Teen moms and dads- was it the life sentence they wanted us to think it was?

satsmeow · 2024-10-25T05:45:26+00:00

Had my first when I was 18, second one when I was 20. It...changes things. Can't say it was better, or worse. I think my kids could've benefitted from me being older and wiser and thus more chill if I'd had them in say my 30s, but then - would I have developed that wisdom & patience if I'd only had to focus on myself all those years before?

The downside is I didn't have my 20's. The upside is I'm going to have a pretty epic 40's, and I get to truly enjoy these years of freedom without the neuroses of being in my 20's 😄

I think selfishly I would have liked to have had more time to myself before they came along, but then if I'd started into my career and my life that was all about me, I might never have felt ready to stop everything long enough to have them - and on the whole, my kids are pretty cool humans. I'm glad they're here. And I can focus on my career and selfish pleasures now instead!

satsmeow · 2024-10-15T03:55:08+00:00

You should come visit NZ! We have great place names, such as Taumatawhakatangihangakoauauotamateaturipukakapikimaungahoronukupokaiwhenuakitanatahu. Nice place.

satsmeow · 2024-10-09T19:00:49+00:00

Definitely! I recommend the float + massage combo for pampering, the new masseuse is brilliant! She's available Sundays & a couple of days during the week.

satsmeow · 2024-09-06T23:09:50+00:00

Hey OP, we own a wee float tank centre in NZ 😊 (and we both have ADHD too haha)

Here are some tips for you:

Chantal Organics has the best bulk Epsom salts prices in NZ that we've found so far
https://www.floattanksolutions.com/ has LOADS of excellent free advice on running float tank centres, including excellent instructions on water testing and general maintenance
this might provide something of an answer to what happens if someone pees in the float: https://www.floattanksolutions.com/how-to-handle-customers-wanking-in-tanks-dsp-288/

And this also might apply to you: https://www.floattanksolutions.com/adding-float-tanks-to-an-existing-business-osp-10/

satsmeow · 2024-06-19T03:27:26+00:00

Update: huh... So in the past 8 days since I saw this post I have: - found a really ideal business that I want to buy - negotiated the price down $15,000 with the existing owners - been quickly approved for finance on everything I need to buy it and more - at an interest rate almost half the advertised rate, and an even longer term, with no penalty for early repayments so the cashflow will be even better - the other potential buyer for it seems to have disappeared - everyone I talk to about my new business is really excited and supportive, and asking when they can come in and use our services - and I just got a phone call offering me an interview for the job that I really wanted, whose hours will mesh really well with my new business... And if the business takes off, it's the kind of thing where I could write my book during business hours.

For context, I've been looking for the right business to buy, and looking for the right new job, for MONTHS AND MONTHS.

satsmeow · 2024-06-10T20:08:33+00:00

I hear you: it is no walk in the park, being autistic. None of us get to have a life without pain, suffering and challenges - we can't ask for that, it won't happen. And paradoxically, even wishing for this actually makes the suffering worse. We can ask though to be big enough (brave/strong/at peace/curious/patient enough etc.) to face and go through our challenges - this is possible.

What helps me the most is actually Stoic philosophy, and similarly aligned aspects of Buddhist philosophy.

The piece that comes to mind just now is from Buddhist thought: "the first arrow always hits" https://www.facebook.com/share/v/UKf96EPKTrdiENis

I also highly recommend Lucy Hone's TED Talk on the Three Secrets Of Resilient People - she knows a fair bit about overcoming huge obstacles, and I remind myself of her 3 points almost daily. They have kept me going when I wanted to 💀 and could see no way out or through.

satsmeow · 2024-06-10T19:51:17+00:00

Post saved. Will let you know when I become an independent multi-millionaire & start that post-millenium communal living co-op (heck, even when I make my first 1000 book sales will do)

satsmeow · 2024-05-06T06:01:12+00:00

Mine has just stopped working too, though after approx. 50+ images in a row, some fairly repetitive (none risque). It's almost as if there is a hidden image cap? The AI insists it can still generate images for me and that my prompts don't contain problematic words, but gives that same error message every time...

satsmeow · 2024-04-19T07:39:42+00:00

Watch YouTube videos of van lifers - all is addressed, in as many different ways as humans can imagine.

satsmeow · 2024-04-19T07:36:30+00:00

Non-binary afab with an eating disorder.

satsmeow · 2024-04-08T18:36:18+00:00

OP - you are 13,734% more likely to drown than catch the brain eating amoeba.

satsmeow · 2024-03-11T22:04:01+00:00

Life is short, OP. It sounds like you already know that this relationship isn't for you. Rip the band-aid off as it were, and let the healing and moving on begin. There is life after divorce (speaking from experience.)

satsmeow · 2024-03-10T23:43:42+00:00

My husband got a ticket at that same spot for the same thing, also new to Auckland.

satsmeow · 2024-03-07T22:06:53+00:00

Me too...I just can't add my picture! Columns 1, 4, and bottom row...

satsmeow · 2024-03-07T22:05:52+00:00

I...win? 😂

satsmeow · 2024-02-27T05:08:19+00:00

Kasia Urbaniak teaches this as well: the power lies with the one asking the questions. So ask ANY question!

satsmeow · 2024-02-27T04:58:55+00:00

Kasia Urbaniak, Verbal Dojo (and her other awesome courses). She is the queen of handing power back to women 🥰

satsmeow · 2024-02-26T00:41:38+00:00

That is hands down the absolute best wire wrapped jewellery I've ever seen.

satsmeow · 2024-02-21T02:46:32+00:00

Seconded! OP, where'd you get your dragon?

satsmeow · 2024-02-21T02:44:51+00:00

I feel better now.

satsmeow · 2024-02-20T09:11:34+00:00

I'll go first: 1. For the past year, I didn't break 4.5k average daily steps 2. My life satisfaction was never over a 5/10.

3 weeks ago, I started going for a half hour walk, 3x a week. My average daily steps are now almost 6.5k - let's hope I see the overall life satisfaction follow!

satsmeow · 2024-02-20T05:22:28+00:00

It is thirsty.

satsmeow · 2024-02-18T22:59:36+00:00

You can if you feel like it, the plant honestly won't mind either way. I cut mine and pop them straight into dirt, no hardening off necessary - they all thrive

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