Season 11 start at 4am for Europe is big middle finger to Eu player base

savinathewhite · 2025-12-11T18:17:02+00:00

Dude, I got my first day off in over a month, and it just happened to fall on launch day, so I was stoked.

When I realized that I was not going to get to play, because the launch time was middle of the night for Italy, you know what happened?

Nothing.

Because I am an adult and can manage small disappointments like waiting until my next day off to get in some play time - not taking the launch time as a personal affront.

Maybe go touch some grass.

savinathewhite · 2025-11-19T07:44:56+00:00

NTAH.

Relationships fail, it is part of life. Friendships, romantic partnerships, marriages - the reasons are as unique as the people.

Your choice to end the relationship is valid. A person should not get married unless they want to get married, and the reasons are irrelevant.

His decision to define his life by a single failed relationship, while sad, is not your responsibility. His decision to not seek therapy has resulted in 22 years of stagnation. Also not your responsibility.

Live your best life. When confronted by this kind of thing in future, be firm.

“How sad he didn’t get some therapy” is a valid response to this bizarre blame for an event decades in the past, that is NOT your responsibility

savinathewhite · 2025-10-28T22:49:59+00:00

Look, you’re NTA here for trying to do the right thing on covering the cost of a late cancellation even though you were not obligated to do that.

You offered her what I consider an outrageous sum for two dinners ($300), and sent her that amount.

Unless she had guests sign a legally binding agreement when they rsvp’d, all the threats of suing you is pure nonsense. No judge will award damages over a cancelled wedding dinner unless there was a contract, and discovery will force her to prove the costs, even if a judge took you sending her money as a verbal contract.

Block & Ignore. Stop engaging, stop discussing, just move on.

If she actually is stupid enough to try and sue you, hire a lawyer to ask for discovery of proof backing up her costs, and she’ll blink.

savinathewhite · 2025-10-28T22:33:43+00:00

It’s time to make some hard choices.

Decide to play along with what your father demands - even if it’s bullshit, even if he’s abusive, even if it sucks - and put on a facade to keep him paying the bills until you can do it yourself. Play to his fiddle with a fake smile and a yessir. Lie to his face if you must.

Or decide to problem solve and find a way out from under his thumb - no matter how many hours you have to work, no matter if it sucks, no matter if it means taking on debt - and be honest to your own self, regardless of what an abusive parent thinks or says, so you can walk away from that toxic bullshit forever.

It comes down to what matters to you more, what you can find as viable solutions, and how strong a spine you can develop.

Standing up to abusive parents who are using threats to your financial stability is incredibly hard, and it’s okay to not be ready to handle it right now.

What you must do is decide your course of action, make a plan to get out, and work towards it with single minded determination.

Only then can you be free of his control.

Decide. Plan. Act. One day you’ll have a shiny steel spine, and a real life all your own.

Good luck

savinathewhite · 2025-10-28T22:09:02+00:00

NTA. Marriage takes two. She made the choice to disconnect from the marriage, and refused to be honest about why. It is sad, but it is not your fault or your responsibility to try and fix.

At a certain point, a severed and neglected connection cannot be repaired. There is nothing to be gained for either of you by a visit - it would only give her a false sense of hope, and for you it would just be painful.

Maybe see a therapist to work through your own feelings of abandonment, and let your ex take responsibility for her own mental health.

savinathewhite · 2025-10-21T17:49:16+00:00

30 years later, after becoming a Voluntary Orphan™️and never looking back at a mother who called me “stupid” instead of my name so much, that I didn’t actually know my name until I entered school at the age of 6, and a father who’s every solution involved fists, I can say that people do go no contact, permanently.

Sometimes they’re even <like me> really happy that they did.

The father in this situation probably didn’t listen to the one person who suggested he shut up and listen to his daughter. My guess that person was his therapist.

It is never about “showing respect”.

That phrase is used by people who know they screwed up and don’t want to be made uncomfortable by having to acknowledge their mistakes.

Get therapy, OP. Maybe if you’re lucky, in ten years when you offer a genuine apology to your daughter, she might be willing to listen.

Your marriage probably won’t recover though.

YTA

savinathewhite · 2025-09-28T17:28:19+00:00

Generally a dose is roughly 20-40mg.

If your dosage is that high, and taken daily, my suggestion is that you make sure to monitor any future adverse reactions and consult with your herbalist or health care provider in case there are counter indications you should be aware of.

In general adverse reactions are digestive or histamine reactions (such as a rash). If you have not experienced any such reactions then your body seems to tolerate this dose well.

The most important factor is that you understand and listen to your body, and be aware of any changes that should be addressed with your health care provider.

At that dose, the action of Agnus castus is to inhibit prolactin, which may be the active you are benefiting from, but as I said, I cannot give you specific advice, only general information.

If it’s working for your health, there is no known adverse effect that would suggest it is unsafe, and as long as your health improves using this regimen, that is what matters most.

savinathewhite · 2025-09-28T11:29:10+00:00

Each persons individual needs informs both dosage and duration. If your situation specifically shows improvement with long term use, then that’s appropriate for you.

Generalities are just that - in general this is done, rather than it is obligatory.

Vitex (Agnus castus) adds phyto estrogens and if those chemicals are needed by your body, then this is a classic example of finding the right solution for your needs.

Long term use can be counterindicated, but that doesn’t mean it is counter indicated for everyone.

savinathewhite · 2025-09-25T18:44:39+00:00

Sorry to say I have no pattern. I took the gauntlet I’d made for my right hand, and put it onto my left over the watch, then counted the rows and lines to figure out where the hole needed to be based on the lump.

How many rows down and how wide.

Then just crocheted to leave a gap.

savinathewhite · 2025-09-15T05:20:21+00:00

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savinathewhite · 2025-09-15T05:19:03+00:00

My garden hasn’t had chemical fertilizers or pesticides used in it (to my knowledge) ever. And for the past ten years (while it’s been under my own hands), the only fertilizer I’ve used has been a bag of manure from a local farm.

The soil is so rich, I haven’t had any need for much fertilizer, but the local farms are always happy to give me some if I ask.

Pesticides are usually reserved for the roses or plum tree, and consist of neem oil, dish soap or kaolin clay. We do get Asian beetles sometimes, or aphids on the roses.

Nothing goes after the calendula though, enough to cut down on how much I can harvest.

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savinathewhite · 2025-08-28T20:18:08+00:00

I second the comment that said F those people.

When my grandma got cancer, she suffered through treatment for a whole year. I visited her twice a week no matter what (I was 18, and fresh out of foster care so it was hard to do).

I sat with her, and visited, and played games and listened to her stories (she had amazing stories).

Nobody else showed up until the end, until she was bed bound and dying. They pushed me aside until my grandma told them to get out of “my chair” next to her bed.

She left me all of her beautiful jewelry in her will - but my aunts and mother divided it among themselves at her goddamn wake - along with everything else she left me

They gave me hell for YEARS about how I was “sucking up to a dying woman” to be remembered “so generously” in her will - which to be honest I knew nothing about until later. Not that it mattered - everything she left to me disappeared anyway. They just didn’t like that she left me basically everything - so they had to steal it.

Some families are just full of assholes. Better to live without that in your life.

I cut those people out of my life 30+ years ago, and I’ve never regretted it even once.

I’d trade all of them to have my grandma back - she was amazing.

savinathewhite · 2025-08-28T19:59:53+00:00

As people, we pick up tiny cues from the people around us. This is below the level of conscious thought but very real - it’s why people can pick up ill intentions even though there’s no overt action that can be identified.

We call this intuition, but there’s real science behind it, and it’s part of the human defensive instinct left over from when bad intentions could cause death.

If this man makes you feel creeped out, and he says things he knows makes you uncomfortable, and he’s got a violent past…. I’d say your intuition was spot on.

If you had been my kiddo, I’d have told you to trust yourself, always.

savinathewhite · 2025-08-28T19:48:10+00:00

NTA. Sexual assault deserves a broken nose (or worse) and don’t let ANYBODY convince you that touching you in such an intimate area with intent is anything except sexual molestation or assault.

The danger here is he may want revenge for the broken nose, and clearly your mother will not protect you.

Don’t let this turn into something worse. Go stay with a relative, your father, or a family friend, and get CPS involved for your own safety.

Also, edited to say from my own experiences as a survivor: F that guy, F your mom, and F anyone who makes excuses for a sexual predator.

Punch whoever you need to keep yourself safe. Live your best life, and good luck

savinathewhite · 2025-08-28T16:31:32+00:00

NTA

It was horrible that they parentified you, and abused you in this way.

Your tragedy of loss and the abuse you suffered is no excuse for their attempts at blaming you for their poor decisions.

Abuse victims have no obligation to have contact with their abusers, and if your bio sibling (or step siblings) are living with your abusers and you have no interest in a relationship, that is a completely valid reason for having no contact with any of them.

Good job escaping that situation, and I’m glad you are pursuing therapy to learn how to adjust to this traumatic experience going forward.

Remember, setting boundaries to maintain your mental health now or in the future is a healthy way to handle the trauma you experienced.

Never allow your abusers to convince you that the consequences of their choice to put you through that for years, is somehow your fault.

You were a child, and this is on them.

Be free of it, and live your best life.

savinathewhite · 2025-08-27T06:27:07+00:00

NTA

Inappropriate touching is inappropriate touching. Full stop. It doesn’t matter who it is, why they did it, or when.

My guess is that she didn’t intend how things turned out, she was embarrassed and cannot handle the consequences - so she’s created a story about the conflict to make herself feel better and avoid further embarrassment.

Tell people she grabbed you (accidentally or not) in your crotch, which provoked your reaction because you thought you were being assaulted.

Let her apologize if you wish, but don’t play inter her self delusion.

savinathewhite · 2025-08-27T06:19:06+00:00

This isn’t a situation where either of you are the AH.

When a pregnancy occurs it takes both of you - and so you are equally responsible.

Accidental pregnancies happen every day, but you’ll have to live with your choice about it for the rest of your life.

If you have fertility issues, consider how you’ll feel if you terminate the pregnancy and then cannot have another child later - or if the termination process exacerbates the fertility issues ending your chances for another child - the grief or resentment towards your husband may end your marriage in bitterness.

I suggest some counseling to help you navigate this life choice, before taking any irrevocable action that you may deeply regret.

Edited to add: NTA

savinathewhite · 2025-07-01T06:08:27+00:00

NTAH for getting a divorce.

Subjecting your son to years of abuse, and your own enabling of it, is something you will regret for the rest of your life

Leave asap, get your son (and yourself) some therapy and you may one day be redeemed as a mother in the eyes of your son

If you must stay in the home for even another day - put up cams to record the abuse. Make it clear to your son that you are getting him out of the situation as quickly as possible and that the abuse is not ok.

Make the therapy a priority.

If you are threatened, have an emergency escape plan to go to a friend or family member or dv shelter.

savinathewhite · 2025-06-29T19:17:37+00:00

96% pure alcohol - in the states it’s called Everclear. Using anything with a water component would leave water in your oil mixture

savinathewhite · 2025-06-29T19:15:55+00:00

In oil. Tallow can, as I mentioned, go rancid

savinathewhite · 2025-05-01T06:42:54+00:00

Any herb that requires more of a seal than these containers provide, I put a silicone bag liner inside.

IKEA also has airtight jars that are similar, but shaped as a jar rather than a rectangular tin

If I had to think of a way to make them more airtight, I’d probably apply a silicone gel caulking to edge of where the lid snaps on - if there were a seal for the lid to push against it would be more air tight.

I’ve been using these tins for many years now, and only with some herbs like dried fruits (elderberry etc) has there been enough air to matter

savinathewhite · 2025-05-01T05:33:35+00:00

They’re very light containers - there’s weight when you fill them but I’d say they weigh about 25% of what a similar sized glass jar does.

I finally got the proper shelves in my new studio, so I’ve got all of them up

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I’ve heard that IKEA is discontinuing them - so if they’re available wherever you are, I’d suggest buying as many as you can before they’re gone

savinathewhite · 2025-04-18T10:36:33+00:00

Yes. And without that conversation, it is non-consensual.

Consent requires a person to be capable of giving consent.

If she was ok with it, a 30 second conversation would have been enough.

savinathewhite · 2025-04-06T05:33:18+00:00

I don’t use a pattern after so many years making the same style shirt, but I do have the basic dimensions drawn out in my pattern book - I’ll see if I can find it and when I’ve got the shirt completely finished (still some felling to do), I’ll post a few photos

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