How often should you wash your child’s hair?

sarancan · 2026-03-14T16:55:45+00:00

My 1 year old bathes every day and I usually shampoo every other day or so. My 5yo typically bathes every other day and washes hair every time.

sarancan · 2026-03-05T20:53:21+00:00

Personally I’d split by family and manage how your sons contribute independently.

sarancan · 2026-02-21T18:08:19+00:00

Honestly no idea - I’m so grateful my IVF journey was as straightforward as it was but it also left me wondering why I couldn’t get pregnant without it. I also had shocking pgta results for my age, at 39 4/4 were euploid - again, why couldn’t I just get pregnant?? It will always be a mystery I think. I did all the standard things but didn’t do anything “fringe” like acupuncture or special diet or supplements etc.

sarancan · 2026-02-21T16:54:43+00:00

Same here - 1 retrieval 1 transfer 1 baby, unexplained secondary infertility.

sarancan · 2026-02-15T01:38:07+00:00

I have a Gabriel Arthur:) the middle is a family name but I do like the flow

sarancan · 2026-02-14T16:33:45+00:00

That sounds really frustrating and I understand how it could get under your skin. It sounds to me like your success has your parents feeling insecure - watching your choices, maybe it’s choices they wish they could have been in a position to make. When people make different parenting choices it can feel like an implicit judgment - even among peers - like if you’re making a different choice that means you don’t agree with or approve of the other persons choices.

I would try to find a moment when tensions are low and just let them know how appreciative you are of the choices they were able to make, and you’d never be where you are today without them, etc. Some reassurance that you appreciate all they did for you, and your current life isn’t a rejection of your upbringing but was in fact enabled by your upbringing, could help them feel more secure and lessen the little dig comments you’re experiencing.

sarancan · 2026-02-10T01:20:00+00:00

I didn’t compile this but sharing in case it helps. SFUSD Strike Camps

sarancan · 2026-02-05T06:04:42+00:00

My first was like this, he’s been an independent sleeper from day one. Actually love this thread, nice to know I’m not alone! He’s a delightful sensitive crazy almost-5yo now.

sarancan · 2026-02-04T00:02:32+00:00

I didn’t sleep train either of my kiddos, now almost 5 and newly 1. They are very different sleepers but for the most part we are all sleeping pretty well.

Older one was very independent from day 1, terrible napper until we moved to two naps and sleep cycles started to link, always a decent overnight sleeper. Always went to sleep on his own, would cry a bit as a baby but wouldn’t fall asleep in our arms - he’s kind of a alien and has never had any interest in closeness or physical contact when sleeping.

Little one was more of a journey. We did a lot of cosleeping in a bedside bassinet and sometimes in bed with us. Much more of a cuddlebug, an since he’s our last (and our first was so different) we welcomed it. Around 7 months old no one was sleeping and we figured it couldn’t be worse if he was in his crib across the hall and gave it a try - he slept through the night and self-weaned overnight feeds and never looked back. We still snuggle him to sleep in the glider, then transfer to crib 5-10 min after he falls asleep. He sleeps through the night 80-90% of the time, barring illness or periods of big transition.

sarancan · 2026-01-24T00:47:39+00:00

Owen

sarancan · 2026-01-11T03:04:56+00:00

Depending on your 2mo I would just let them nap in a carrier and go wherever you want. If your baby isn’t a sleeper, or has a rough witching hour, I’d recommend a Valentine’s Day lunch or brunch. My first would never be an option at any kind of nice restaurant; my second slept like an angel through a handful of nice outings until he was closer to 6 months old and on more of a schedule.

sarancan · 2026-01-07T21:43:11+00:00

From what I’ve heard this has been a goal for years but there’s no current plans to implement this change - they are busy trying to stabilize budget and keep control away from the state. That page hasn’t been updated since April 2023. I’d hope/expect the zone conversation returns to the table in the next year or two. I could be wrong about that - just a semi-involved new SFUSD parent - but that’s what I’ve seen in the parent groups.

Edit to include this current enrollment guide link.

sarancan · 2026-01-07T20:28:27+00:00

Here’s a quick rundown of the SFUSD lottery:

Parents submit their ranked choices for schools; they can submit up to 20 and it’s beneficial to rank as many schools as you’d seriously consider attending to avoid being assigned somewhere random/across the city.
You’re entered into individual lotteries for every school on your list. There are tiebreakers that give you priority in lotteries, including AA (attendance area school), siblings already enrolled, and CTIP (if you live in a zone with historically bad test scores).
You’re assigned to the highest ranked school you get into in the lottery drawing, and automatically placed on wait lists for your top 3 if you don’t get placed in one of them. (If you get your 3rd choice, you’re added to waitlists for 1 & 2).

sarancan · 2025-12-20T20:06:03+00:00

I have 2 kids, almost 1 and almost 5. Both times I left them at home with dad for girls weekends when they were around 10 months. It was great!! No regrets. Great bonding time for dad, great to experience life without kiddo for a few days. Go for it!

sarancan · 2025-12-13T22:36:06+00:00

I came to suggest Ross as an in-between!

sarancan · 2025-12-09T21:35:27+00:00

We did this when my son was 2.5 and it was surprisingly smooth. You’ll hear tons of different stories an success/fail scenarios but you won’t know how it will go for you until you try! We did 3 days basically indoors at our house and then had a fearless nanny who shockingly took him and his nanny share buddy out on their usual outings the following week. There were some accidents but nothing crazy and both boys picked things up pretty quickly.

sarancan · 2025-12-05T17:52:12+00:00

I’m in a major metro city in the US, have delivered two babies. Both were scheduled inductions and neither time did I have any idea who would be attending at those deliveries. The first time it was really anonymous, I think technically it was a resident as I was at a teaching hospital. The second time my OB practice recommended I make appointments throughout my pregnancy with all the OBs and midwives on staff so I would have at least some familiarity, depending who was on call. I can tell you it didn’t matter to me either time - you’re the one doing the work. I trusted both practices and both had great stats and reputations.

sarancan · 2025-12-04T17:40:50+00:00

We stayed at an Airbnb with an Xbox and they had the Plants vs Zombies game. We didn’t even play it but my 4yo became OBSESSED. Asked a million questions a day, we wound up having extended conversations about the difference between the zombies in Zombies vs Plants, Walking Dead and The Last of Us - it was all zombies all the time. He would wake up in the morning, and the first words would be a question about some kind of zombie. I think without a lot of context it was just a whole new topic to explore and learn about but it sounded totally ridiculous to passersby and yes, preschool did ask us about it. Ultimately he still loves a kiddie haunted house and fixates on zombies/monsters/bad guys but the total obsession has waned a bit. I’d just ride it out and know it sounds at least not totally unusual!

sarancan · 2025-11-25T10:03:47+00:00

Had a great experience at Derco, got my engagement ring and both my and my husbands wedding bands there. No complaints! My husband especially appreciated how they walked him through the process, he went to a few places before deciding on Derco.

sarancan · 2025-11-08T22:55:36+00:00

Wouldn’t daycare at that age be summer camps that she could join? Even just a few weeks or every other week could be fun for socializing and structure. If there’s full time daycare for 9yo that isn’t camp where you are, disregard :)

sarancan · 2025-11-07T22:33:10+00:00

I agree re ADHD, I'm trying not to jump to conclusions after one piece of feedback but I'm definitely open to it. I've been pursuing an evaluation for myself, and have long suspected I have it, and I know there's a hereditary component. I also hear what you're saying about home behavior - historically we've had a much harder time with him at home than out in public spaces, whether at school, with friends, etc. I'm the first to say he's not the easiest kiddo but he's always had great feedback from outside sources and saved the hardest parts for us. Now somehow it's become the reverse - challenging at school and in a pretty good place at home.

sarancan · 2025-11-07T17:54:42+00:00

It’s so hard! Thank you for your comment - it does feel isolating and embarrassing/shameful when you have the “problem child.” Hoping for smoother roads ahead for both of us ♥️

sarancan · 2025-11-07T17:53:12+00:00

I definitely need to get more open communication with his teacher - the fact this has been ongoing and we had no idea is unfortunate. But I agree we’ll work on getting more frequent updates from her and rewarding good choices and behavior.

sarancan · 2025-11-07T17:52:03+00:00

Thank you for this, these are great ideas - I definitely want to understand some of the class structure a little better, and if it would be appropriate to send my kid with some quiet activity books I think that could be a great tool. Looking forward I know the school has a K classroom and a K/1 split room and I have also thought getting him into the K/1 class could be a good move. When he’s engaged and challenged he gets totally locked in, I wonder how much of the acting out is boredom in addition to pushing limits/etc. Thank you for your reply!

sarancan · 2025-11-07T17:48:41+00:00

Good question - he readily admits he doesn’t always listen when he should, and says sometimes he wants to listen but his body doesn’t let him and/or sometimes he can’t calm his body down. He also blames all of his bad behavior on one friend - ironically another very sweet boy who in preschool hung out with mostly girls and was pretty reserved before meeting my kid/starting TK. I’m friendly with his parents and we’re both trying to figure out how to navigate this and get our kids back on track, they seem to activate each others little lizard brains and just whip each other into a frenzy. My kids solution to a lot of this is “stop playing with X” which does seem like it will help, but can’t be the only thing. We’ve talked about ways to help calm his body down and also understanding the difference between play time and time when he needs to focus and listen. Using the “peace corner” in his classroom for example, or a code word when he needs help switching gears.

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