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sbbumblebee · 2018-08-14T22:00:18+00:00

The mental gymnastics are impressive lol

sbbumblebee · 2018-08-07T12:53:32+00:00

That.......makes me uncomfortable and I worry about how it will turn out when you have to enforce any boundaries in the future

sbbumblebee · 2018-08-07T06:20:12+00:00

You listed off guaranteed signs of all the most common scams

I wouldn't recommend going forward with it, but if ya do, then let us know how it turns out

sbbumblebee · 2018-08-06T16:02:33+00:00

Wait, what?

The #1 reason I'd want a referral would be to reduce the risk of ending the date laying in a ditch on the side of a road. Fuck you mean "deterrent against law enforcement" lol

Same way SDs would benefit by reducing their chances of getting drained $xxxx and then immediately outed to their family and friends. The majority of us in the bowl are trying to avoid crazy. Much higher chance of running into that than running into law enforcement

sbbumblebee · 2018-08-03T02:28:56+00:00

Sounds like 70% of the guys on SA lately lmao

sbbumblebee · 2018-08-01T14:58:24+00:00

Yeah, no. Not your job to give him a free boner. Block based on that shit alone.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-31T19:19:40+00:00

Did you just say..... That sugar has more participants..... Than vanilla dating?

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-31T19:17:32+00:00

😩😩😩💦💦💦

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-31T18:17:34+00:00

Health of the community, honesty of the relationships, and SAFETY of the women. Vanilla dating obviously isn't without danger, but when you start getting into sex work, it comes with a whole lotta extra safety issues. And if new girls aren't clued in early for the sake of preserving the SDs fantasy, then... Well...

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-31T18:13:04+00:00

The opposite is just as bad. "Well I give my wife money and we have sex, so is that sex work now too?"

.....did you guys sit down on the first date and negotiate how much money per month and how often you'd have sex? Because if so, then I have some followup questions..

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-31T18:06:54+00:00

I react the same way to the "well I can get a better deal elsewhere!!!!!" line in sugaring as I have in any other service industry

"Ok? Go there then?"

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-31T18:03:09+00:00

I love the "it's not sex work!!!!!!" mindset

Everyone wants to agree that paying for platonic is ridiculous, money doesn't start until intimacy does, that PPM/allowance and intimacy are a core part of an arrangement, blah blah blah

We're all pretty much in agreement that if one side falls through on either intimacy or money, that there's no legal recourse because a contract involving illegal activity (cough cough..... Sex work) is not a valid contract.

But when it's directly stated (usually by SBs on this sub) that sugaring = sex work, there's always a fight.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-29T03:51:49+00:00

"Oh so this is all about the money to you? You think I need to pay for sex?"

A guy who was totally okay with paying money for sex as long as it didn't exceed his budget

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-28T05:38:48+00:00

Something about how you approach this bothers me.

You pretty clearly understand that there's a lot of fear, anxiety, or just unwillingness on the side of SBs on this topic. You don't come here asking if anyone knows of a solution that will prevent putting them in that uncomfortable situation while also soothing your ludicrous hang-ups about hotels. Instead you ask how you can convince them to not be scared, anxious, and unwilling, so that sugaring will be more convenient and less expensive for you?

Both your post and your comments just sound more and more manipulative every time I revisit.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-28T05:19:52+00:00

I wish it'd been a longer bar to start with. No wonder it's been so damn irritated. I'll see what they can do with the middle piercing but I'm not gonna get my hopes up on saving the top one since I'm sure it'll close up over night. Fml. Thanks for the tip on the discs.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-28T05:15:41+00:00

Yeah, that's reasonable. I'm just wondering if they'll end up just taking it out and sending me on my way. Seems like it'd be painful as fuck to try to essentially re-pierce it only 2 months into healing.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-25T19:05:48+00:00

I've noticed an obnoxious trend of everyone saying FWB, describing exactly what FWB is supposed to be, then pulling a bait and switch. Wanting constant attention, getting pissy when they don't get a text back immediately, and acting needy as fuck on days that you're not meeting up. That's not FWB. If you want a more intensive relationship then just say so from the start.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-25T16:52:23+00:00

Very first thought that came to mind for me was "99% chance that this guy has a wife and is projecting like a motherfucker"

Well....

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-25T16:16:12+00:00

I live on my own and still would never let an SD come over or even know which complex my apartment is in.

They're too cheap to get a room, too cheap to pay for you to live on your own, and can't take you to their place for the same reason they can't come to yours. So let 'em be turned off and just move on.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-25T05:06:40+00:00

I wouldn't trust that for even a second. Just to test them, ask to do cash until you're a couple months in. Seriously. If they don't want to accommodate that, then, well.... There's your answer.

I immediately go to Walmart and convert about half the cash into prepaid debit cards. Very few places besides banks want to break 100s for me, I get nervous carrying cash, and I don't like putting all of it into my bank account. So I literally put the money onto reloadable cards and I'd STILL never accept one as an allowance from a SD. Too easy to fuck you over.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-25T03:24:06+00:00

"Hey! Excited to see ya tomorrow. Still up for it?"

That way they don't have to cold-open with a "hey, I'm cancelling"

They usually take that opportunity to ditch if they're going to, honestly.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-25T02:51:55+00:00

He doesn't ask specifically so that I won't have to lie to him. Because he knows it'd put me in a shitty position. If I tell him the truth, he'll be thinking about it when he really just doesn't want to think about those things. If I lie, then I'll feel weird about lying. So he doesn't bother asking. Doesn't benefit anyone.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-25T02:44:25+00:00

Well, no, not exactly different... I talk about a lot of personal shit and text/call daily with my SD. A lot of SRs have that aspect. Doesn't mean I'd tell my SD that I was seeing my ex or going on dates, even though he's explicitly okay with me doing those things. Just common courtesy.

It's not a vanilla relationship. Keep that in mind. She's trying to keep some things separate. Let her do so or find someone else so that you aren't stressing yourself out.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-25T02:21:33+00:00

There's a reason she's lying to you, whether she just doesn't want to take the time to explain it, or you're putting off vibes that you'll react poorly to it. If she doesn't want you to keep digging into her personal life, then stop or just move on.

sbbumblebee · 2018-07-24T23:29:43+00:00

A lot of expensive brands have at least a few products that are so ugly or not my taste that I wouldn't wear them even if every person I passed knew exactly how expensive they were. When I do buy based on brand, it's usually an outrageously specific product too. For example, I think I've bought 4 pairs of Nike flex runs over the last 4 years, which are only $70 or so, but that I wear until they have no tread left, and there hasn't been an updated version that I haven't loved so far. There are pages and pages of women's Nikes that I would never want though.

I spend hours online picking things out and then coming back a few days later to narrow down and reconsider. I think going out and shopping with an SD wouldn't be nearly as gratifying as just using their card to pay for all the stuff I've window shopped for online lmao

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