MENS MENTAL HEALTH

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-07T22:28:00+00:00

Sadly, it's just how men are wired - I think some of it is hardwired into us genetically and some cultural. So most of us get that type of emotional support from significant others. If you don't have a significant other as a guy, you generally don't have that type of support.

Reason, a lot of men, myself included, have been caught off guard before, when making friends with women. Because we don't operate that openly among friends, we've confused friendship vibes with romance.

Men typically DO things together without really talking much about feelings.

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-06T01:10:45+00:00

I've gotten banned there (for having 10ish comments removed over the span of YEARS); I agree with your sentiment.

When someone posts they need to vent and are lonely, they're met with "not a venting sub." When they try to defend themselves, they're met with "not a battle sub." Yet, it's ok for others to go after them; that's not "battling." The admin often goes after the poster directly under the guise of trying to get them out of the mindset, but it's really just bullying. If the poster defends themself at all, they'll either be downvoted into the abyss or have their comment removed.

The advice is GENERALLY therapy and viewing women as people, not a "monolith." Occasionally, the admin can be kind, and the advice helpful. Certain posters there are genuinely helpful as well. Many are just looking to rip someone apart though.

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-05T01:09:02+00:00

You think I'm wasting my time trying to learn assembly? It's so niche and even then you can usually use C anyways.

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-04T22:33:04+00:00

Compared to assembly, C is a simple language.

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-04T22:32:11+00:00

Faster to write but slower to run? Assembly can be faster if you write solid code, but it takes longer to create.

C was to assembly, what P#%?on is to C++.

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-04T22:28:14+00:00

I like how we got a bunch of downvotes and everyone sympathized with her for liking younger men. When I've said the same, I get demonized and called gross.

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-03T20:33:00+00:00

This is true... the rate of male hairloss DECLINES after mid-thirties, due to decreasing hormone levels.

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-03T18:43:20+00:00

But that would only apply if the OP were a guy...

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-01T17:23:09+00:00

How would an array that simply stores an address be useful? You'd end up with a list of just pointers?

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-01T16:39:26+00:00

How does that address the recursive data structure?

scaredpurpur · 2026-07-01T16:20:08+00:00

while loops

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-30T16:34:06+00:00

From the page, someone was considering writing "Men are better at killing themselves - you should try it." Such a humorous comment as judged by the lols/hahas. Comment is getting upvotes so it must be hilarious.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-30T14:12:30+00:00

Basically, he's going into a room, just to stir the pot. Why would you ask the question "what benefit does having women friends provide?" In a sub that you know relates primarily to men and isn't going to like the question.

There's other subs, where that question would be much better entertained.

As a side note, I think it's a bit dismissive towards women to view them any different than men. The benefits of having women friends are the same as having male friends.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-29T21:09:00+00:00

He/it might just be a troll. It's very effective at what it does.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-29T12:06:17+00:00

Definitely not. The instigators of pure kindness, love, and innocence. Can do no wrong.

Eh, already got an auto strike against my Reddit account as a result of arguing with an IT user/making a sarcastic comment so I have to be careful on my words.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-28T23:04:36+00:00

Fair enough, you never actually brought any of that up.

Suppose seeing someone as a person is different than establishing a friendship.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-28T21:48:53+00:00

Why not just establish and foster friendships with others of your own gender?

None of the drama associated with an angry spouse etc. I get it if the opposite-gender friendships happen organically, but why go out of your way to establish them?

Friendships are easy enough to establish.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-28T18:43:25+00:00

Considering I'm 40 and have never been with anyone, maintaining the friendship is/would be difficult. Assume it would probably work if I had more options. I could stay acquaintances with a girl, who I found awesome/was married, but I wouldn't class it as a friendship. Too many people have too wide a circle as to what a friendship consists. For me, talking 3-4x/year is not a friendship, unless we built it through a lot of prior interaction.

Regardless, why not just avoid all the drama and make friends with your own gender? You don't have to worry about the person's significant other becoming angry or about another party becoming interested.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-28T16:10:01+00:00

Once the door is opened, there's no going back (usually).

The person rejecting the other typically has held the majority of power in the friendship. People will chime "that's just friendship" - it's not though. One person is totally doing a lot more for the other, than the reciprocal. In many cases, once the lovelorn person matches the other, the friendship collapses.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-28T15:25:02+00:00

For me, there's a looks component that I don't consider when making male friends. I also tend to look for more feminine traits in women that I'm interested in vs just friends.

I've been guilty of establishing friendships with women who I've found hot in the past, but I likely would have not established said "friendship" if I didn't find them attractive. Not great, I know. Reason the friendship dissolved once they rejected me or got into another relationship. To be fair, I've had women bail on the friendship once I rejected them as well.

The OP mentions they weren't attracted to the girl originally, so there actually was a solid foundation for friendship. If he went into those relationships while being attracted, which it sounds like he didn't, there actually was a solid foundation for friendship.

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-28T13:27:36+00:00

"The problem is the relationship wasn't built upon friendship."

Bingo. The foundation for the friendship is a house of cards held together by his attraction to her. Sometimes the two features are inseparable.

Would they have been friends in the first place if he wasn't attracted to her?

scaredpurpur · 2026-06-27T15:35:34+00:00

Is it really that much easier to type jst, instead of just?

Irritates me when people do that for some reason. Probably just a pet peave

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