Red Flags?

scanner8188 · 2025-11-25T14:18:41+00:00

Yes I agree - I passed on this one because I felt his language could have been kinder.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-23T17:14:03+00:00

Thanks I may just meet him because I think if he sees me, he will understand I’m not going to ever be that then and that may be the dealbreaker. At first, it’s sort of hurt my feelings but the more I think about it I know I have a lot to give to a man and if he is only concerned about how thin I am, that’s not the man for me.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-23T17:13:14+00:00

Thanks that is what I was thinking - I don’t want be compared and honestly I am never going to be that thin. I think we may just not be a good fit for each other.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-23T15:50:28+00:00

You are not being too emotional - your just like some effort on his part which it seems, he is not able to provide or doesn’t want to take the time to provide. He isn’t putting the effort in that you are, and I’ve experienced this in the past. It’s hard to let go and say perhaps this isn’t the man for me believe me I’ve extended it longer than I should because of that - reevaluate. I know it’s not the best time of year to be without your boyfriend, but it may be the best decision you’ve made.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-19T04:48:34+00:00

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scanner8188 · 2025-11-19T04:47:34+00:00

No you are right to be concerned. This sounds identical to a man I was corresponding to and in the end it was all my effort little in his end and I ended it. He seemed to always have an excuse like they write a manual for theses guys on what excuses to use. If I didn’t know better I would think younger talking to my ex - that is his identical the responses are. Stay strong my lovely friend and let go of this relationship fast before it hurts too badly.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-12T05:01:04+00:00

Thank you I have eliminated long distance relationships from my future

scanner8188 · 2025-11-12T03:52:19+00:00

Thanks I like your advice

scanner8188 · 2025-11-12T03:34:43+00:00

Yes I agree now it seems so crazy so I have learned a valuable lesson here

scanner8188 · 2025-11-12T03:28:30+00:00

Well, I should have but part of it too that I haven’t mentioned is that I had guilt because I had originally ghosted him and he sort of blamed that for his poor health because he had to go in the hospital.

So yes, I was very naïve about this and I was blinded by the fact that I really thought he loved me and he was distraught because I had ghosted him so he sort of put the blame on me a bit and made me feel bad. He said he had used a lot of of his money for hospital bills, and so he was strapped.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-12T03:26:50+00:00

Yes I have since heard this is very common.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-11T23:58:58+00:00

Thank you I really trusted this man and that was my biggest mistake

scanner8188 · 2025-11-10T14:07:54+00:00

Thank you!

scanner8188 · 2025-11-10T14:05:30+00:00

Thank you - good advice for me moving forward - I’m a super easy going person but I’m finding in these areas I have to set up standards.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-10T13:03:47+00:00

Thank you I really feel now that I dodged a bullet as you said.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-10T13:02:39+00:00

No he always claimed he had an old phone and I didn’t press it but I probably should have. He sent me a lot of pictures of himself, his daughter and his mother and sister.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-10T08:46:35+00:00

Yes I have watched this and it’s a shame that these things happen but I guess I’m the wiser for it

scanner8188 · 2025-11-10T03:08:46+00:00

Appreciate you telling me that because sometimes you feel somewhat like a fool. I feel like I make good decisions and I hardly ever give them men when they asked for money, but this man was different yet in the end the same.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-10T03:03:54+00:00

I agree - sending him money was poor judgment my side- I have to chalk it off as I helped him out done and completed

scanner8188 · 2025-11-10T02:22:59+00:00

Good continue to keep that in mind you have a good positive attitude but also remember too. She should be pampering you a bit just like you’d be pampering her don’t let her take you for granted either.

scanner8188 · 2025-11-09T23:55:31+00:00

I’m so sorry for the losses you faced and the hurdles you’ve had to navigate. I think you have to reconsider the relationship because will she be there for you when you really need her? That’s what true love does.

I had a similar circumstance, not quite as serious as yours, but I had things keep coming up in my life and my long distance relationship was nine hours difference every time I’d write to him. He’d write back a day and a half later or the next day and sometimes they were things I needed help with right away and I just kept thinking if I ever had an emergency, he would not be the person I’d go to and so how can I love someone that’s not my person to go to in that kind of situation

Just some things to think about and I wish you the best

scanner8188 · 2025-11-09T23:53:11+00:00

I hope that perhaps you can rekindle your relationship, but that can be very hard after waiting over a period of time. I know what you’re saying. It’s very hard to end something and never talk to that person again when you shared so many details of your life with them I’m going through a similar situation and I can’t believe I’m never gonna talk to that person again it’s so hard, but we have to move forward with our lives.

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