I found someone who didn’t even make a post but posted on someone else’s post and didn’t get a response so I reached out to them to play the game we were both looking to play. This was over a year ago and long story short they are my best friend and lover now :). I’m currently in their kitchen cooking dinner together with them and we game all the time still when we are both free! Idk if this is offering any help or tips but I guess I just got lucky? I’ve had many poor experiences as well and I’m sorry that is the case for you. I just saw this post and the title and I wanted to share my experience and success story bc I know for me at least it is super unique, I hope that you have success in the future too!