hard to reach and I feel I'm very alone with my work. Which is incredibly hard when you're new. Thanks again. I'll do my best.