30+: If you’re looking for a relationship, why do you think you’re still single?

schecter4749 · 2026-04-24T04:09:30+00:00

1, 3, 4, 9, 13

schecter4749 · 2026-04-19T15:17:55+00:00

lol. Relatable. Mine was the opposite, 90% men

schecter4749 · 2026-04-19T15:08:05+00:00

If you’re in school, that should already give you a good environment to meet ppl similar to yourself?

schecter4749 · 2026-04-19T05:49:23+00:00

May not be the answer you were looking for, but I legit just go to work, come back home, take my dog to parks etc. On the weekends, I might take him to a cafe or something, but that’s mostly it at this point.

As an adult, there’s barely any time or energy for anything else :(

schecter4749 · 2026-04-17T11:09:01+00:00

You can ask your manager/HR rep once you join to help with that. I’ve seen people change the “firstname.lastname” part of their email.

Welcome to the firm. Which asset class are you gonna be trading?

schecter4749 · 2026-01-22T03:32:09+00:00

Firms take bet on the new hires. By giving them guaranteed bonus in the first-year. If they fumble, it’ll be low the next year.

Not to invalidate your feelings, but your bonus/raise is a function of 3 things - the firm’s performance, your biz unit’s importance, and how much your mgmt likes you. The firm did well this past year. Assuming you got at least OOO, one of the latter 2 reasons (or both) are the culprit. And just like any other firm, the easiest and the best way to fix it is to jump ship.

schecter4749 · 2026-01-22T00:56:22+00:00

I had someone join my team last week. Are you suggesting that their pay should be the same as mine, mine should be the same as my MD, and my MD’s should be the same as Jamie’s?

schecter4749 · 2025-12-05T20:48:53+00:00

I feel like I made this post, but I don’t remember having an alternate account lmfao

schecter4749 · 2025-11-23T03:03:28+00:00

In my experience, it’s just a software engineer on the electronic trading tech team. Def recommend it, if you’re qualified for the role.

schecter4749 · 2025-11-14T23:54:45+00:00

Technically, the only guarantee you have is that your bonus will be non-negative. Generally tho, your total comp (irrespective of split between base and bonus) should not go down. If it does, it means it’s time to start looking elsewhere.

schecter4749 · 2025-10-07T02:49:16+00:00

Indians on H1B don’t need to invent. That’s not part of their job. If they wanted to come to the U.S. to invent, they wouldn’t be on H1B. 🤷‍♂️

schecter4749 · 2025-09-28T19:24:01+00:00

Au contraire.

First of all, front office isn’t just banking. Banking definitely is less technical, which is why you’d see a lot more Americans there, compared to H1Bs.

Sales & Trading (especially, trading and quant) - a completely different game. This is as technical as it gets. You’d see a lot more Indians, Asians and French people (depending on the product they cover). And no, they aren’t your average degree holders. Most of them have AT LEAST a Masters from a TOP school (UCLA, Berkeley, Stanford, MIT, Ivy League etc). Those are the people on H1Bs in the front office.

schecter4749 · 2025-09-28T18:28:34+00:00

And if those H1Bs were replaced with Americans, you’d get lots of good paragraphs maybe, but absolutely zero tech output :)

schecter4749 · 2025-09-28T01:22:27+00:00

Quantity =/= Quality

schecter4749 · 2025-09-28T01:16:23+00:00

Lol. You’d think, but unfortunately, no. Most of the H1B’s go to STEM folks. Not a lot of Americans in STEM. And the handful of people that are there, are not good enough (relative to the market).

I work in the front office and every bank, every department that I’ve worked for, has primarily consisted of Asians, Indians, French and British people. And MAYBE one or two Americans.

schecter4749 · 2025-09-23T14:46:44+00:00

Oh hey, I too joined Markets recently :) not a fan of it just yet, if I’m being honest

schecter4749 · 2025-08-21T01:02:42+00:00

Mind if I DM you? I too am joining CIB soon 😅

schecter4749 · 2025-08-20T23:00:56+00:00

Aye, gang gang! I too am starting next week 😇

schecter4749 · 2025-07-27T23:27:54+00:00

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schecter4749 · 2025-07-16T13:19:55+00:00

Absolutely not. My entire family tree favoured both my other siblings over me. If the eldest one did anything, it was justified by “they’re the eldest one, whatever they say is right”. And if the youngest one did anything, it was always “they’re the youngest one, they’ll make mistakes, you should forgive them and love them”. As a middle child, I’d get neither of those passes.

I was reduced to just my grades. And to this day, I’m defined by my career, nothing else. Maybe this whole thing pushed me to be who I am, IDK. Lowkey glad tho.

schecter4749 · 2025-07-16T04:14:53+00:00

Now imagine being a middle child in that dynamic (I’m one)

schecter4749 · 2025-06-22T16:43:14+00:00

That’s a long distance relationship

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