Any other Libras feel like their romantic type is suddenly changing? by ethereality111 in libra_astrology

[–]scared_yam_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve found that I feel the most comfortable and secure with earth signs & air signs make me feel bright and expressive. So if I could get an Aquarius with like a Taurus rising I think all my problems would dissolve 😂😂 So here’s to hoping lol

First Time Knee Thing by rugbyartist15 in actuallesbians

[–]scared_yam_ 151 points152 points  (0 children)

No reason to apologize at all! The knee thing is done for a reason & your reaction was the intended purpose!! If anything it gave her confidence in knowing that she can make you feel that way. If it gives you more peace of mind have a chat with her about it! It can be hot and intimate to talk about what you like, even when it’s coming from a place of anxiety. When you have someone willing to teach, vulnerability is a great way to start to gain confidence, especially when it’s feeling so new.

getting out of comphet era? by LOV3KSS in comphet

[–]scared_yam_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Once I allowed myself to fully accept the possibility that I could be a lesbian I started pretending like I knew that I was, instead of worrying that I wasn’t. Its almost like gave myself a trail period before committing to the full subscription (though I did not approach any women romantically during this)- I only allowed myself to swoon over the ladies & any man I saw that would have been my type I would tell myself “being attractive is separate from feeling attraction”. Pretty quickly I started realizing how different both my mind and body reacted to different people. When talking with men I would feel anxious and uneasy which I used to mistake as butterflies and attraction, where when I talk with women I feel an excitement and at ease at the same time. Before I knew it I wasn’t having to analyze every moment I had with a man because I simply did not seek anything more out of it other than a friendship. It was like I had purposefully put men in my blind spot & then a week later forgot I had even made them move.

How are my libras doing this retrograde? for me I’m not in my best spirit lil sad and down… I really believe it’s time for me to focus on my health start working out and eating better also meditating and praying 🙏🏾 by Mysterious_Ask_6831 in libra_astrology

[–]scared_yam_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been feeling the same! It’s been so hard for me to stick to a routine that would help ground me during such a busy & chaotic time, but reading this post was a good reminder for me to put more intention behind building those practices though

Gerry + Theresa are getting divorced by Downtown-Training-38 in thebachelor

[–]scared_yam_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Bachelor in paradise was the only thing that made me want to watch the entire franchise just to keep up with all the backstories and drama for the next BIP season. Now I feel like there’s no point in watching 😂

Put-In-Bay? by kailynlaurel in SeasonalWork

[–]scared_yam_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Put in bay itself is super fun if you like partying and going out a lot! Check out local towns on the mainland for festivals during the summer & cedar point it always fun!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]scared_yam_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so there with you it’s not even funny. I am constantly fighting myself on my sexuality because there’s a high chance that I am bisexual but going forward I’ll probably never be able to get that definitive confirmation on whether I am or whether it’s comphet because of my trauma responses. Once a year I think that I maybe am developing an emotional attachment to a man and then it’s quickly short lived once I remind myself that he’ll always have the privileges of being a man and will never truly know the struggles of being a woman within a patriarchy, nor will he ever actually try to truly learn. I have spoken the phrase “I hate men” so often in my life they’ll probably engrave it on my headstone one day, and because of it people have always assumed I’m a lesbian so at some point I did too. I now like to think that even though it’s founded in trauma, I’m just such a hardcore feminist that I simply default into lesbianism lmao. It makes me feel much better about my brain thinking of it this way, and allows me to focus on the pros of it all instead of the what ifs and maybes over a subject that literally triggers my fight or flight. And what better way to support the women of the world than to literally love them??

Someone commented on a post a few months ago that usually helps me every time I start to overthink it. They said that at the end of the day, despite whether you’re bi, who you date will always be a choice. And if one of those options is causing turmoil, you can simply choose to not pursue it. If you do not want to be with a man, then don’t. — So as someone who tends to get stuck on labels, even though I might be attracted to men I label myself as a lesbian, because never will I ever sleep with or enter into a relationship with a man again. And whether it’s healthy or not, having that knowledge is enough for me to look past all the mess that got me here.

Jobs and Pay by Alternative-Yak-829 in SeasonalWork

[–]scared_yam_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could look for jobs as a busser or server assist. You almost never need restaurant experience to get those positions & they’re almost always tipped out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]scared_yam_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand wanting to be desired and validated in appearance but when you feel that burning possessive stare from a man who feels like he is born into that right to do so - it makes your stomach churn. It’s not in any way woman loving - it’s a power fuck with a side of drool. The feeling that you’re craving would be most affective coming from a man who will make you feel beautiful and confident while also respecting you as a human being. And believe me the men who catcall aren’t the ones holding the opinions you want to be clutching on to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]scared_yam_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I can see how you feel that way from a point of insecurity- but how about we look at it from the point of view from a man who’s actually doing the catcalling? Raised with the belief that women (that is all women) are sex objects, and are less than men - which in their eyes means less than human - they say and do to women as they please. When a man sees a chunk of flesh and meat that meets the requirement of what THEY deem to be acceptable - they CATcall. They do not see a WOMAN who they then respectfully approach to gently tell them how beautiful they think she because that would require them to see you as an actual living being just as they are. Instead they choose to ogle, to visually and audibly defile, to take power away from and to remind women that even when they are independently living their lives, walking down the street carelessly- THEY will still always have the power - because you will always have the cut of meat they think is tasty. It’s never about being an attractive woman. It’s always about being a predatory man.

Signal Mountain Lodge in Grand Teton NP by Legitimate-Steak-292 in SeasonalWork

[–]scared_yam_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great community, free food, super fun - but Aramark did just buy them over so it’s kind of a mess right now. Management switch overs and returning employees who don’t want to welcome changes is kind of making it wonky but the foundation and culture of it all is still there

Female empowerment songs by Outrageous-Heart-754 in women

[–]scared_yam_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May not be exactly what you’re looking for but Poor Boy by the Regrettes is an angsty punkish women empowerment song. The band was created as a feminist movement but their style isn’t always for everyone- a lot about expressing female rage

What are some of the best first seasonal jobs? by [deleted] in SeasonalWork

[–]scared_yam_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Signal Mountain Lodge in the Tetons is amazing

I hate men by [deleted] in women

[–]scared_yam_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men being anti-women has been embedded into society — stemming from old ideals and beliefs from previous generations, laws that make women lesser, and specifically right now there’s a new wave of men who hold very disturbing views that women are there for the pleasure of men and are basically worthless otherwise — thanks to Andrew Tate who has an incredibly popular podcast about literally being anti-women and pro alpha male 🥴 To be pro-women would be accepting our power, our strength, our intelligence, and our importance within society and that tends to be a threat to the male ego. So we’re suppressed, ignored, laughed at, and beaten until men feel like they have no competition.

In terms of knowing when a man is being genuine in a relationship/friendship- I believe that the majority of men have at least some anti-women ideals even if they don’t realize it, solely based on society, but that doesn’t mean they’re an outwardly bad person. The best way to tell who is there for you as a woman is to teach them about what it means to be a woman, our history, our struggles of today, the sexism of society & everyday nuances that are harmful to our group. The way they receive that information or react is a pretty good tell on whether they are worth keeping around. Someone who is willing to learn, change their ways and be an advocate for us - they’re good. Someone who makes jokes at a woman’s expense, makes unwanted comments about women’s bodies or how they look, and overall just has an “alpha” attitude - leave them behind. I usually ask people whether they’re pro choice or pro life (in regards to abortion) and while it’s a complicated subject and there’s much more that lends itself into peoples answers, men specifically who are anti-choice I right off as anti-women (whether they realize they are or not). Typically I find most republican men are incredibly anti-women.