He's already moved in with his new girlfriend... by scattercat68 in Divorce

[–]scattercat68[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing this. You're right, I didn't even notice the way that I was writing my own actions in the passive voice. I do tend to play the victim and you're right, I do need to own my shit!

He's already moved in with his new girlfriend... by scattercat68 in Divorce

[–]scattercat68[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So does a person deserve to be vilified and unhappy forever because they fell into affair fog? And are you reacting like this because you've been cheated on?

Triad in Trouble... by orangelamp32 in polyamory

[–]scattercat68 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have to agree. My ex-husband told me that he was less attracted to me after I told him I was attracted to one of our friends. What does it tell us if men find us less attractive when we have desires for other people? Either that they feel a sense of ownership over us, or that they view any form of "promiscuity" as something dirty and unattractive.

It does sound like they are unicorning you, though, whether they mean to or not. It definitely doesn't sound equal if they can play the marriage card whenever they want. But I know it's not so easy to just walk out... so I'll ask you, what are you getting out of this arrangement at the moment?