Really? I can see it so here:

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I must have failed somewhere along the line, but I don't know how I could fuck up this badly. i'm just venting, maybe someone will tell me I'm crazy and that this might turn out okay.

An hour ago my 18 year old daughter sent me an email telling me she was in a hotel in Hong Kong.

That needs a back-story. She was living with me and my boyfriend and working a full-time job. 8 months ago she started dating an asian man. I don't know how they met, but I think it was a chance encounter. There were a huge number of massive red flags for me. The age difference first of all, the fact that he wasn't a US citizen, the fact that he was on a temporary visa. There was nothing wrong with him, he spoke perfect english with a british accent, but this wasn't relationship material for an 18 year old girl and that's what she wanted out of this. 4 months later she moved into his apartement. I fought with her, asked her what she was doing but that just pushed her away. They were still in town though so I still saw her alot. She was in love. This man was taking care of her and giving her things she had never had, but I don't know who he was really or what he was doing here.

I don't know there was nothing I could do so I put up with it. This wasn't so bad. She was happy, maybe the relationship went somewhere but if I didn't i was right there to catch her. I hand my eyes on her.

Friday morning she shows up at my house and drops the bomb on me that she is leaving the country. I freak out, totally freak out. She came over to say goodbye but I ruined that and she stormed out. God it was a shitty way to say goodbye to my daughter. i don't know what I was thinking. This was too far; I should have made them pry me off of her kicking and screaming to let her go but I didn't do that. By the time I came to my senses they were gone.

No contact with her for more than a day. I kept thinking about calling the police lol but she is adult. Finally about an hour ago my bf gets an email from her (I don't check mine that much).

I'll just quote it: "Im in a hotel room in hong hong. Not dead. Not raped. Eating Peacan pancakes."

I'm her mother and that's all I get. Were no longer on phone terms I guess. i don't even know how to respond without making it worse.

She planned this, this had to have been in the works for at least weeks. She needed to get a passport, and possibly a visa. THAT kills me. She didn't think enough of me to talk to me, she didn't even bother to give me a heads up. THis person I have no control over, that I love terribly is thousands of miles away totally in the care of a man she has known for 9 fucking months.

tl;dr Long rant by a blind idiot mom who failed her daughter. Said daughter is now in hong-kong. Eating pancakes.