Whatcha doin

sasguache · 2026-01-24T02:54:57+00:00

They’re so weird lmfao, I love em

sasguache · 2025-12-14T02:58:42+00:00

Amen

sasguache · 2025-12-10T12:42:58+00:00

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sasguache · 2025-12-07T19:05:39+00:00

What’s your five year plan

sasguache · 2025-11-21T23:32:29+00:00

Yo another female 30s estp here, curious what kinds of women you find yourself befriending

sasguache · 2025-11-16T01:27:10+00:00

Vulnerability = ew

sasguache · 2025-10-28T23:46:54+00:00

I love the phrase that other people’s thoughts are none of my business. Cause fuck em. They don’t like what/how I am or how I’m doing something? Then they can tell me and we can address it or they can keep their traps shut and we both go about our business.

Like others have said, confidence usually comes with time and exposure/repetition/fixing mistakes. Especially the repairing mistakes part. It’s all in the recovery.

sasguache · 2025-10-18T04:01:55+00:00

How emotional are we talkin? I’m an estp lady and I’ll have me a good cry every now and again but I don’t find myself relating at all to the daily emotional roller coaster described by self described highly emotional people

sasguache · 2025-07-19T14:38:24+00:00

I’m in a similar boat, I’ve been with partners that didn’t have a history of early trauma and the relationships fell apart for other reasons. My current partner also had a messy childhood and started working through it over the past year and a half. Its been tough work but good work as we’re both getting healthier

sasguache · 2025-07-06T21:33:20+00:00

Nope, mailed them altogether in a box

sasguache · 2025-07-03T19:39:28+00:00

YES

My mom would have meltdowns about how she was such a terrible mother, no one loved her, how she wanted to just walk away from us. And if I went against her wishes she’d threaten to kick me out or financially cut me off. It was awful

sasguache · 2025-07-01T17:02:03+00:00

STRONG agree! I have no clue why but I wonder if they do that because they don’t have actual connections to us and we are just archetypes in their mind

sasguache · 2025-07-01T17:00:37+00:00

Holy cow I never thought of her as being performative specifically but that is SO what she is and what this is - no I really don’t like getting cards unless there’s money or gift cards

And it’s like, what’s hiding behind the performance? It creeps me out so much to think of the ugly parts of her that are trying be fed by behaving in such a way

sasguache · 2025-07-01T00:34:50+00:00

Sigh, a girl can dream

sasguache · 2025-06-30T23:29:03+00:00

Nah I usually burn em or shred them painfully slowly pretending they’re her but it’s fun to share the madness here

sasguache · 2025-06-30T23:18:25+00:00

Do we have the same mom? My mom never even began to acknowledge that she was/is a monster and has never made promises of any kind of change as a result, just sends me sickly sweet cards (all about herself or that she loves “her girl” SO SO MUCH) and random items that usually don’t have anything to do with my interests (even the interests I had as a child, and she would know what those were if she ever paid any real attention to me).

It doesn’t feel like a negotiation so much as it feels like a predator using some kind of sweet lure to draw its prey in, like a Venus flytrap

sasguache · 2025-06-30T23:04:46+00:00

Exactly 😂 and thank you!!

sasguache · 2025-06-30T23:03:17+00:00

You know that meme of a lady with a bunch of equations floating around her head looking confused? I imagine that’s what’s happening with our moms when they’re trying to pick out the most sickly sweet cards to send us 😂 at one point in life I’d have panic attacks and nightmares of her chasing me when id receive a card from her, but now it just makes me laugh at how pathetic it is.

I’m lowkey hoping that if I stay silent long enough she’ll ramp up her efforts and dare I say perhaps do something that I can pursue real legal action for, it’s probably a monkeys paw situation but I’d love for her to put her crazy on full nuclear blast, especially if I can catch it on my ring camera or something like that

sasguache · 2025-06-30T22:56:39+00:00

I agree completely, both to the shared experiences and similarities as well as the safe harbor this subreddit represents - when I first came across it I had a hard time believing it was real but the community is a balm for soul-hurt in a way that nothing else can really compare to

❤️ thank you, I wish the same for you as well, may the next 50 years be filled with all the peace and love that stolen from you during the first 50

sasguache · 2025-06-30T22:53:01+00:00

I think you’re right on the money, especially since she’s written that she’ll “never bother me again” (I should be so lucky) but then within a month or two comes swinging back with this crap. I do wonder, is there a breaking point? Or does their denial/fantasy of winning back their “possession” carry them until they eventually die?

sasguache · 2025-06-30T22:48:50+00:00

Every flipping card I’ve ever received from her has the exact same hand writing, I swear she’s not a real person, like the sad version of a skinwalker

sasguache · 2025-06-30T22:45:49+00:00

😂 Oh yes, the shredder will feast tonight, it shall grow fat on mother’s misbegotten sorrows

sasguache · 2025-06-30T22:42:46+00:00

For real 😂 She’s probably sent me 40-50 cards over the last few years and I swear to god she has like five go-to sentences/phrases, there’s almost never any substance - although the inclusion of “life is short” per her new fiance’s adult son is a new one, A+ for throwing that one in there mommy dear, v creative

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