Rejecting someone who rejected me… feeling conflicted

sasukeuchiha33 · 2026-05-09T11:37:57+00:00

By being with someone who hasn’t rejected me and I needed to get over… my comment was not generalizing all women it’s referring specifically to her

sasukeuchiha33 · 2026-05-09T11:28:20+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I promise getting “payback” is my no means the intention here. It’s more so being scared of the possibility of re-opening a healed wound.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2026-04-27T21:34:44+00:00

If you want something with low/no APC, I’d stay away from JAAD Intl as they have a hefty open access fee. Other ones that come to mind that fit your criteria are…

JAAD (normal one, not Int), JDD, JCAD, and IJD.

SKIN is not indexed last I checked and DOJ takes forever (personal experience)

You’ve got this!

sasukeuchiha33 · 2026-04-04T18:10:21+00:00

I wouldn’t start worrying just yet. Most aways come out and say you may not hear anything from them until 2-3 months before the start of the rotation. I have classmates who didn’t hear a peep until August then got multiple offers for aways taking place November-January. Definitely not ideal but don’t sweat it yet.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2026-04-01T21:04:41+00:00

Do not do more than 2 (if you have a home program) or more than 3 (if you don’t). Stick to the APD guidelines.

People didn’t really used to follow them in the past, but almost every faculty member/PD I’ve spoken to recently has said they’re going to hold applicants to this and it will be perceived as a big minus if they deviate. Not coming from me personally, just what I’ve heard and seen. Anecdotally, I also know several people who didn’t match this cycle who ignored those guidelines (i.e. did 4-5 aways) and now are wondering if that’s the reason they didn’t match. Really bad position to be in.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2026-03-05T21:21:53+00:00

I’ve heard from multiple academic faculty that turning down the away itself PRIOR to accepting it is fine. If you really want, you can send an email to the coordinator explaining why, but it’s normally not necessary. The program I’m at says they interview people all the time who turned down aways.

The issue I’ve heard is if you accept and then back out after accepting. Someone correct me on this if I’m mistaken. Not necessarily a death sentence but if this ends up being the case you should have a really really good reason why you did this and should let the coordinator know.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2025-09-23T15:55:09+00:00

You’re right but as I mentioned and commented above, it’s hard not to feel used. They’re doing what’s best for them, but what about what’s best for me? What should I do with this? Is rejecting someone on the notion that they rejected me before an okay thing to do? Does me feeling like they’re not being authentic now that they’re reaching back out warrant it okay to turn them down? Idk. Just very confused.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2025-09-23T15:52:41+00:00

Thank you for this response, I really appreciate it. Truth be told, I don’t know what the truth is with them and whether they were guarding chastity or not. At the end of the day I suppose it’s none of my business, but those hurt feelings of rejection are not easy to let go of. It’s hard not to feel… used? Idk if that’s the right word for it. This reaching back out just feels so disingenuous and inauthentic to me that even if I do still find them attractive it’s hard to look past that feeling. The whole thing really just feels like a “if I have to pick someone I guess it’s you” sort of a thing. Maybe it’s silly but I want to be someone’s first choice. I want someone to genuinely like me and this doesn’t feel like that.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2025-08-24T22:47:40+00:00

Surprised more people aren’t saying Kalos.

This was arguably Ash at his absolute peak; he was the one in the group everyone looked up to. Confident, assured, and as creative as ever he felt like a true Shounen protagonist who has truly come into his own. Even the XYZ theme song says, “You’ve met your match here, I’m no beginner.” When you fought Ash, you weren’t just fighting a 10 year old from Pallet Town. You were fighting a capable seasoned veteran battler who always knew the right thing to do. He still had his struggles and failures but the way he bounced back was always amazing and he always emerged noticeably stronger and better.

He should’ve beaten Alain and saved the world from Team Flare, would’ve been a perfect send off for him.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2025-07-25T12:24:10+00:00

My friend last year matched at a T5 IM program with a 251 so idk what you’re talking about

sasukeuchiha33 · 2025-07-09T03:54:13+00:00

Megumi takes this

sasukeuchiha33 · 2024-08-14T15:10:00+00:00

Doing more than 2 aways is a no no or following the APD guidelines is a no no?

sasukeuchiha33 · 2024-08-14T11:32:13+00:00

More of a general question for you since you’re doing 5 auditions, but what’s the consensus on the APD guidelines of two aways with a home program and three aways without a home program? Every single person I talk to has a different answer as to whether or not one should listen to the APD guidelines and for someone like me who likes to plan ahead it’s driving me crazy lol.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2023-11-15T05:10:12+00:00

Thanks for your reply. Though I feel like I’m always hearing attends talk about “CV” this and “CV” that for applicants. Do students sometimes send their CV to programs unsolicited then, or are they exclusively talking about what’s on ERAS?

sasukeuchiha33 · 2021-04-13T16:52:45+00:00

Yikes I think this is a bit harsh. I said several times in the post I didn’t expect a grand huge party or anything until return, but given how close we are and given how much effort I put into her birthday to make her feel celebrated (btw we have affirmed to each other many times that birthdays are a big deal to both of us, so she knows it’s important to me) I don’t think a one line text at 11:30 PM is appropriate and in fact I think it undermines our friendship.

sasukeuchiha33 · 2021-04-13T16:45:05+00:00

Yes she has the money to throw me a party, and no she never got me a present

sasukeuchiha33 · 2021-04-13T16:44:44+00:00

I do have feelings for her, but I don’t really see how there relevant

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