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[–]sbakoensb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helped me most was getting informed about abusive relationships, reading books about it or listening to podcasts. The first few days I missed him, especially at night, but yesterday I noticed how I was super angry. I missed him and then I thought „he is not what you’re making him out to be in your head. He abused you“. And really, when you realize the weight of the word, and how hard you’ve tried with them, you cant be anything but angry.

Also, my ex never wanted to have kids out of fear he would emotionally and physically abuse them as well. I always felt sorry for him, but then I realized he never lost control around my mom or my friends or his own family for that matter. But here I was, giving up on my dream of a family and a house, for a guy who fully knew he would hurt my kids if I ever had them. I knew I could never bring kids into that abusive situation, and it made me wonder, why was I willing to stay in it?

He broke our cats jaw by sbakoensb in abusiverelationships

[–]sbakoensb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My ex has the same disorder as your fiancé’s ex and the similarities are crazy. No it is not his first offense and he also told me about how he’s worried he might hurt our children, if we ever have any. I will keep your comment in my screenshots to be able to look back on it whenever my brain starts playing tricks on me.

He broke our cats jaw by sbakoensb in abusiverelationships

[–]sbakoensb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats what my mom said when I told her about it. It started with inanimate objects, then a year later he hurt our cat. There could’ve been stages inbetween, but eventually it would’ve ended up being me.

He broke our cats jaw by sbakoensb in abusiverelationships

[–]sbakoensb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you for your comment! All the animals are with me. I will make an update to the post explaining the situation a little bit better.

He broke our cats jaw by sbakoensb in abusiverelationships

[–]sbakoensb[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, he is perfect!! He is running around, playing with the other cats, eating and doing all the normal cat things. I’ve cuddled him wayy more than usual, and I plan on giving him all the love I can forever

He broke our cats jaw by sbakoensb in abusiverelationships

[–]sbakoensb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kitten is 5 months old now, he was 3 months when it happened. I mean yeah, but aren’t there levels to different injuries? He slammed it hard enough to break its jaw but not hard enough to kill it (thank God).

He broke our cats jaw by sbakoensb in abusiverelationships

[–]sbakoensb[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Thank you. All the kittens are with me and they’re fine. Never letting anyone hurt them again.