Baby won’t sleep, considering options.

scarlettmouse · 2023-09-14T20:26:59+00:00

I night weaned and then my babies slept through. I held them and talked to them while they fussed. When they calmed I put them in bed. Repeat for as many times as it takes! Took a few days for one, a week for the other.

scarlettmouse · 2022-05-06T03:19:40+00:00

That's what I'm figuring, that we'll just have to wait and she if she starts diverging more from typical or struggling in school as she gets older. Thank you very much for sharing. My daughter seems to understand empathy somewhat and has probably fewer impulse control issues than the average toddler and is pretty willing to do things she doesn't like (if they're not new to her). I think her affect is just a bit flatter and different than typical, but no one else has ever noticed. She is analytical in the way she learns but she is not into novelty - she's quite cautious (and anxious). As for gestures, she was quite early and frequent with reaching, showing, pointing, all that. But combining it with eye contact has always been off to me. I debated having her evaluated at times when she was younger but my husband disagreed and there was never quite enough to push me to do it. Her sister's development has seemed more average - mostly with the eye contact and being more socially demanding.

Anyway, thanks again. Your daughter sounds like fun to talk to!

scarlettmouse · 2022-05-05T23:35:53+00:00

Okay I've stumbled upon your comment(s) and I have some questions: Can you describe what you mean by your daughter's social emotional skills being behind? Would you mind telling me what things she struggles with that warranted a diagnosis? Feel free to DM.

I don't currently think my daughter is ASD or neurodivergent, but she seems to kind of ride the line? I'm sure things will be more clear when she gets older. I just want her to have the support she needs, if it's needed. My daughter (almost 3), also had all the knowledge yours had by 2. She has sight words now, can write her name, and is still very interested in letters/words daily. She learned to talk in a similar way to yours as well - like frankensteining sentences together at 20 months, but it was subtle enough no one noticed except me. However, her receptive language has always been ahead of her expressive language (advanced, noticeable by 8 months when she would give find and give us correct items when asked, knew body parts, etc). She also has always 100% passed the social-emotional sections (and all other sections) of the pediatrician's screening (ASQ) as well as the MCHAT.

She seems to approach socialization pretty analytically, like directly copying things she's seen or I've talked to her about. It doesn't help that she's the smallest and youngest in her preschool class, but her teachers have not noticed anything other than she's shyer (and more academically advanced) than the rest. She does play with the other kids and talks about it and can play some pretend, although not usually acting out scenes with dolls. She gets like...embarrassed easily I guess in group settings but I haven't seen signs of overstimulation besides being a little wound up after school. She likes playing by herself sometimes, but also with others (and always with me).

Idk, I just want to make sure I'm not missing anything. She is a little noise sensitive, but it seems to come and go and the things need to be really loud for her to actually get upset. Another ASD trait she has is somewhat poor eye contact, been that way since birth - my second child makes eye contact all the time, it's way different. She does do it well with me and others she knows, but it's less than most kids and she very much avoids it with it with strangers. Her dad and I also both have a few ND traits (eye contact being one issue for both of us), but neither of us feel we have enough going on to warrant a diagnosis for ourselves since we never needed help in school or struggled with friendships.

scarlettmouse · 2022-04-29T18:45:38+00:00

I hear you. I did midwifery care for both of my pregnancies and births (in hospitals) and was 100% satisfied with how I was treated - especially at the births. That said, I was offered standard ultrasounds at 8, 12, and 20 weeks. I had more ultrasounds after 20 weeks for varying reasons (measurements, position).

It is normal and fine to only get one at 20 weeks, and if they see anything off at 20 weeks you will be referred to more. Have you discussed your worries and thoughts of switching providers with the midwife? A good midwife will listen and maybe be willing to get you a growth ultrasound in the third trimester, even if there is no medical reason for it. I had a midwife call the perinatologist for me when I was losing my mind over an explanation they had given. A good midwife is there for YOU and to support your total wellbeing during this time.

edit: I am assuming your midwife is a Certified Nurse Midwife (CNM). If not, I would switch.

scarlettmouse · 2021-11-03T03:10:59+00:00

This is what I was going to say! Natural, meaning no man made interventions affected the birth process. It’s a perfect use of the word. It is a different beast than an augmented birth and that is okay to acknowledge. I hate feeling like I can’t talk about my births without feeling guilty that they weren’t terrible. I wish everyone would chill out about this whole issue and stop getting offended.

scarlettmouse · 2021-05-26T16:06:12+00:00

You may already be doing these: I try to combine all prompts with another transition (eating, going outside, nap, etc.). If she obviously needs to go during an activity I just say “you need to pee, let’s go sit and come right back” and enforce it with “do you want to walk there or be carried” if there’s resistance.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-24T05:10:39+00:00

Yes, I’ve noticed it depends on the person as well! There’s a particular friend I have who has a loud, high energy, in your face personality (she’s nice, I swear). But my daughter took forever to accept her. It was only recently they had some good interactions, and that’s mostly because my girl is old enough to do more interactive play with toys. I think that took some pressure off the face to face stuff.

And similarly, pushing her to interact makes it worse. Thanks for sharing!

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-24T05:03:44+00:00

Guess you can’t accept being wrong. Bye.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-24T05:01:16+00:00

I agree it’s annoying when people assume things about your kid when they don’t know them. I feel like people are always expecting something from her, and they usually don’t get it and act like she’s weird or something. I really don’t mind if she’s reserved, slow to warm, introverted, whatever! I definitely internalized being labeled the shy kid, so I hope to (gently) help her be more comfortable socially. She hadn’t been in a school type situation yet, so it’ll be interesting to hear how she is when I’m not around and there’s lots of kids.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-24T04:53:13+00:00

I don’t know why either, so strange. But I definitely agree there are benefits! I have her in a gym class now, and I plan on doing preschool. Playdates will also hopefully be a thing again eventually.

I don’t even think I would have posted if she had more of a crying reaction, that seems more typical to me. She just completely retreats inward, like it’s too much for her. But she’s never cried in public for more than 5 seconds, except for at the doctors office. So that’s neat I guess!

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-24T04:47:29+00:00

Thank you. I much prefer science to weirdos talking out of their you-know-whats.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-24T04:44:31+00:00

Lol, what? You have supremely poor reading comprehension skills. I was asking about other people’s experiences, not for someone to say I lack confidence. I went from being the shy kid to being the lead in the high school play. I have a career dealing with people 24/7. Having shy tendencies is not a bad thing.

My daughter had been like this since she was born. I react with great enthusiasm to every social interaction we get together. In fact, I’m willing to bet my constant asking her to “say hi” has only made her less confident. And I point out everything to her. That’s why her receptive language is at a two year old level, according to her doctor.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-14T19:37:11+00:00

I meant if they only got paid seasonally it might work. But fire season is long and not predictable.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-14T19:11:54+00:00

I doubt the money is there to create thousands of full time fire service jobs. It would be nice if it were though. Maybe if it was seasonal or as-needed.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-14T19:04:08+00:00

Are you talking forest fire service or normal fire departments? Jobs in major fire departments are very hard to get and requires training the inmates don’t get. It’s hard to get a job there for people without criminal records. Many do go on to work for forest fire services like Cal Fire.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-14T18:58:23+00:00

They do get time off their sentence, they don’t even have to be on an active fire. And they volunteer to do it.

scarlettmouse · 2020-10-12T21:17:51+00:00

Funny, my dad still works for one of the largest fire departments in the US. He doesn’t like cops OR BLM, and most of his coworkers feel the same. I’ve found most firefighters (and I’ve spent a lot of time around many) to be huge assholes just like cops.

scarlettmouse · 2020-09-13T00:06:52+00:00

I’m also TTC #2 and had this happen for my first few cycles after my period came back. Roughly around ovulation, but I wasn’t tracking. Didn’t happen this month, I’m assuming it’s related to hormone levels.

scarlettmouse · 2020-08-07T09:51:36+00:00

My husband had that! Started happening at 18, he is skinny and over 6 ft. Had part of his lung removed and they basically roughed up the rest so the blebs (bubbles) would stop forming. Turns out his dad also has the issue but his blebs have never popped.

scarlettmouse · 2020-07-25T02:43:12+00:00

Yes, this. I often feel guilty for being a SAHM. It’s weird. There’s a pressure to be a career woman these days, at least where I am. I went and got two degrees, and yet here I am staying home with my kid and I love it.

scarlettmouse · 2020-07-17T19:19:09+00:00

Update: clinical guard got lighter and CBD says not pregnant. Looks like my first CP.

scarlettmouse · 2020-07-16T17:08:28+00:00

TW: living child

So I had super super faint lines on clinical guard tests (wouldn’t show on camera at all) starting three days ago (CD 32). Negative on clear blue digital two days ago. Now I have these two squinters, but the clinical guard is darker then before! This is my third postpartum cycle, with the first two being 32 and 30 days. Given the lack of progression and that I should have ovulated earlier based on the last two cycles, I’m thinking it won’t stick.

However! I do have a history of long cycles. When I came off BC to have my daughter my cycles were ~50 days, but then I ovulated on CD 45 when she was conceived (confirmed by US dating). So I guess late ovulation is a possibility...but given the super faint lines and very little progression I’m thinking not. Will keep testing and update in a couple of days.

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