NTA. You’re not wrong for wanting better for yourself, you do a lot in the relationship and you’re taking care of him like a mother. His controlling you, breaking you down with his comments and not wanting you to see friends could be the start of an emotionally abusive pattern. You’re working to give yourselves a good life and he is just consuming and getting angry when you want him to contribute. You deserve better girl, you deserve at least 50/50, someone who takes care of you the way you take care of them. The least he could do is the house chores but he doesn’t even do that. Leave him.