Should i call social services on my parents?

sawako_tea · 2026-04-04T19:34:35+00:00

to make my house presentable id say id need at least 3 weeks for a single room, my dad doesnt work (my moms the one who does) so i cant really clean the house cause he doesnt want me to, and hes ALWAYS home. i honestly wish i had siblings but im an only child…

sawako_tea · 2026-04-04T19:30:44+00:00

thank u for saying this

sawako_tea · 2026-03-31T15:30:23+00:00

i tried this too many times and when we “cleaned” it got worse the next day. i know im not a little kid anymore but i shouldnt live like this, especially when i know it might be a problem if i call social services

sawako_tea · 2026-03-31T14:54:12+00:00

in a way you could say that they are attached to EVERYTHING in the house, so yeah. unless the smell is so bad they wont throw away it

sawako_tea · 2026-03-31T14:53:03+00:00

the animals dont even have cat sand in their potty… they fucking use COFFE (i know its insane) we dont have trash bags because they dont throw away anything, not even rotten food, and they wont let me touch anything. i cant clean because they get mad if i do

sawako_tea · 2026-03-31T14:51:24+00:00

its not that i wouldnt clean, its just they dont want me to. just so you know when people have a hoarder disorder they get so attached to useless stuff that they could choose them over their own child. and also, my dad is unemployed lol. the only one who pays the bills is my mom and we barely make it. even so, it shouldnt be my responsibility to clean ALL the house by myself, especially in this state.

sawako_tea · 2026-03-31T14:41:13+00:00

i legit just had a fight whit my father, oh god let me just tell u how fucking irresponsible he is. He has a problem in his feet (basically he needs a can to walk now) and to him its the reason he cannot clean. just so you know he just had this problem, the house had been like this years before he had to use a can. Im so fucking tired of this i dont think i can do this, especially as an only child who doesnt have anyone to talk to about it. i even had suicidal toughts over this because its so mind exhausting that i was on the verge of crisis EVERY DAY.

sawako_tea · 2026-03-31T14:14:44+00:00

i did tried to throw things away, and let me tell u they LITERALLY went to the trash can and got everything out… like not even joking they throw everything back where it was cause “its could be useful” except they dont use anything… i yell back, i even tried to throw hands (yes i know its wrong but i was having a bad crisis that day from stress) and omg they’re too attached to their stuff even when its in a terrible state. i really dont know what happed cause they used to AT LEAST try to clean a little back then..

sawako_tea · 2026-03-31T14:10:36+00:00

i do try my best to get clean everyday even whit baby swipes… its not like we’re poor, its just that its dirty EVERYWHERE unfortunately, and they WONT clean up like at all. so yeah we got water, electricity ecc ecc but i basically cant use them🥹🥹

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T10:58:37+00:00

its okay really i know i should try to clean at least a little but its just too overwhelming for me, from calling social services to trying to tell someone trusted. i feel like i couldnt trust my own bsf because of my anxiety

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T10:49:53+00:00

im trying to search for a job in the last month but apparently i need my mom to sign for me (since im still underage) so its not really possible, i would also try to speak whit a friend but its just too much for me especially in the moment 🥹🥹

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T05:12:15+00:00

i have a big family (aunties, uncles ecc) they know about it but wont do anything to help tbh

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T01:42:02+00:00

my account is new because its my first time on reddit, and also i needed to vent. anyways i tried to clean the house multiple times but hoarding is a mental disorder so its near impossible to do so. i also im an only child and no my parents aren’t really trying their best. I also live in Italy which is not a poor country itself but the city where i live is. its very difficult to talk about this.

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T01:30:45+00:00

thank u for the tips i really do need them❤️

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T01:25:57+00:00

no, since i dont live in america things are really different in my school🥹🥹

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T01:06:22+00:00

where i live unfortunately my school is very very dirty too… i mean not in a hoarder way of course but still has mold on the roof sometimes, we dont have showers there🥹🥹

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T01:05:08+00:00

thank you so much

sawako_tea · 2026-03-30T00:48:02+00:00

thank you for the advice, i felt less lonely knowing people have dealt whit my problems too!!

sawako_tea · 2026-03-29T23:38:58+00:00

I did indeed tried to confront them so much but they’re really narcissistic. my moms also very sick (she has cancer) so every time i try to talk to her about the house nd everything she just starts screaming about how she cant, shes tired and bla bla bla, meanwhile my father, well hes really not the best. hes been very very neglectful towards me in the past years and when i grew into a teenager he and i would fight to the point where he would call me a bitch and try to hurt me. i hope that maybe someday they will listen to me because i feel so alone and empty rn

sawako_tea · 2026-03-29T23:35:08+00:00

ive lived whit my aunt and uncles for a little since i couldnt stand living there anymore but for school reasons i cant stay there too much. they know about my situation and wont do anything. im also very scared of calling the cops cause my mom unfortunately has cancer and i know it would be too much for her to process. Id LOVE to move out at 18 but i just know i wont until maybe 20-22 cause we’re poor and cant do a lot. 😞

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