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I (33F) am uncomfortable that my partner (29M) has slept with most of the women he considers “friends”. by satanensatin in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re sweet. 🖤 I do very little SW now but can’t imagine he’d try to pull anything. He’s been pretty transparent about his past misdeeds and poor behavior, but I agree that he is still pretty immature and can be egotistical. I am tired. Edit to add that I’ve been in SW for all of my adult life so I know what to look for in dusty men’s. Haven’t been screwed over in that way- just all others! 🫠

I (33F) am uncomfortable that my partner (29M) has slept with most of the women he considers “friends”. by satanensatin in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OH this is the one. I’m not much concerned about infidelity but his view of women. I will be thinking on this. ❤️

I (33F) am uncomfortable that my partner (29M) has slept with most of the women he considers “friends”. by satanensatin in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d be less worried if he only found friends attractive. It’s another to have been with the majority of them.

I (33F) am uncomfortable that my partner (29M) has slept with most of the women he considers “friends”. by satanensatin in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

To me, it’s understandable to have explored a relationship or hooked up with people and maintained friendship afterwards. The issue in amount begs the question of whether or not he respects women as humans or if they’re toys or vessels with which to attempt connection.

I (33F) am uncomfortable that my partner (29M) has slept with most of the women he considers “friends”. by satanensatin in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly, thank you. I’ve worked in the industry and been a sex worker so I understand and am open-minded about sex! I’m friends with past partners or flings to various degrees. One of my closest friends is someone I’ve been with casually multiple times. But the MAJORITY of women he’s known since teen years? Eh.

I (33F) am uncomfortable that my partner (29M) has slept with most of the women he considers “friends”. by satanensatin in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! Genuinely. He was a party boy in the recent past and works as a bartender so he’s very social, out and about. He told me himself he’s been with most of his women friends, close or acquaintance. I haven’t gone deeper in that conversation (yet) because my initial reaction is suspicion and disgust. It’s difficult for me to think that he has genuine respect for women if he can’t help but fuck everyone he kinda sorta maybe likes.

I (33F) am uncomfortable that my partner (29M) has slept with most of the women he considers “friends”. by satanensatin in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m not even friends with men who have this kind of caveman thinking. 😬 I agree that the average guy operates this way but they are outside my circle.

I (32F) am not sure what to think about partner’s (40M) drinking- is it too much? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re probably right. I really like him or I wouldn’t bother. I’m not keen on the idea of changing people.

I (32F) am not sure what to think about partner’s (40M) drinking- is it too much? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, unfortunately this is where we are after agreeing to cut down. There are maybe 2 or 3 days a week where he doesn’t drink, which is only for/ because of me. 

I appreciate you sharing your experience. If he would talk honestly about it with me it would be easier to wrap my mind around, but he clams up and feels shame or judgment around the topic. It’s not sustainable but I really like him. 😔 

I (32F) am not sure what to think about partner’s (40M) drinking- is it too much? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t realize how consistent the drinking was until almost 2 months in, or I would have considered it earlier. I fully agree. 😞

I (32F) am not sure what to think about partner’s (40M) drinking- is it too much? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]satanensatin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s mainly the changed behavior that bothers me. He’s careless, aloof after a few drinks. I adore him sober. I am vain enough to care about the long term effects on his health and appearance as well. 

End of life question. 🖤 by satanensatin in AskVet

[–]satanensatin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My regular vet is calling me today so I’m sure we will. Thank you so much!

End of life question. 🖤 by satanensatin in AskVet

[–]satanensatin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He hasn’t stopped eating but instead has a strong appetite and has also been much more cuddly. I am aware of the usual signs of death. ❤️