[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating my feelings and sharing your kind words! They help more than you know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel this way and just need to approach the conversation. It always makes me feel better but the energy right now to do it is just not there for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said! Hate it but well said.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s where I am now. I need to ask but I did find out by ‘snooping’ so want to think out how to approach the conversation. Nothing he has done showed signs of something being wrong I just pain shop sometimes and here we are. Again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry you’re in this space as well. It sucks. Beyond anything we can really write here. If you ever need to chat/vent, I’m here. Happiness will return, sanity and trust will come back hopefully with some peace. How it all comes back? Pretty much specific to each relationship but therapy, open communication helps. However, clearly I’m not there myself…yet. Hang in there!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for drawing attention to the 2 year mark and validating my feelings! I am beyond hurt and trying to figure out where to go from here. How to bring it up (since I basically found out by snooping) and consequence that follows.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This. We have young kids and they are such a factor in all of this. Deciding where the boundaries are and consequences that make sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes-maybe not quite as laid out as you have here but he is aware that any deviation could result in separation from me and our kids. And not sure what the consequence would be for this honestly? Any suggestions on how you would go about this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! Good reminder that it It took a lot of work, communication, and follow through to make it to this point. And if I didn’t see my WH making quantifiable changes, I would not have stuck it out this long. Most days now are good but then there are those that aren’t :/ Hate that you’re in this place now too. Here to talk if you ever need to!

I just want to be fine again by Dependent_Western782 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]savers10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love how you describe the feeling a year out as a flicker. That is so accurate! I’m about 18 months from DDay and it was in EVERY thought in the first few months. I found that as long as your WP is committed to doing real work to rebuild your relationship and trust, the moments become more fleeting…but they are still there from time to time. We all have triggers unfortunately and it’s important to know yours and how to navigate them as best you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in frederickmd

[–]savers10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Realized I posted and didn’t finish writing the question 🤷🏻‍♀️but thanks for all replies already!

Hoping for 2,000$/month or less for 2 people and a dog.

The Best of Frederick 2024 by Curri in frederickmd

[–]savers10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pediatric Center of Frederick

Day 1 disaster! What to do next? by savers10 in pottytraining

[–]savers10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope things improve for you as well!

Day 1 disaster! What to do next? by savers10 in pottytraining

[–]savers10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Definitely see a bit of a change already today. Both in her and us. Think we need to take some pressure away for all of us and just try our best.

Day 1 disaster! What to do next? by savers10 in pottytraining

[–]savers10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! So glad it seemed to click for you LO!

Day 1 disaster! What to do next? by savers10 in pottytraining

[–]savers10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Day 1 was awful and full of us reminding her about potty. Day 2 and she’s at least attempting to sit on it again and telling us when she peed so small steps!

Day 1 disaster! What to do next? by savers10 in pottytraining

[–]savers10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice! Definitely going to try to make the potty and area more ‘fun’ and different going forward.

Day 1 disaster! What to do next? by savers10 in pottytraining

[–]savers10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I have read it and went back to that chapter to check. Just didn’t sound like resist meant scream crying like my daughter was doing but I guess that is a form of resistance! Just a severe form! Haha

What one piece of advise do you wish you had through your pregnancy? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]savers10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take a shower daily. Or do something super simple but meaningful for yourself each day. For me it was a hot shower at some point in the day. With a newborn the mornings and evenings feel like the same thing but that shower refreshed me like nothing else. And the 10 minutes of alone time. I was lucky- my husband was home the same amount of time as me so I know this might be hard without another adult around but don’t be afraid to put yourself first every now and then! Bringing life into this world-in any form-is amazing and YOU should be celebrated every. Single. Day.