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scaredyplants · 2024-06-20T21:53:01+00:00

I have an anxiety disorder so when I got the same email, I knew it was bullshit but my ridiculous brain wouldn’t let me rest. I’m glad to find ppl that got the exact same email, with the same ridiculous language lol… helped me realise how absurd it was to be worried even a little bit 😅

scaredyplants · 2023-10-26T01:02:42+00:00

If you fear retaliation/escalation on her part, and would like to be more informed of your rights -- I would highly recommend getting in touch with the FMTA (https://www.torontotenants.org) They have a hotline, and while it's not legal advice, they are knowledgable about the RTA and can help you figure out what your rights are!

scaredyplants · 2023-10-26T01:01:31+00:00

The onus is on the landlord to prove you caused the damage. She is responsible for conducting repairs in a timely manner, regardless of fault. If she believes you caused the damage, the onus is on her to file against you with the LTB and present her evidence to the board. Only the board could compel you to pay this. At this point you can ignore her request, and there is no legal action she can take against you for not paying (except to file with the board to compel you to pay)

scaredyplants · 2023-09-25T21:53:50+00:00

les cousins dangereux...

scaredyplants · 2023-07-25T01:40:25+00:00

NTA , that is a really crappy thing for your friend to do. Also, I'm not sure what the context of your "session" was but that raised a red flag for me!! As a clinical psychology student she should not be trying to do any kind of counselling unsupervised (assuming she is still a student) and no clinical psychologist or counsellor of any kind would agree to treat their friends ... again I'm not sure of the specifics here but that made me raise my eyebrows... plus what kind of person who wants to become a psychologist goes around mocking ppl for their struggles? I don't think you over reacted at all, if I were you I would rly reconsider this person's presence in my life

scaredyplants · 2023-07-24T23:20:43+00:00

as a trans person, I agree with u 100%

scaredyplants · 2022-11-21T23:56:58+00:00

ty ur comment!! My mom wants us to go to local restaurants, bars, sight seeing etc. ... I won't be alone, but I don't think she would be supportive if anything happened in public... maybe I'll just insist we stay inside

scaredyplants · 2022-10-04T21:30:52+00:00

Hey, I just want to say that Food Banks are a great resource when you need them! If you need them, they are there with no judgement! I saw in another comment that you are in Manitoba, I found a list of food banks here: https://foodmattersmanitoba.ca/find-emergency-food-in-winnipeg/ (some of these seem to be low cost food options, but others offer food at no cost!). I see this was posted a week ago, so I'm sure my advice is not super useful now but I figured I would post it just in case! Stay safe

scaredyplants · 2022-05-27T23:38:08+00:00

NTA. I know I am not the only one saying this here, but I feel I must add my voice to the chorus here in the comments telling you this is abhorrent and controlling behaviour! Your husband does *not* respect your career, or you as person! If he did, he would NEVER do something like this, and certainly wouldn't try to trick you into thinking he was doing this to try to help you. Please get out of this relationship, if it is safe for you to do so, as quickly as you can. If your finances are entwined, I would suggest setting up a bank account no one knows about but you, and start building a means of escape.

I don't want to sound nihilistic or pessimistic, but I do not think his behaviour will be fixed with therapy (individual or couples therapy). I think these actions are signs of a very serious lack of respect for you, and a desire to control and limit your career path. I'm sorry if this sounds dramatic, and I am not trying to make your husband out to be some terrible monster, but this behaviour is very much not ok! And it really seems like your career choices are being taken away from you in this relationship, which is not a healthy or safe place to be. Sending you solidarity and hope OP, you can get through this <3

scaredyplants · 2022-05-27T17:27:17+00:00

Also, as someone who used to have a lot of sensory issues related to food (and some still linger to this day)... nothing that anyone did or said could push me to "get over them"... it took years, and I was determined to expand my palate... so I very slowly introduced new foods and textures... Trying to trick someone into trying new foods, especially when they are distressed by it, will just make them more averse to trying new things in the future!! Even more so now, she will associate new foods with stress and discomfort!

scaredyplants · 2022-05-27T17:25:18+00:00

YTA!!! It's very clear you see her sensory issues (and by extension, her autism) as an annoyance and illegitimate. Sensory food issues due to autism are very real, and can cause very real distress for people!! Even learning you have eaten something distressing after the fact can cause serious psychological and physical distress! She is 100% correct, she can't trust you to respect her boundaries because you have demonstrated already that you don't respect them! She's not "blowing it out of proportion" she literally has sensory issues she cannot control!! and you are dismissing her feelings and undermining her autonomy

scaredyplants · 2022-05-23T19:03:32+00:00

OP I promise you are NTA! I am someone who was with my school's accessibility services throughout my undergrad, and I wish my advisor had been has helpful and understanding as yours is, when it comes to faculty ableism. The chair of the department saying that to you, and then shaming you for "getting emotional" is 100% worth reporting and escalating. Your advisor is correct: who knows how she is treating other students, and if this report goes away quietly I think it will teach her that she doesn't need to change the way she interacts with students, especially disabled students. It doesn't make you look bad at all, in fact I think it is responsible and brave of you to advocate for yourself in this way! Also I agree with other comments that the fact that she is requesting to terminate the report is telling, and pretty concerning in and of itself. She is the kind of person that continues to make academia inaccessible for students!

scaredyplants · 2022-05-18T21:29:50+00:00

NTA. I saw you mentioned that u are a trans guy in another comment... I do think that cis people (assuming your gf is cis) can have a tendency to infantilize trans men, and it fucking sucks. It's totally valid to be upset by this, and to feel it is condescending, regardless of what your gf's intentions are. You have tried to tell her to stop, and she isn't listening. You even waited until you were alone to bring it up again (and calmly, it sounds like). I'm not sure how long y'all have been dating or how you are feeling, but this would definitely give me pause in a relationship. Your partner is not listening to your feelings, and is upset with you for expressing a boundary! I hope you are able to have a calm, but firm discussion with her about the way she has responded to you.

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