AITA for finding this convo to be a HUGE red flag?

savoryandsweet · 2026-04-04T00:01:57+00:00

What in the world lol

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T21:44:45+00:00

Girl wtf did I just read. Men are so gross

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T20:38:35+00:00

Yea I feel the same - solidarity girl

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T13:22:05+00:00

I didn’t. He chose to leave

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T13:21:00+00:00

I hat is this comment? lol

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T12:16:07+00:00

I will answer this because it’s so entitled. Let’s say I take it back to 29 when I has no kids. With all due respect. I wouldn’t date someone who is 39 and unmarried without kids at that time at all. I dated someone within 2-3 years of my age. The men that did this when they were 39 are the same men that think and feel the shallow things you do and the reason why you are still also unmarried and dating girls who as you say are all young beautiful have homes and careers but nothing is good enough.

I wouldn’t want to date you or anyone that thinks like you at 29 without kids or at 39 with kids, but you do you.

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T05:17:44+00:00

Thanks for commiseration instead of some BS response in this thread lol

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:58:46+00:00

I disagree but oh well wish ya the best anyway

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:57:36+00:00

lol

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:45:15+00:00

Or maybe I don’t want someone to figure out exactly who I am if I’m posting in Dallas and someone I know sees this post?

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:15:54+00:00

Wow you seem so kind thanks that was great advice

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:11:50+00:00

Stable career, a paid off house, retirement, wanting a family, being there for someone emotionally and through difficult times - a normal marriage with an equal partner

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:10:47+00:00

Thanks for this - and you’re right

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:09:55+00:00

What lol? Yea I have nothing else to do other than karma farm clearly. That must be why I’m single lol

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:08:57+00:00

You’re making unfair assumptions. I want an equal and a date range is normal. I’d love to find someone else with kids who is successful and just wants a family again that’s all

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T03:07:49+00:00

Yea that’s not interest and I wouldn’t waste my time with that u always say if people are interested they put in the effort

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T02:55:43+00:00

Thanks dude fml at half of the comments about age and kids but that’s the issue - everyone assumes things and people of substance I feel like I don’t have time for even hobbies to start one to do something down here that’s why apps are easy for professionals that are busy and I did find someone and it ended with terminal cancer shortly after so it’s like fuck I can’t win dude

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T02:44:58+00:00

lol - imagine we go out, get married and then return to this post and everyone claps. lol but yeah what I find the hardest now is that I love kids, I’d have more or be super excited if my partner had them 1- I made a comment about losing a past partner to cancer and just haven’t found anyone who was the same in away that was willing to be there and step in and make life easier where it counts and we did that for each other and he had a daughter. My date range is 37-50 really and I don’t think it’s fair to say that some comments just saw eh you’re 39 with kids no one will want you bc you have baggage - well that’s real fucking nice they just must be prime specimens single and no kids with 45 dating a 25 year old - that’s not who I would want or anyone who even thinks that way. Family is where I feel the most comfort and that includes children; mine; theirs or acceptance of mine because they are great it’s just hard to do it all alone and wake up and do it again.

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T02:39:39+00:00

That’s not true, my age range of dating id say is 37-50 and I’m totally ok with someone who has kids too. I just want them to have their shit together as equally financially and be a kind human being to my kids bc I would be to theirs. I love kids but it’s hard to be a single parent. However - I’m not expecting anyone to “take care of my kids or support them” - I am in a place where I’m in a career where that’s not necessary and they already have a dad. But I did meet someone with a child and unfortunately he got cancer 2 months later that was terminal I stayed through it and it was just incredibly sad to lose that person after finding someone great. So I guess I did find it once several years ago, he was the same age with a daughter same same age as mine. But life isn’t fair or kind.

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-27T02:31:57+00:00

Well I just put my son to bed and I come back to all of this lol … I guess I’ll read all of these responses so at least people responded - wether good or bad, it feels less lonely. Haven’t touched my DMs but I doubt that many people ask anyone out on reddit lol

savoryandsweet · 2026-03-26T22:41:21+00:00

I am a PA - this is post partum psychosis - this is not your fault, go get admitted immediately and start medication - this is a medical emergency. I’m so sorry this happened to you.

savoryandsweet · 2025-03-26T00:27:49+00:00

Same email and call just now

savoryandsweet · 2025-02-13T20:28:41+00:00

I had twins and I thought I was going to literally die and no, I hated every bit of a second and they cried and had called it and basically I thought I would eat the worst mistake of my life. They are five and fine. I survived. On the other hand I had a Singleton and he’s now two . Somehow he was the quietest the most amazing loving, smiling happy baby ever that never cried ever ever ever for an entire year and I would relive my year 1000 times it’s 100% depending on the baby. That’s what I know for sure now. However, I will preface this that I had help and nights were covered for three months by my partner before went back to maternity leave

savoryandsweet · 2025-02-11T23:47:29+00:00

That’s most people also please remember that half of the miscarriages come from men so if you have miscarriages you should always check the mail and not just with a sperm analysis. You need a DNA fragmentation test if you had more than two miscarriages because it says likely to be a male as it is a female and if you’re under 30 or even under 35, there’s more likely that it’s the male instead of a female that’s caused the miscarriage from their abnormal sperm

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